Springsummer Posted April 21, 2017 Share Posted April 21, 2017 In this time and age, does a female have to show some kind or a bit of interest in order for a male to make a move? I have been wondering if this person likes me or not. Sometimes I think maybe, sometimes I think definitely not. but I surely do me best not to show any interest. First I am not a flirty person, I have never flirted once in my life. (Not sure coming from a conservative culture has something to do with it.) Second, I think it's shameful/imporper to show interest that I believe to be much younger than me. If I were younger, I would try to push myself not to be so shy and passive and pretend I don't care/interest. but because of age issue, I feel like I am immobilized by it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted April 21, 2017 Author Share Posted April 21, 2017 but relationship experience wise, this person definitely is experienced, on the other hand, I am like a child... chronically age is definitely not equal to bio age and maturity age...but it's chronological age that counts. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 21, 2017 Share Posted April 21, 2017 I just think if you are immobilized, there's no easy answer here except for you to work on that with a professional and fix it. Most people are not going to come on to someone who can't smile or talk to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted April 21, 2017 Author Share Posted April 21, 2017 (edited) yes, I can't smile and can't talk very well. yesterday, that person just gave me the brightest most charming smiles...he was so excited and amused about me going up one floor to the couches to work...he smile wildly very often...but I can't smile back. I just became very self conscious...does my smile look scarily and my teeth look bad? those are my real problems too. but how did you know that I can't smile and talk? do you know me? or did I mention that in one of my posts? Edited April 21, 2017 by Springsummer Link to post Share on other sites
MountainGirl111 Posted April 21, 2017 Share Posted April 21, 2017 I don't know what your age difference is, but it sure doesn't hurt to smile. Maybe try this: The next time he smiles at you, just smile back. What can it hurt. Practice that just once and see what happens. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted April 21, 2017 Author Share Posted April 21, 2017 The day before yesterday, he found my facial expression about something so amusing and it delighted him so much, he laugh/smile so hard and wholeheartedly. Granted I have rather pretty facial features, I think. but still now I am thinking if I will ever encounter someone again that will appreciative something about me. wonder if he often find people and things amusing and laugh like that? Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted April 21, 2017 Share Posted April 21, 2017 So you didn't answer , is he a lot younger than you or something. lf so then he will probably need a good nudge before he went out on a limb but a guy your own age will probably pick up that you like him anyway. But a little bit of encouragement or sign sure won't hurt/ He's well aware of you and he probably knows by now your pretty shy. Dunno how long you've been around him but even if you can manage anything a little welcoming though l dunno , a few warm glances even, something a bit more than what you've been putting across. Don't worry about the flirting thing , personally l reckon it's pretty off anyway myself and sorta tacky.. l'd go for the one that doesn't or refuses to flirt any old time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted April 21, 2017 Author Share Posted April 21, 2017 So you didn't answer , is he a lot younger than you or something. . I don't know. I never asked his age and he never asked mine. I just feel/think he must be much younger. we have only known each other a month and a half. we have worked along side 3 days a week. He is leaving next month. It's possible I look his age, because every strangers thinks I look 10-15 years younger. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted April 21, 2017 Share Posted April 21, 2017 In this time and age, does a female have to show some kind or a bit of interest in order for a male to make a move? I have been wondering if this person likes me or not. Sometimes I think maybe, sometimes I think definitely not. but I surely do me best not to show any interest. First I am not a flirty person, I have never flirted once in my life. (Not sure coming from a conservative culture has something to do with it.) Second, I think it's shameful/imporper to show interest that I believe to be much younger than me. If I were younger, I would try to push myself not to be so shy and passive and pretend I don't care/interest. but because of age issue, I feel like I am immobilized by it. I wish you would really read what you said! Im guessing you're over 35-40? Link to post Share on other sites
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