SummerRae Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 K, seriously now, I'm in need of a perception check..... so I'm doing this online dating thing (yes, during my downtime, I do do things other than LS ) and am corresponding with this "apparently" intelligent guy, well, besides the fact that most of the time the correspondence is about HIM and his elitist-esque interests... For amusement, (and perhaps hoping for a shocking turn of events?) I am continuing to correspond... U never know, I think, he seems to have a lot going for him, maybe talking about himself is just "his way" of opening up...... Anywho... guess what he does today?! He sends this picture of him kissing this girl at some event. Is it just me or is this just a tad distasteful?? I have pics of my ex and I together (not even touching) and I would NEVER send those... I just think there's a time and a place. Not at the beginning of getting to know someone and not showing an open P-fu(kin-D-A, you know? What do you think? This online thing is really starting to turn me OFF. Link to post Share on other sites
johnnysparks Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 I'd call it a tad distasteful, I had this pic on hand for a gal I met accidentially via ICQ (just a random, how's it going type thing) and she thought this was distasteful, and this is one of my good friends hugging me at a bar, nothing has ever happened between me and this gal. Link to post Share on other sites
SoftDrink Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 well...people do have to talk about themselves online because they think you want to get to know them, and because internet people don't tend to have a long history of the person they are talking to, so there's no shared event of any kind to expand on. however, sending that picture was crap. i think you should send one back that says "thinking of you"...and the picture is a big old middle finger. Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Send him one of the pics of you kissing your ex .. what's good for the goose ... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 I would advise to take whatever he says with a grain of salt. He can be anything he wants to be but until you meet him and spend quality time with him then its all alot of words at this point. Why does he spend alot of time talking about * himself * and how much time does he take to learn about you ? If he is learning alot about you and really wants to meet then, congrats ! The pic he sent...well I dont think that was appropriate. He could have cropped her out of the pic, me thinks Is he boastful about most things or humble ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SummerRae Posted July 30, 2005 Author Share Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by SoftDrink well...people do have to talk about themselves online because they think you want to get to know them, and because internet people don't tend to have a long history of the person they are talking to, so there's no shared event of any kind to expand on. Yes, I suppose internet correspondence is a fine art... BUT, I think questions about someone else are still in order, I don't care how much you want to share. The Art of Correspondence is being both a bit revealing and curious, in my mind...... Originally posted by SoftDrink however, sending that picture was crap. i think you should send one back that says "thinking of you"...and the picture is a big old middle finger. :lmao: :lmao: That's fu(kin' funny! Going to get my cam......... Link to post Share on other sites
Author SummerRae Posted July 30, 2005 Author Share Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall Send him one of the pics of you kissing your ex .. what's good for the goose ... Unfortunately, I've never been caught in the act...... I just deleted him from my contact list. Must remind myself to stop pissin' around where there's lack of interest. NOT looking for a case study this month........ Link to post Share on other sites
Author SummerRae Posted July 30, 2005 Author Share Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by Mary3 I would advise to take whatever he says with a grain of salt. He can be anything he wants to be but until you meet him and spend quality time with him then its all alot of words at this point. Why does he spend alot of time talking about * himself * and how much time does he take to learn about you ? If he is learning alot about you and really wants to meet then, congrats ! The pic he sent...well I dont think that was appropriate. He could have cropped her out of the pic, me thinks V. little indeed. Time to move onto brighter prospects........ Red flags are becoming easier to spot...... Originally posted by Mary3 Is he boastful about most things or humble ? I'd say boastful, he talks a lot of smack... (But then come to think of it, most of them do!! ) Ah well, will give me something to write about one day...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author SummerRae Posted July 30, 2005 Author Share Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by johnnysparks I'd call it a tad distasteful, I had this pic on hand for a gal I met accidentially via ICQ (just a random, how's it going type thing) and she thought this was distasteful, and this is one of my good friends hugging me at a bar, nothing has ever happened between me and this gal. No way, that pic is not THAT bad... at least you're not stickin' your tongue down her throat the way this Mr. Thinks-He-Has-Big-Balls is......... (my appologies for my crude lingo, haven't had my coffee yet!) Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Why on earth send you that?....is he trying to convey that's he's totally irresistible to the opposite sex. And johnnysparks - that pic was a poor choice to send also. Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 to add : oh gosh, SummerRae...just realized we live in the same city Link to post Share on other sites
Blackfrost Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 That was totally disrepectful of him to send a pic like that, unless of course, BEFORE HE SENT IT, he had told you that he had absolutely no other computer pics of himselfs, and asked you if you minded seeing this pic - even though it has some other woman in it. If you agreed, then it would be okay for him to send it. My adapted philosophy on personal ads and online ads (based on talking to my handfull of friends who've met girlfriends guyfriends through these) is: Cut to the chase quickly. If that person seems interesting to you in an email or two, set up a place to meet each other for an hour, during the day, at like a coffee house or somewhere public, as quickly as you can - this is not a date - and remind him of that. That way you see if that person (easy to determine if he's lying about his pic or bio) and you have any initial sparks, and you can talk and read his body language for the things he is telling you. This way, you don't waste any time with someone who may be completely lying to you. I am always shocked to hear at how many people completely lie lie lie about everything in their personal ad, and even include a fake picture - or one that is 10 years old etc. Do they honestly think that the other person won't notice ?!?!? Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 I thought everyone has webcams - so if you're communicating on-line, then don't you already know how they look currently? Link to post Share on other sites
Zephyr45 Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 I don't even think you should have talked to this guy long enough for him to send you that picture, SummerRae. He clearly doesn't know how to talk to women, and I'd rather you not inflate his ego by making him think he is being successful. Besides, it's a blow to those of us who do know how to talk to women to see an ass like this getting some response. Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by Zephyr45 I don't even think you should have talked to this guy long enough for him to send you that picture, SummerRae. He clearly doesn't know how to talk to women, and I'd rather you not inflate his ego by making him think he is being successful. Besides, it's a blow to those of us who do know how to talk to women to see an ass like this getting some response. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 I totally agree with Blackfrost ! I had one unusual experience where this man was writing me these LONG letters that sounded right out of a novel. ALL of them were like that so I cut him to the chase and asked him to CALL me to see if he was living in La La Dream land. As soon as I asked for a phone call he suddenly went silent and it took 3 days for him to call and ( I was laughing inside knowing this probrobly might happen ) When he DID call he was nothing like all he portrayed to be and had little to say. Some people live their lives out of a handbook. I need the real thing and I dont waste time getting this person to undertstand I dont do 46 emails. I would rather talk to them eventually if interested. Emails don't do it for me... Link to post Share on other sites
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