how long does it take to be completely over someone?

[SevenCity]

I take back what I wrote earlier.

 

This last relationship has left me jolted. I no longer compare women I meet to my ex, but I still think about all the things that I considered as positives, like how far or how close she lived, her overall care-free personality. When I meet a new person, and I get her contact information, I think to myself, "Now, let's see if she gave me a fake number" or "Let's see how long this will last, I bet we're not going to get to date number 2 let alone get past date number 1".

 

 

I've become cynical because women I meet seem to be flakey. I don't know what it is. I'm losing confidence. Maybe they can smell desperation.

 

 

Dating wise, things were much better a couple of months after the breakup. I was still alive on the inside, my heart was still red, filled with passion.

 

 

Now it's gray and I feel like a piece of cardboard with no color in my life, just shades of gray.

 

 

And I keep thinking about my ex, thinking about that turning point, when it all started going downhill.

 

 

I feel stuck, lost and I feel so hopeless and broken that I keep telling myself, "Oh, trust me, it's going to be years before you meet someone you click with and enjoy being with like you did with her".

 

 

If you enter something expecting failure, you will likely fail. Most of our communication is non verbal so I bet women are picking up on this.

 

Dating sucks when all you want is to find one person. My issue is finding girls who eventually make me want to leave. But I flipped it around. Now I look at every girl I date as an opportunity to learn. Be it about a topic I never knew about or a nice restaurant I'll take another girl.

 

When you meet the wrong people it's just a matter of time before you meet the right one. Be the best you you can be and don't be upset when things don't work out as it just means they were not right for you and the girl who is right is that much closer.

 

Dating can be exhausting but it's a great learning experience. Just don't set your expectations too high.