Author Dis Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 Dis: Why exactly do you like this guy? He sounds a bit boring to me with no personality. It is possible you are just bored? C'mon girl! If I were young and gorgeous like you I'd be out there having the fun of my life! G, love you girl Honestly I was just thinking today that because he's the first guy I've come across outside of OLDing thats talking to me....I think I just latched on to him. I did so because guys neverrrrr say hi, or strike up a convo. Its like I'm a straight men deterrent. Honestly, he's really not my cup ot tea physically. If we had really hit ot off I would look past the physical stuff but he's so tiny, no meat on him at all. Only 5'9. I need a guy that can slam me against a wall...and other stuff I think I just let myself get carried away due to the lack of supply No OLDing = crickets G, after 2 years of OLDing, I've kind of accepted that its just not my time to meet the right guy yet. I'm focusing on having fun (as much as I can while in nursing school) and just focusing on me. I'm happy I've gotten to a point where I dont feel the constant pressure to find that person This guy, just isnt my person 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 5'9" and not much muscle? See ya a month or so when you come to your senses.... Yup! I'm back to say you're right! Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 You sound like a catch I would have wined you and dined you by now haha 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Yup! I'm back to say you're right! Now that you said that, you know he's going to ask you out after closing, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 1, 2017 Author Share Posted July 1, 2017 Interesting turn of events here.... Essentially....my Dad lost his s**t today. My agent made a misstep a couple weeks ago...it just came to my Dad's attention. As a result.... My Dad demands that I fire my agent and says, If I was unable to catch the mistake my agent made, I am "not read to own my home" So....its back to renting. I able to up the monthly rental budget (which will help) but this kind of RE search is so tedious...its like finding a needle in a hay stack. Especially because of my cats. Owners dont like renting to people with pets. I'm really upset. Disappointed. I want to get out of my apartment more than anything. My upstairs neighbor is truly awful and keeps me up at night. I was really looking forward to my owning my own house. But I'm going to have to settle for renting a house for now (If I can find one) Its my Dad's way or the high way... The mistake my agent made wasnt even that bad but my Dad is highly critical of people. He has a IQ of 170. He's brillant. He's just extremly intense and if anyone makes a mistake that he wouldnt make....get some nails and a cross out.... thats the end of that... Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Interesting turn of events here.... Essentially....my Dad lost his s**t today. My agent made a misstep a couple weeks ago...it just came to my Dad's attention. As a result.... My Dad demands that I fire my agent and says, If I was unable to catch the mistake my agent made, I am "not read to own my home" So....its back to renting. I able to up the monthly rental budget (which will help) but this kind of RE search is so tedious...its like finding a needle in a hay stack. Especially because of my cats. Owners dont like renting to people with pets. I'm really upset. Disappointed. I want to get out of my apartment more than anything. My upstairs neighbor is truly awful and keeps me up at night. I was really looking forward to my owning my own house. But I'm going to have to settle for renting a house for now (If I can find one) Its my Dad's way or the high way... The mistake my agent made wasnt even that bad but my Dad is highly critical of people. He has a IQ of 170. He's brillant. He's just extremly intense and if anyone makes a mistake that he wouldnt make....get some nails and a cross out.... thats the end of that... This whole dad thing seems like it could be a whole 'nother thread! What was the mistake?? Is your dad paying for your house? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 This whole dad thing seems like it could be a whole 'nother thread! What was the mistake?? Is your dad paying for your house? i recall earlier in the thread that the parents were putting up a big chunk of the money.. Sorry, OP...Maybe he'll cool down and reconsider... TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 This whole dad thing seems like it could be a whole 'nother thread! What was the mistake?? Is your dad paying for your house? i recall earlier in the thread that the parents were putting up a big chunk of the money.. Sorry, OP...Maybe he'll cool down and reconsider... TFY The mistake is a long story but TFY is correct. My parents were matching me. So now...its back to renting. I'm so upset. I cant begin to express how much I loathe living in my apartment. My upstairs neighbor is not only loud at all hours of the day and night....but things got so bad I had to call the cops on her....if she contacts me again, she'll be charged with harrassment The people she has over scream at me through my ceiling and my windows "B***t. C**t." I had to call the cops about that too Its all so strange because I've never been anything but polite to my neighbor even after all this. I politely asked her to quiet down 9 months ago and she her response to that was so a$$ backwards and disportionate. Its been h*ll ever since. I think she might have a chemical imbalance or something My landlord wont do anything because she is on Section 8 which means, due to her low income level, she recieves government assistance with her rent. So thats guaranteed income for my landlord Such a hot mess... Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 What was the mistake your agent made? And ... how many cats do you own? What are their names and can I see? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 What was the mistake your agent made? And ... how many cats do you own? What are their names and can I see? My Dad found out on his own that my agent showed me a house that had a damaged well and septic tank. The damage wasnt an easy fix. My Dad says my agent knew about it as it was stated on the listing but showed it to me anyway. I had already told my agent I couldnt buy a house that needed substantial repairs. My Dad was furious... I have 4 cats and a rabbit They're all rescues My big black and white cat is named Benny. He's the best cat in the world. He's my everything. So sweet, affectionate, laid back, social. I hit him with my car 6 weeks ago It was awful. I couldnt find him for 10 hours because he ran off. When I was lucky enough to track him down I rushed him to the vet. He had a fractured jaw But thankfully everything else was fine. I had to feed him through an E tube for 5 weeks, 5 times a day because the vet had to wire his jaw shut. Now he's all healed and he's back to being his normal happy self. I swear I'd take a bullet for my Benny I'm so lucky I still have him! Sammy and Emmy are small female black cats. Emmy is super sassy and Sammy is quiet and shy Vixie is grey with a white spot on her chest. She's actually ferrel. She's fierce and she attacked my neighbors dogs But she lets me, and only me pet her. Shes a good cat in her own way Louie is the bunny. He's 4lbs. He is white with gray circles around his blue eyes. He's such a funny rabbit and so sweet and social. He has a huge personality and is so much fun. He chases the cats around but he loves Benny. He's actually liter box trained. He's like another cat, he thinks he's a cat I will be telling my new landlord that I only have 2 cats because there is no way in h*ll that I would be able to rent a house otherwise I'll post pics in a bit! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Don't most real estate agents "bend the rules" a little bit when showing properties? I.e. showing some over your price cap, some that don't have 100% of everything you asked for..... Your dad sounds intense! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 Don't most real estate agents "bend the rules" a little bit when showing properties? I.e. showing some over your price cap, some that don't have 100% of everything you asked for..... Your dad sounds intense! Oh totally, I didnt mind at all But my Dad was livid! He said because I didnt check out the listing before I went that I'm not ready to own my own house It was a 2 hour blow out today I feel like I just walked out of a war zone I'm really disappointed and sad. My own house sounded like a dream Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Oh totally, I didnt mind at all But my Dad was livid! He said because I didnt check out the listing before I went that I'm not ready to own my own house It was a 2 hour blow out today I feel like I just walked out of a war zone I'm really disappointed and sad. My own house sounded like a dream :(:( FWIW, I bought my first home (on my own....I owned a few prior with my ex) 2 years ago. I did not go through every listing with a fine tooth comb before visiting them. There is time for all of that when you're considering making an offer! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Don't most real estate agents "bend the rules" a little bit when showing properties? I.e. showing some over your price cap, some that don't have 100% of everything you asked for..... Your dad sounds intense! Almost all houses are not exactly what the client wants. Unless it's a custom built house,, that's rare. Real estate agents try to get as close as possible and see if the client can live with the things that are not exactly what they want. In this case, this guy showed a young, single woman a house with a major problem when she specifically asked for a house without major problems. And it was disclosed on the listing. I understand her father getting upset. I wouldn't want my daughter to have to deal with something like that. So, showing the house to her was a waste of time. I probably wouldn't have blown up about it ... but, I understand. