lostinmymind Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Well, I haven't posted in awhile about my dilemma. I've been slowly getting comfortable not being with my ex, I still miss her like hell and get really upset at time, but I'm at least functioning normally now. Her and I were talking rarely, mostly online. Suddenly she called me "just to test her new cell phone" and we talked for awhile. Just did some catching up blah blah. She was acting REALLY nice and even a little flirty. We hung up, I went to bed. The next day she called me again. We talked, nothing serious, it was nice. I ended up telling her I would call her the next day, so I did. She answered, said she was just about to go on a walk (I'm assuming with her new boyfriend), and I said I would let her go then. She said "well I'll talk to you later!!", I told her to call me, but I'm assuming it just got too late and she fell asleep. She called me the next day around noon, I was busy so I called her back a few min later. We talked again for about 40 min, she acted like she missed me and the stuff in my life, she was very subtle in this. Here is the kicker, she told one of my friends that she was probably going to break up with her new boyfriend. She said she doesn't feel the same about him anymore, and that he is already mentioning marriage after two months (she is 18 years old, he is 19) and things had just moved too fast, he is also moving at the end of August and she already feels like she has nothing to say to him on the phone. This was right after the first night she called me. I then hear that she tried to have a talk with him about "are we going to date other people this fall, blah blah" and he responded with "why are you even saying this". If any of you go to college you know about facebook. Well she just made her facebook and had put "in a relationship", now it has changed to "in an open relationship with 'new boyfriend's name'". I feel like all signs are pointing to her trying to get rid of him, I just don't think she knows how. I was also with a group a friends and she happened to be there. The new guy called her on the phone, and she was practically whispering trying to not let me hear her talking to him. I imed her the other day and she wasn't talkative at all like usual. So I don't know what is going through her head. I also saw her in person and she wasn't as nice and energetic towards me as in the past couple days (but we were in a group). I'm just going to take that as a hint and let her contact me next. I am hoping she breaks up with the new guy and after saying things like that I doubt her feelings about him will change. She might be planning to just let the relationship die with the distance that will be between them. I'm trying really hard not to assume she is wanting to come back to me, I get my hopes up all too often. I guess I should offer that the reason we broke up was because she wanted a break from our 1 year relationship, she said this about 2-months before she even met the new guy. And even during those two months we still 'did stuff' and hung out. She seemed to have a really hard time breaking up with me. Anybody have some insight into this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Why would you want to be her second choice ? That is seriously laking self esteem man.. I want to be the first choice of any girl I date.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lostinmymind Posted July 30, 2005 Author Share Posted July 30, 2005 I can understand where you are getting that from. IF she were to come back to me now though, it wouldn't be because I'm her second choice and if that was the impression I got I wouldn't get back with her very quickly. I'm not saying I want her back instantly if she wants me. I love her very much still, I'd give her another chance, but it would take awhile, and she would need to come crawling. She needs to realize what she has done, and what she gave up. If that guy broke up with her and she came back, then yeah, I would for sure be her second choice. Her breaking up with him for me though...that COULD be different. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Stop fooling yourself, buddy. No more phone calls, period. Same for text/IM. Link to post Share on other sites
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