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Not finding other women attractive, is this normal after a breakup?


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It's really strange, before every girl that used to give me the slightest bit of attention used to set of a stir of emotions inside me. But now, I find I'm just not emotionally interested in any women. I hooked up with an old H.S. friend over the weekend, and even though the sex was great, afterwards I just didn't have any feelings towards her whatsoever. Please tell me this is something that fades over time, i'm not used to being so emotionless.

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Yup I think that's normal. It takes a while to allow yourself to feel stuff again because you don't want to let yourself get hurt or hurt others or be vulnerable. It goes away. I think you are perfectly normal and it will just take time.

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If you only hooked up on the weekend, I dont think you should feel anything regardless if you have just broken up or not...

 

You shouldnt be fallin for people after a night of sex.

 

Should take quite some time to let ur emotions get involved with another.

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ReluctantRomeo

It's normal, it fades with time.

 

How long has it been since you broke up?

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A Fly onThe Wall

It's normal.. What is important is that you are out trying to hook up and date..It helps the feelings return

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well it's been a while since we officially "broke up", but we've still been seeing each other and being intimate since a few weeks ago. i guess i've just changed since the breakup.

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reservoirdog1

It's totally normal. In hindsight, and with a bit of objectivity, my ex-wife was hardly the most beautiful woman out there -- but when we were together, I thought she was. It took awhile after we split for me to STOP comparing other women -- even more attractive women -- to her. I think it was really a case of wanting back what was so familiar to me -- that's what did it. And once I got over that, things were much easier.

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ReluctantRomeo
Originally posted by sanne

well it's been a while since we officially "broke up", but we've still been seeing each other and being intimate since a few weeks ago.

 

Under these circumstances, I'd be surprised if you *had* moved on...

 

Reservoir is right, btw. The tendency is to always be making very subjective comparisons with other women. This passes too.

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