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Hi! I've just joined as I am slightly confused in which direction to go in attracting back an ex.

I fully understand that the time I have now is to concentrate on myself fully and learn how to be happy on my own - this was my biggest mistake and I can see where I have gone wrong. I understand that I have to put positive loving thoughts out there to receive. (I attracted my ex in the first place to me before I ever got with him by imagining and wishing to be with him and it happened when I least expected it so I know and believe in the law) I truly believe we are meant to be. Right person wrong time we both believe, we have a lot of maturing to do.

 

My question is that I have been reading many forums and threads and I get that I have to let the old relationship go and move on with my life and forget about him. But then I read other things where i have to imagine that I'm still with him, make vision boards, write in a journal about how grateful I am for him. Isn't this just contradicting the advice to move on? Really confused thanks!

[d0nnivain]

You can't attract an EX back. The relationship ended for a reason. The time to repair a failing relationship is before it ends. But if both parties aren't willing or able to put in the work together, there is no saving it.

 

 

Vision boards & wishful thinking are pipe dreams. They are fine for concrete goals like wanting to save enough money to buy a car or house or take a great vacation. They don't work for people.

 

 

NC is about healing yourself. It's not an absence makes the heart grow fonder manipulation.

[Ronni_W]

But then I read other things where i have to imagine that I'm still with him, make vision boards, write in a journal about how grateful I am for him.

Vision boards and journal writing can be part of the process of creating and manifesting what you want out of life...but there is also more to it than that.

 

However, it is improper - according to Universal Laws, especially the Law of Free Will - to try to tie specific people into your vision and dreams for your own life.

Properly your vision board and other creating-manifesting efforts will only include the qualities and nature of experiences that you want to have. It's okay to be extremely specific about any aspect or element of any inanimate object(s) but naming specific people will almost always be in contravention of their own Divine Plan, karmic returns and/or free-will decisions and choices.

 

If your ex has been clear that the relationship is over for him, then accept that and move on. However, if he himself has left open the possibility for resuming the relationship, then vision boards will be far less useful than concrete, in-the-physical-efforts.

[Altair0770]

Are the you the dumper or dumpee?

 

It also depends on if you believe in the Law of Attraction (I personally don't). But my advice is to go complete NC and disappear if you want them to get curious. It's a win-win. They come back, or you heal and don't care.