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Almost all houses are not exactly what the client wants. Unless it's a custom built house,, that's rare. Real estate agents try to get as close as possible and see if the client can live with the things that are not exactly what they want. In this case, this guy showed a young, single woman a house with a major problem when she specifically asked for a house without major problems. And it was disclosed on the listing. I understand her father getting upset. I wouldn't want my daughter to have to deal with something like that. So, showing the house to her was a waste of time. I probably wouldn't have blown up about it ... but, I understand. Yep,,, The RE guy choked and the dad was worried that she'd be taken advantage of, or wasn;t aware of the seriousness or making that big of a buy.... Eh....Id have probably reacted the same. although I think I would still want her to find a better place to live over what she has now... TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 Yep,,, The RE guy choked and the dad was worried that she'd be taken advantage of, or wasn;t aware of the seriousness or making that big of a buy.... Eh....Id have probably reacted the same. although I think I would still want her to find a better place to live over what she has now... TFY He is very concerned about whats going on at my current apartment. He understands how badly I need to get out of here which is why we're going to keep looking for new properties. He sent me a few tonight. To give him due credit, he's talked to my landlord many times but because my neighbor is on section 8 income, my landlord doesnt want to lose her as a tenant. I'm sure the next person who lives in my apartment will complain too. My landlord will have to kick her out eventually. The woman ensues chaos 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 Almost all houses are not exactly what the client wants. Unless it's a custom built house,, that's rare. Real estate agents try to get as close as possible and see if the client can live with the things that are not exactly what they want. In this case, this guy showed a young, single woman a house with a major problem when she specifically asked for a house without major problems. And it was disclosed on the listing. I understand her father getting upset. I wouldn't want my daughter to have to deal with something like that. So, showing the house to her was a waste of time. I probably wouldn't have blown up about it ... but, I understand. Since you were a RE, what should I say to him? I feel so bad! I kind of want to keep him as my agent because he hooks me up to an online portal with tons of properties but as an agent, he's not that great Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 The dad totally overreacted ... Btw OP is not young, 30+... so it is weird that the dad treats her like a kid, but I guess since he is matching her investment is somewhat understandable. Different agent will probably help though - and will solve the romantic part of the puzzle since they won't have business relationship anymore. Almost all houses are not exactly what the client wants. Unless it's a custom built house,, that's rare. Real estate agents try to get as close as possible and see if the client can live with the things that are not exactly what they want. In this case, this guy showed a young, single woman a house with a major problem when she specifically asked for a house without major problems. And it was disclosed on the listing. I understand her father getting upset. I wouldn't want my daughter to have to deal with something like that. So, showing the house to her was a waste of time. I probably wouldn't have blown up about it ... but, I understand. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Since you were a RE, what should I say to him? I feel so bad! I kind of want to keep him as my agent because he hooks me up to an online portal with tons of properties but as an agent, he's not that great The real estate agent? I would definitely let him know about your concerns. I would probably even let him know your father is upset. In a matter of fact way. Be nice, but don't beat around the bush about it. This is a rookie mistake. A good agent has to understand his client. This is a customer service business and you have to know most young, single women don't want to deal with a house that has major issues. Structuaral issues, maintenance issues, safety issues, repair issues, ... they just don't want to deal with it. Unless they are an investor or looking for a project. Especially when you TOLD HIM and it was clearly disclosed by the seller! He needs to understand this for future reference. It will help him in the long run. Just let him know that you don't want to look at any houses with major repair issues. To save your time and his. I'll let you deal with dad. Calm him down a little. