I was DENIED- best way to handle it?

[King Bowls]

I'm kind of in disbelief but happy for you. Maybe you will get to see if that new credit card is good for buying tickets to Germany.

 

I sure hope it either works out or ends peacefully. At the end of the day though, meeting someone in person is totally different than meeting on a site like Facebook or something similar. So even if this blew up in my face, the fact remains it could have been a totally different outcome if we somehow met in person.

 

Also, if she were to start messaging me, there are two concerns of mine

1. If we did that for weeks and go to know each other, blah blah blah, is there EVER a point we could say, dare I say, friends?

 

2. Let's say we talk from the start of May into June or so, is it likely she'll get upset that the entire "relationship" consists of messaging (or heck why not try skype)? I think this scenario could result in it leading to a crossroad, and possibly coming to an end. If that situation comes, what do I do?

 

I know I'm probably dreaming a bit above ^ and getting ahead of myself, but it's best to have an idea of a solution before hand rather than be a deer in the headlights and get blindsided.

[TheyCallMeOx]

When a woman rejects you, consider it a gift.

 

She could've played you along. She could've gone on a date with you, got a free meal out of you, left you with blue balls, etc. Instead, she had the decency to give you closure immediately by directly/indirectly saying "I'm not interested." When a woman tells you she isn't interested, she gives you closure: this means that there is no more uncertainty. When you pursue women, you pursue them because there's a possibility of something happening. Getting denied helps you get rid of that possibility, so you can pick yourself back up and try again on a different woman.

 

What she did might've hurt you, but it's very respectable. I'd rather get denied upfront than have her build me up thinkin' I'm about to screw the heck outta this woman, only to have her say over a text message the next day "I'm not interested." Then I would've basically wasted X amount of time/money on this woman, when it could've been spent better on someone or somewhere else.

[King Bowls]

When a woman rejects you, consider it a gift.

 

She could've played you along. She could've gone on a date with you, got a free meal out of you, left you with blue balls, etc. Instead, she had the decency to give you closure immediately by directly/indirectly saying "I'm not interested." When a woman tells you she isn't interested, she gives you closure: this means that there is no more uncertainty. When you pursue women, you pursue them because there's a possibility of something happening. Getting denied helps you get rid of that possibility, so you can pick yourself back up and try again on a different woman.

 

What she did might've hurt you, but it's very respectable. I'd rather get denied upfront than have her build me up thinkin' I'm about to screw the heck outta this woman, only to have her say over a text message the next day "I'm not interested." Then I would've basically wasted X amount of time/money on this woman, when it could've been spent better on someone or somewhere else.

 

You're right, sometimes it can save one from future heartache. Though I have not been this obsessed (I hate that word, and hate using it even more) with a girl in years. I would say since 2012, which during that time I was going through something similar and that ultimately made me join Loveshack. Maybe it's a phase, but I don't know.

 

I have a friend who's 30 years old who flew to France to meet a girl a year ago or so. If it comes down to that, I have someone who can provide that mental capital that I'll need.