Women complain about guys only wanting sex, yet...

[E-Squared]

I don't understand any of this. Maybe it's because I am inexperienced in dating and sex, but I often try to meet women and they sometimes say but they won't put out on the first date or anything of that nature. However, too soon people, they end up doing that. Like I said, some people are just plain hypocrites. Maybe I should try to find somebody to fool around with, I don't know. To date, I have had only one sexual partner.

[somanymistakes]

I don't understand any of this. Maybe it's because I am inexperienced in dating and sex, but I often try to meet women and they sometimes say but they won't put out on the first date or anything of that nature. However, too soon people, they end up doing that. Like I said, some people are just plain hypocrites. Maybe I should try to find somebody to fool around with, I don't know. To date, I have had only one sexual partner.

 

So, you're not talking about people who told YOU they wouldn't have sex on the first date and then had sex on the first date with you. You're talking about... rumors that they had sex on the first date with someone else?

 

First off, do you even know that's true? Rumors are not facts.

 

Second, if you've gone out with a lot of women who feel the need to tell you that they won't have sex with you on the first date, why did they even need to bring that up? Were you pushing for sex from people who barely knew you? It's not surprising that they might have made up some excuse because they didn't want to be rude.

 

Third, even if they completely spontaneously told you that they wouldn't put out on the first date and then changed their minds, that DOES NOT mean they are hypocrites. People change their minds. There is nothing evil or wrong about that. For it to be hypocritical they have to have both beliefs at the same time. Like, if they say they don't want a man to try for sex on the first date, and then judge him as being unmanly for doing what they said, THAT'S bad.

 

You sound seriously bitter and angry for no reason, and eager to blame "women" as if they were some hive mind plotting against you. This is generally not a mindset that will help you get dates.

Edited May 4, 2017 by somanymistakes

[tetrahedral]

Bottom line...

 

If she is into you, you can't keep her off of you. If not then why date her?

 

Exactly.

 

I don't understand why people behaving differently with different people is hypocrisy. It's called having preferences.

 

If you're male, you should be looking for women who ARE attracted to you. Who like you said, can't keep their hands off of you.

 

Not finding a woman, without paying attention to their feelings, and deciding she should be attracted to you.

[Sweetfish]

THANK YOU! You actually saw the point I tried to make. It just seems odd how a woman will one minute say that she wants to take things slow. Then she'll complain about how a guy won't get her into bed. It's the same thing how when someone will be considered pushy if he tries to get physical at first, but if he takes his time, then it seems like he isn't attracted to her physically. It's like "Damn, what does she want?"

 

 

Because its a lie...

 

Women having sex early id still considered shameful

 

Many women do want sex.. but dont want to be pinned as a ****

 

So many try to outline an image of not being easy in any way possible to save face.

[SwordofFlame]

Here's a piece of advice. Do not put much stock into what women say in dating. Actions always speak louder than words.

[Shanex]

Here's a piece of advice. Do not put much stock into what women say in dating. Actions always speak louder than words.

 

Word.

 

Anyway, in my now 15 years of dating, I found that very few women would wait for months to get intimate with me. Truth is I wouldn't wait so long, I did initiate, I also got dumped quickly because ladies 'tap it and quit it' as much as men nowadays.