Do online things normally still have it when they meet ?

[Chilli]

Yeah l know it was even better in person for us , although other things have come along since but that's gonna happen in any relationship as you get to know each other.

Same deal , from there you either get along and grow or you don't for some reason or another.

 

l do know for fact though you can get vibes and chemistry with someone online , ours freaked us both out.

[justwhoiam]

As far as I know, the only country running surveys about LDRs is the US.

According to these stats, which you can find online on various websites, 40% of all LDRs fail. But LDRs include even married people, or brief separations. So if we exclude those cases, the LDR survival rate (more than a year) is 1 out of 3 couples, or 33%.

 

Regarding online dating, approx. 5% of married couples in the US met online.

 

I hope this satisfied your curiosity.

[Titanll]

I think if you're upfront it has a high chance of working out. I met my girlfriend here and talked honestly and openly with her. I didn't put up any false pretenses or send her a picture from 5 years ago. And neither did she. When we met in person every bit of that scorching chemistry was there. Our 2 year anniversary is a little more than a month away.

 

You really need to make meeting in person a priority though. The odds drop dramatically if you both aren't busy finding a way to turn it into a regular in person relationship.

 

Congrats on two years!

 

Being upfront and honest is a requirement.

 

Meeting in person isn't a priority, it's a requirement as well.

 

I mean, there is no relationship outside of meeting. Ok, you can be pen pals if you want but no one, I suspect, wants that.

 

And while I agree that you may "feel" a certain way about someone that you have never met and those feelings can be reinforced or developed into something great when you meet, it's also the reason for some of these OLD haters. Goodness, OLD sites are just a way to be introduced to someone. If you meet someone and there is some mutual interest in going on a date, set up the date and get "offline" ASAP! There are no online dates!

[Chilli]

Thanks for those, nice one,

Geez , 33% , that's not bad considering the complications of LD. Just goes to show it's not the waste of time or make believe a lot of people think it is after all.

Not saying people here ,l just mean the general attitude anywhere is often really down on anything LD.

But really , that's about the same odds as any other every day relationship then if ya think about it and wayyy more likely to actually get anywhere than date site stuff.

That makes a lot of sense to because if you do meet somebody and get into some LD thing , you tend to meet in the first place for all the same reasons you would actually get together with anyone else out in real life, the natural way. Even if you originally only met over the internet or something.

Because your seeing more the real person and all these things about the real person , the way they they think , talk, views, could be just accidentally in a forum or in one of the chat things but it's that person and a chemistry that attracts you in the first place and why you end up talking and things going further, much the same as out in real life. Well apart from looks but as soon as you've seen each other even if it's only pics to start, that takes care of that side of things.

So if that's all still there when you meet in person then really you have as gooda chance as anyone else if you can work out the logistics.

huh, who would of thought so the ya go.

 

Where as on date sites your just reading some fake write up , well fake bc your not around the person talking and thinking, showing thoughts and personality, your just reading a catologue, a brochure.

Seems like OLD stuff is the real long shot. 5% , damn, that's not much is it. Yet seems like just about everyone is streesin and going through the whole online date site stuff when really , they're much better of just getting more of a life because it rarely amounts to anything anyway.

But , l know, there's always that one of chance isn't there of course sooooo, never do know l guess.

 

But anyway , so there ya go people , if you are attracted to someone online or some long distance thing , get to know them , give it a shot, it's got as gooda chance as anything. hmm. Interesting.

Edited April 28, 2017 by Chilli

[justwhoiam]

Well, 33% reaching the year mark doesn't sound like a real success. You have to consider that the number includes college students that often split after they complete their studies (think of sabbatic year abroad, job opportunities, growth, incompatible goals, etc.)

 

5% is not much, I agree. Many people just use online dating to have fun...

[Chilli]

Yeah l dunno because see how many dates people round here go on before they find a relationship and then how many of those just turn into some 2 or 3 mth, 6mths, quickie relationships thing and many sound like they have a few of those a year.

So that's sorta the way l was looking at it because it doesn't sound like too many at all even reach any year marks.

So to make a year LD , seems like it's pretty good going by any standard really is the way l was thinking.

hmm , dunno how much sense that makes though

[kimiky]

Currently on a relationship that started being serious online on 2013 and turned real on 2014. When I first met him in real life, it was weird, we are both shy, kind of quiet, not much to talk, I stayed for 5 days at his place so we had to adapt fast to make a decision on being good together. We clicked really well, but at this first meeting i was like 90% hooked, until the next meeting where I finished to fall in love completely. I was aware that if I didnt meet him I would never know, so I had to give it a chance, even if we failed to click. We live 6 hours away by bus, we see each other 3 times a year, but we keep strong. I keep strong because I know someday I will get a job, save and move with him, but it's hard, you need phisical contact, the smell, the softness of his skin, you miss all that. But these relationships are patience after all... if we were close we would be probably already married lol. But I dont know if we would have been a couple if we met in real life for first, online chat really helped us develope ourselves.

[NLNJ6200]

It depends on how much communication you've had online. Video chatting is EXTREMELY important for online dating as it shows you if the person is real or not. It also shows if you feel connected more or less than you did thru texting.

 

My bf and I video chat daily. We have no expectations for each other and we don't care about flaws or anything like that. We just care about each other. We plan on meeting next year. If you're the type or if they're the type that cares about the little things then your relationship will not work.

 

You gotta learn to overlook flaws or whatever might be wrong with that person if you truly care about them. As they should do the same. I always view my bf as 100% perfect to me. I never notice any of his flaws or imperfections. I just see him and how amazing of a person he is.

 

Don't pay attention to the small stuff. Focus on the person only.

[Chilli]

Currently on a relationship that started being serious online on 2013 and turned real on 2014. When I first met him in real life, it was weird, we are both shy, kind of quiet, not much to talk, I stayed for 5 days at his place so we had to adapt fast to make a decision on being good together. We clicked really well, but at this first meeting i was like 90% hooked, until the next meeting where I finished to fall in love completely. I was aware that if I didnt meet him I would never know, so I had to give it a chance, even if we failed to click. We live 6 hours away by bus, we see each other 3 times a year, but we keep strong. I keep strong because I know someday I will get a job, save and move with him, but it's hard, you need phisical contact, the smell, the softness of his skin, you miss all that. But these relationships are patience after all... if we were close we would be probably already married lol. But I dont know if we would have been a couple if we met in real life for first, online chat really helped us develope ourselves.

 

 

 

Thanks for that , very cool , best of luck. Just wondering though 6hrs by bus is pretty easy how come you don't see more of each other.

Mind you , l dunno the costs involved or the financial or other commitments or whatever situation..

[kimiky]

Thanks for that , very cool , best of luck. Just wondering though 6hrs by bus is pretty easy how come you don't see more of each other.

Mind you , l dunno the costs involved or the financial or other commitments or whatever situation..

 

Thanks Mmm is not as easy as 6 hours. 6 are from the cities that connects our places (from A ---half hour---> B ---6hours--->C --one hour-->D) and bus here from state to state is relatively, more expensive than a low cost plane from south america to miami we are unemployed, our fammilies aren't that rich to afford much journeys lol

[Chilli]

Yeah right , well l know first hand how financial situations can put a damper on these things believe me.

Anyway best of luck , it's a nice story and l hope you get together perminately soon, hang in there.