Author figgurinoutlife Posted August 1, 2005 Author Share Posted August 1, 2005 I agree by "being cool as a cucumber" it is just that I have been playing that "cool" game since april and she hasn't budged much until last week. I did tell her I am seeing others, the thing about her is she hides alot of her feelings, and disguises them into anger, meanness, ignoring someone, or acting like she's a slut (telling me how many she's been with). I was thinking about sending her a friendly email, no talk about relationships, feelings or anything like that, just an email like a guy would send to a guy, then after that COMPLETE NC. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted August 2, 2005 Share Posted August 2, 2005 What would be the purpose of this email exactly? Seems like an excuse to contact her. Trust me (and all the others) that have posted in this thread. The only chance you have is by not contacting her, so she gets curious as to why you aren't fawning over her anymore and she MIGHT be attracted to what she feels she can't have (you.) You can rationalize in your own mind a reason for emailing her, but no matter what the subject of the email...all it says to her is "I am still thinking about you." which is not the way you should play this one IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 Originally posted by figgurinoutlife I agree by "being cool as a cucumber" it is just that I have been playing that "cool" game since april and she hasn't budged much until last week. I did tell her I am seeing others, the thing about her is she hides alot of her feelings, and disguises them into anger, meanness, ignoring someone, or acting like she's a slut (telling me how many she's been with). I was thinking about sending her a friendly email, no talk about relationships, feelings or anything like that, just an email like a guy would send to a guy, then after that COMPLETE NC. What do you think? Maybe you need to just move on. Chasing her won't work. If NC doesn't get her back then use NC for itrs real purpose......getting over her and moving on. She isn't worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted August 3, 2005 Author Share Posted August 3, 2005 I have moved on somewhat, but not totally of course. The 2 mos. of NC was good for me, and it will be easier this time again. I get the feeling she is playing the game with me for some reason cause she just dissapeared out of nowhere, maybe she is trying to get back at me cause I didn't act all desperate to have her back, but just said I still care for you, plus how I never call her. She may be doing the NC with me! I just get the sense there is some game playing here, but I may be wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 Originally posted by figgurinoutlife I just get the sense there is some game playing here, but I may be wrong. Wow, no kidding... Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted August 3, 2005 Author Share Posted August 3, 2005 I'm guessing your being sarcastic on that one. But do you think she is playing games with me, if so WHY?? My ex's mind just fascinates me, I should've been a psychologist. What is she trying to accomplish, the whole getting closer to me for a week then dropping off the face of the earth was just plain WEIRD! Okay which one of these could she be doing, if she is playing games? 1) trying to make me miss her and want her more by dissapearing because I didn't bounce off the walls when she said she wanted to kiss me? 2) Got too nervous and confused that she may have feelings for me, so she backed off because she is involved w/someone else? 3) Is wanting to give then take away to drive me nuts and make me want her and to chase her. 4) Any others I'm missing? *so what will her next plan of action be? Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted August 3, 2005 Author Share Posted August 3, 2005 I'm guessing your being sarcastic on that one. But do you think she is playing games with me, if so WHY?? My ex's mind just fascinates me, I should've been a psychologist. What is she trying to accomplish, the whole getting closer to me for a week then dropping off the face of the earth was just plain WEIRD! Okay which one of these could she be doing, if she is playing games? 1) trying to make me miss her and want her more by dissapearing because I didn't bounce off the walls when she said she wanted to kiss me? 2) Got too nervous and confused that she may have feelings for me, so she backed off because she is involved w/someone else? 3) Is wanting to give then take away to drive me nuts and make me want her and to chase her. 4) Any others I'm missing? *so what will her next plan of action be? Link to post Share on other sites
pippen_2k Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 5) Your over analysing everything and driving yourself insane You missed that one Link to post Share on other sites
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