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Dis, why not change the agent, apply for mortgage to avoid your dad's interference and still buy? Knowing the emotional investment in the process, I'd be crushed if I were to stop looking for a property mid-process. Changing the agent is a great idea though. You can blame it on external circumstances so that he's not upset at you, and get together for drinks to discuss. Since you'd not have a business relationship anymore - he's all available to ask you out if he is attracted, and I suspect he may be. The mistake is a long story but TFY is correct. My parents were matching me. So now...its back to renting. I'm so upset. I cant begin to express how much I loathe living in my apartment. My upstairs neighbor is not only loud at all hours of the day and night....but things got so bad I had to call the cops on her....if she contacts me again, she'll be charged with harrassment The people she has over scream at me through my ceiling and my windows "B***t. C**t." I had to call the cops about that too Its all so strange because I've never been anything but polite to my neighbor even after all this. I politely asked her to quiet down 9 months ago and she her response to that was so a$$ backwards and disportionate. Its been h*ll ever since. I think she might have a chemical imbalance or something My landlord wont do anything because she is on Section 8 which means, due to her low income level, she recieves government assistance with her rent. So thats guaranteed income for my landlord Such a hot mess... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 The dad totally overreacted ... Btw OP is not young, 30+... so it is weird that the dad treats her like a kid, but I guess since he is matching her investment is somewhat understandable. Different agent will probably help though - and will solve the romantic part of the puzzle since they won't have business relationship anymore. My Dad micromanages everythingggg I have to remind him I'm 31 once a week I think I might ask for a different agent but I feel bad wasting this guy's time 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 Dis, why not change the agent, apply for mortgage to avoid your dad's interference and still buy? Knowing the emotional investment in the process, I'd be crushed if I were to stop looking for a property mid-process. Changing the agent is a great idea though. You can blame it on external circumstances so that he's not upset at you, and get together for drinks to discuss. Since you'd not have a business relationship anymore - he's all available to ask you out if he is attracted, and I suspect he may be. I'm absolutely crushed Cried my eyes out today I dont know...I might just find a new place to rent until I graduate in April. I'd have more time then. As long as I can find a house to rent...I dont mind holding off on buying. Purchasing is a huge process and now that I'm discouraged and worn thin...I dont know if I want to go through the hassle at the present moment I think I'll tell him tomorrow or Monday that I need to switch agents. I feel so bad though. I wasted his time. I'm assuming he wont be happy so wouldnt it be weird if I asked him out for drinks? Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 My Dad micromanages everythingggg I have to remind him I'm 31 once a week I think I might ask for a different agent but I feel bad wasting this guy's time Parents tend to bend the reality but with good intentions, I'm sure. My mom also perceives me as a kid despite I'm going to turn 33 in the fall... Don't feel sorry for the agent - I was like you when I was searching (and didn't change him in the end although we lost like 8 offers... so I probably had all the reasons to change him) - but it is part of RE agents job, they kind of expect it. Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 If you find the right house, a lease-purchase could be a solution for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Hugs Dis - totally understand how it feels. If you're not dead set on buying immediately like I was, yo can find a nice rental from August to April. Since it is for a short period, you probably don't need a RE agent for searching (even sublet will do for 9-10 months, of course looking for pet-friendly spots is harder but if your cats are trained - nobody will know really whether there is one or 4). RE agent will be unhappy but if you make it extra nice with an invitation for farewell drinks... Maybe he'd agree. I honestly see this as a last chance because you're parting ways, that's why I suggested this. I'm absolutely crushed Cried my eyes out today I dont know...I might just find a new place to rent until I graduate in April. I'd have more time then. As long as I can find a house to rent...I dont mind holding off on buying. Purchasing is a huge process and now that I'm discouraged and worn thin...I dont know if I want to go through the hassle at the present moment I think I'll tell him tomorrow or Monday that I need to switch agents. I feel so bad though. I wasted his time. I'm assuming he wont be happy so wouldnt it be weird if I asked him out for drinks? Link to post Share on other sites
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