nirvana Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Hi, Well my girlfriend is a really flirtatious person anyway, but the way she behaves with all my friends at parties and such just pisses me off so much, I ALWAYS end up walking off or going to somewhere on my own or where there isnt many people at the party. She always finds it necessary to be *touchy feely*, and sits on my friend's laps, and really is quit suggestive and generally flirty. I mean I wouldn't mind if I wasn't paranoid she likes some of these guys in more than a normal way. Well in fact it's one particular one that really bothers me. To put him in some sort of context, 7 months ago I went to a party and neither me or my friend (friend 1) had met this girl before. Turns out she had said at the start of the party "Friend 1 and Person 1 (me) better watch out cos im gonna be all over them tonight", and erm she was, she hung around a bit with both of us. Thing was, I REALLY liked her, and we ended up talking all night, falling asleep together, and now eventually we are together. But this *Friend 1* who she had said she liked, is one of my friends still, and she now talks to him quite regularly and they are incredibly flirtatious (with things like sitting on his lap) and it drives me nuts. I've mentioned it too her and she says "blah blah that is how I am, it shows I'm affectionate etc", and "i'm not going to change" - but really it's not that that bothers me as much, because I can handle it if its with other people that shes being so flirtatious with. So really, if she's not going to change, I need to begin to deal with it more? I know we are both besotted with each other and love each other to bits, but still I get so jealous, I don't know how to handle it. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Shes overly flirty even infront of you. She also stated shes not willing to change. Thats bascailly how she got you, was bering flirty at a party. Next time you all go out and she acts that way, you start flirting too, then you should dump her. She already said shes not going to change not even for you so what does thast tell you? Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Hello, The bottom line is that her behavior is totally disrespectful and hurtful to you. I am sure she would not put up with it if the roles were reversed. It seems hard to believe that you would feel proud of having a girlfriend that is all over other men. She told you that this is the way she is and refuses to change. I agree with the above poster that the next time she does this you should dump her. In the long run she will destroy your self-esteem. She sounds very immature and seems to have no clue how to be in a relationship. I guarantee you that your friends feel very sorry for you when she is touching and sitting on other guy's laps. I think you would be quite foolish to accept this type of humiliating behavior to you. I think you can do better than this. Don't you? Link to post Share on other sites
kitchwitch Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 You haven't married this girl yet, so for heaven's sake, get out while you can! Yours is the only lap that your girlfriend should be sitting on! If she were just talking and you were upset, I'd think that you'd gone off the deep end, but for her to be this amorous with others, whether in front of you or behind your back, is just wrong! Speaking of which, if she's willing to be that way in front of you, what would you think she was doing when she is out of sight? Good grief! Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted July 31, 2005 Share Posted July 31, 2005 She's an attention seeking slut. Leave her. Link to post Share on other sites
SoftDrink Posted July 31, 2005 Share Posted July 31, 2005 Originally posted by Sal Paradise She's an attention seeking slut. Leave her. well, slut might be a little harsh, but this is what i was going to say, in a nutshell. Link to post Share on other sites
jacquelyn Posted July 31, 2005 Share Posted July 31, 2005 She sits on your friend's lap and they both flirt right in front of you disregarding how you will feel. What kind of friend is that??? Then you tell her that it bothers you and all she can say is that she won't change. The best opportunity to leave her is when she does this again like the above poster said. good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewJ Posted July 31, 2005 Share Posted July 31, 2005 good riddance to bad rubbish. shes sounds like a biarch Link to post Share on other sites
JulianSC Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 leave now. run away, these are the worst kind, who think that flirting with other guys is all okie dokie. it IS disrespectful and hurtful. drop her. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.positive Posted August 2, 2005 Share Posted August 2, 2005 I agree drop her. plenty other fish in the sea. Link to post Share on other sites
Iluvsiamese Posted August 2, 2005 Share Posted August 2, 2005 She has, for all intents and purposes, told you that she doesn't care about your feelings. What else do you need to hear? Link to post Share on other sites
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