girlfriend would like to take boyfriend to strip club

[bluebubbles]

Hello everyone. I am new to the board.

My b/f and I have been dating for 2 years and the strip club issue has been coming up a lot. He hasn’t gone since we have been together, but I thought, why don’t I take him. I would feel better if he goes with me anyway. However, I don’t trust any of his friends to take him. I feel like they will get him into trouble.

So question is this, what do ya’ll think of a woman taking her man to a strip club? Is there any thing wrong with that?

[agnf666]

This is a big NO!!!!!!!!It would not be the same if you took him to the strip club. That is something him and his "Guy Friends" should go out and do. A girlfriend doesn't take there man to a strip club. He wouldn't like it... let me list some reasons.

 

1. You will get pissed if he got a lap dance

2. You will get mad if he tends to star at some girl too long.

3. If he really is getting into the whole thing more then when the two of you have sex

 

 

There are more things to list but I think you might get the idea. Plus he will feel really uncomfortable about that. He will not want you to take him.

 

Did you ask him what he thought about that???

[Marshbear32]

Originally posted by bluebubbles

Hello everyone. I am new to the board.

My b/f and I have been dating for 2 years and the strip club issue has been coming up a lot. He hasn’t gone since we have been together, but I thought, why don’t I take him. I would feel better if he goes with me anyway. However, I don’t trust any of his friends to take him. I feel like they will get him into trouble.

So question is this, what do ya’ll think of a woman taking her man to a strip club? Is there any thing wrong with that?

 

I have heard that the in thing is for women to go to strip clubs now. I don't see a problem with you taking him and it would ease you mind.

 

Go for it!!

[NYCmitch25]

I agree with the first poster "agnf666" for the most part because there are some things that are best left not knowing. Most people would get jealous to see their SO getting lap dances from thinly-dressed models -- and for good reason! I wonder why it's ok for him to continue to go to strip clubs, is he immature (i.e. >25yrs old)? I guess it would take a *really* open person to find this totally OK. Just imagine if you and your gals did pulled a stunt like this and tried take him along -- how do you think he feel about it (I'm sure he'd be displeased)? So what do you really feel about strip clubs? And Side question: do you feel that you have to please men all the time? I didn't get enough info from your thread to really ask this question but I wanted to throw it out there anyway.

 

Seemingly if your relationship is more meaningful, he shouldn't be even going to strip joints regardless of the peer pressure (my wife added this line) ;-)

[oh_what_am_I_doing]

I don't see anything wrong with it; in fact my boyfriend and I were just talking about that very same issue last night. I asked him if it's okay for couples to go to strip clubs together, and he seemed to think so.

 

Now, I agree with the others when they say that seeing your significant other getting a lap dance would be a little unsettling (ok, probably outright enraging), however I don't see why if the two of you go to the club, why he would feel the need to HAVE to have a personal lap dance. I'm sure lots of guys go and don't actually pay to get a lap dance. He's with you and if he did pay to get a lap dance in front of you, then that's pretty inconsiderate.

[lynnspies1]

It depends on how long you two have been together and how old you are. If you are mature enough to handle it and have open lines of communication, you should be fine.

[lindya]

If you think it would be fun, then give it a whirl. I know a couple of women who've taken their boyfriends to clubs like that. Two very different types of women, one common reaction. Sleazy and grim...and full of men who went out of their way to make them feel uncomfortable. I have no idea what else they expected, to be honest.

 

Maybe where you live, there are strip clubs that cater more for couples. It might be an idea to do a bit of research into it first. I think sweaty, nasty and desperate is probably still the order of the day for most of these places, but I'm not an expert.

[scratch]

Originally posted by bluebubbles

My b/f and I have been dating for 2 years and the strip club issue has been coming up a lot. He hasn’t gone since we have been together, but I thought, why don’t I take him. I would feel better if he goes with me anyway. However, I don’t trust any of his friends to take him. I feel like they will get him into trouble.

So question is this, what do ya’ll think of a woman taking her man to a strip club? Is there any thing wrong with that?

