LonelyCub Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 So i find myself atracted to woman much older then myself, cougars if you will, woman around the age 30-40. I had a chance to date 2 woman around this age and to be honest i find them a lot more atractive then girls around my age. Why? They are a lot more Mature and relaxed and in my experience a lot more loving and caring then younger woman.. They tend to be more openminded and understanding witch is incredible to me, since the type of woman i would always like to find, date and start a serious relationship with.. is exactly like that. It also gives me confidence that i was complimented by them that dispite my age i am very mature, resonoble and openminded guy. Now my troubles begin with the fact that around the parts where i live.. dating in such a big age difference is a Taboo, so i turn my search to the internet. What are your thoughts on this? What are the odds of finding a Lady that i could converse with and perhaps someday get together with. Do you have any suggestions on where to search? we all know the 95% of dating sites are pure BS Link to post Share on other sites
MarionDame Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 1) 30-40 year olds are not cougars. 2) Try an online dating site. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Titanll Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 My crystal ball says that you will one day be ravaged by a cougar... Link to post Share on other sites
The_Thall_Man Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 Do you live in Phoenix, Arizona? I can tell you exactly where to go. Completely not my thing, but thanks to my ex co-workers I know precisely where the cougar crowd hangs out. Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 I'm not in az but atell me anyway haha Or better yet ... any suggestions for ca ? Link to post Share on other sites
The_Thall_Man Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 I'm not in az but atell me anyway haha Or better yet ... any suggestions for ca ? Here, it's this cheesy bar/club in north Scottsdale/Phoenix called 'Blue Martini'. I hated the place with the fury of ten thousand suns... but then, I'm an insufferable hipster that happened to have a really good job up there so it came with the territory I guess. Anywhere you go, it's going to be specific places, not B.S. like "try the library", or "try Meetups". Good luck finding someone to clue you in though. I've been back here four years and have no clue where to go in this town anymore to meet dope people. I kinda gave up. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 I'll be honest with you in that many women you approach will think you're looking for a FB or FWB so it will be difficult to get women in this age range to take you as a serious relationship contender. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyCub Posted April 26, 2017 Author Share Posted April 26, 2017 Haha no, i live in Serbia, its a small country in europe. But thank you for the offer Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyCub Posted April 26, 2017 Author Share Posted April 26, 2017 I'll be honest with you in that many women you approach will think you're looking for a FB or FWB so it will be difficult to get women in this age range to take you as a serious relationship contender. Yeah unforchenetly so. I do have some hope tho Link to post Share on other sites
The_Thall_Man Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 I'll be honest with you in that many women you approach will think you're looking for a FB or FWB so it will be difficult to get women in this age range to take you as a serious relationship contender. I don't think it's that bad. The best approach there is probably to be overly forward with your intentions. That's my M.O. and I ain't changing it. Just say you're into older women (it's not weird, I know a number of guys who are... probably the same percentage, if not more, than are gay, and we're done calling them weird... I hope ). Say you're looking for a real relationship. It's not weird either. Dunno why everyone thinks it is these days. Most people couple up. Say you'll wait a month for sex... say you'll wait three. Be your own litmus test. There's a lot of power in that. Users don't wait around that long. I dunno. I'm a honesty is the best policy type. Try it, I say. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyCub Posted April 26, 2017 Author Share Posted April 26, 2017 I don't think it's that bad. The best approach there is probably to be overly forward with your intentions. That's my M.O. and I ain't changing it. Just say you're into older women (it's not weird, I know a number of guys who are... probably the same percentage, if not more, than are gay, and we're done calling them weird... I hope ). Say you're looking for a real relationship. It's not weird either. Dunno why everyone thinks it is these days. Most people couple up. Say you'll wait a month for sex... say you'll wait three. Be your own litmus test. There's a lot of power in that. Users don't wait around that long. I dunno. I'm a honesty is the best policy type. Try it, I say. Thank you for the advice I agree with you compleatly Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 How old are you? You sound pretty young, if you look at women in their 30s as "cougars." If you're very young, you might not be ready yet for a relationship with a woman significantly older than you. I've done it. I have to say though that women who are serious about a relationship with a younger man (rather than just fun / sex) won't be happy being thought of as "cougars." A cougar is a predatory creature on the hunt for prey. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 I wonder if you realise just how many young men think the same way? Going on personal experience, older women on dating sites probably receive 50% of messages from men 20 years or more younger than them, all saying the same things. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 I wonder if you realise just how many young men think the same way? Going on personal experience, older women on dating sites probably receive 50% of messages from men 20 years or more younger than them, all saying the same things. spiderowl is right ..... and its normally all sexual....deb Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted May 7, 2017 Share Posted May 7, 2017 If you call a 30 yr old woman a cougar she's gonna be p!ssed. Oh and these days this is far from special snowflake preference 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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