 

I think it's fine, if you have the personality for it. As mentioned in the other thread, most of the times I go to a strip club it's on a date. The women I'm with will buy me dances, and I'll buy them dances. We'll check out the girls together, talk to them together, etc. The main focus is on each other, and if you can properly include yourself in a positive, confident way, he'll love it and will admire how cool and fun you are.

[bluebubbles]

The reason why I was thinking about taking him to is because my best friend (who is a guy and I have known all my life) just broke off his 4-year relationship. So, I want to take my best friend to a s/c as a celebration. I thought why not take my boyfriend along.

I am 25 and he is 27. As far as looking at the girls, he does it anyway, regardless if I am with him or not. When we go out he looks and comments. It use to bother me but after a while, I figured it is a guy thing. I draw the line at him getting a lap dance.

[Opium]

First of all if you go to a strip club with your man he's NOT going to get a lap dance. That's just disrespectful to do it in front of you, that's something he should do with his FRIENDS, not girlfriend if even that.

 

It's all a matter of respect. If you're bf respects you but feels this can be a cool experience by all means knock yourself out. I would go to a strip club with my bf in a heart beat, not because I want to see naked chicks but because it's a social thing and a going with a group of friends just to watch a show is harmless. Plus they play really good music and lots of alcohol.

 

I wouldn't go every weekend or make it a habit but I would go once in a while to satisfy him and then when he gets a boner I'll finish him at home cause in the end the one he's f***ing is me

 

It also has to do a lot with your insecurities and how jealous you are. I'm sorry but I'm not jealous of a stripper, I can make just as much money even more keeping my clothes on thank you very much and I have a hot body so I'm not worried.

[NYCmitch25]

Originally posted by bluebubbles

The reason why I was thinking about taking him to is because my best friend (who is a guy and I have known all my life) just broke off his 4-year relationship. So, I want to take my best friend to a s/c as a celebration. I thought why not take my boyfriend along.

I am 25 and he is 27. As far as looking at the girls, he does it anyway, regardless if I am with him or not. When we go out he looks and comments. It use to bother me but after a while, I figured it is a guy thing. I draw the line at him getting a lap dance.

 

 

Sounds like you are really open about it! Thats great, now can you call and talk to my wife about this? LOL Anyway, I'm sure in your case it's totally fine but if I were him and I wasn't "allowed" to get a lapdance, I would feel a little bit cheated (for the lack of a better word) because It's like saying he can go to the icecream shop, but he can't have any icecream! To me it sends a little bit of a conflicting message, also, it seems like you may be trying to control the situation, shrewd move I guess -- he gets to see naked women and you get to control that he stays 4' away from them. He might get hip to your ideas and decide to go out with his buddies after seeing all those wonderful flavors of icecream....

[bluebubbles]

I might be right Mitch. Maybe I should go with my best friend and not my boyfreind. I think we'll have more fun anyway. Do you really think he'll start thinking it is ok to go with his friends if my boyfriend does go with me? I have taken and accepted a lot of his crap already. In 2 years this man has put me through a lot.

[NYCmitch25]

Originally posted by bluebubbles

I might be right Mitch. Maybe I should go with my best friend and not my boyfreind. I think we'll have more fun anyway. Do you really think he'll start thinking it is ok to go with his friends if my boyfriend does go with me? I have taken and accepted a lot of his crap already. In 2 years this man has put me through a lot.

 

Yeah at lot? If you really want to go take your best friend out then maybe it would be "best" without the b/f. ;-)... also if it's innocent fun, would you tell him? I'm not sure what I would do, I guess I might not say that I went because my wife might go nuts about it. Then again, that leaves things up to chance that she might find out! ugh!

[Neptune]

bluebubbles,

Going to a strip club with any other guy than your man is just not right. It is pushing things too far. Just my opinion. Marshbear32 it does appear that women are going to srtip clubs in masses now and on dates. I don`t know why. I`ve spent some time in strip clubs and the only reason I was there was to look at naked women. The only thing that makes sense to me. I guess a guy could go there to pick up strippers if that was his thing. But bluebubbles, don`t go with any other guy unless it is like your brother or something. If I was in a relationship and a woman wanted to bring me to a strip clup for a birthday present or something or she was curious about it then that would be alright.