clairehunti Posted May 5, 2017 Share Posted May 5, 2017 (edited) I can't believe I'm actually writing this but I need to get it off my chest. I've been with my boyfriend since August last year. He literally chased me down and we quickly ended up in a relationship. I sometimes find it hard to understand why he chose me because I was really keeping my walls up but I have slowly let them down. This may sound silly but I found out he was liking pictures of girls every now and then (no big deal right) but especially this specific girl. I let it slide but it continued. I got jealous the day he started bragging about girls who liked his pictures and said that only girls with big boobs does, one of them was her because he showed me. I'm familiar with this girl and her friends has asked me in person if we're a couple. I keep thinking that he has an interest in her. I don't get why he has started saying stuff to me that hurts, I have told him that he does and he was very sorry about it and didn't understand himself that it hurts (I'm referring to the comment about girls with big boobs or how he says he has a bunch of other girls.) I don't understand why he does that? He has a bit of wandering eyes too.. Nothing else is wrong with our relationship, we are very involved in each other's lives and we live together. He have earlier told me that he feels like he can't have me 100% and confessed that he loves me, twice but I haven't said it back.. And I believe he does. He is always open to discuss problems, he's always the first one reach out when I'm angry at him. He spoils me with hugs and kisses. He's there for me whenever I need him and I can see how easily I affect him, if I'm mad at him he immidatelly turns sad and wants to talk about it. He stood by me through the whole abortion we made. I may come off as an insecure person but I've been cheated on before two times and I try my best to tell myself that he's not like that but sometimes I fall back. My point is I can't really put a finger on my relationship, I've been crying all day over it today. I wish I could tell him how I feel but I can't and I was looking for some advice here.. Edited May 5, 2017 by clairehunti Link to post Share on other sites
Telemachus Posted May 5, 2017 Share Posted May 5, 2017 I read your posting twice and can't tell what it is you're seeking advice regarding. A guy who is a visual creature and likes to look at pictures of women with big boobs? That describes the entire male sex, 98 percent of it anyway. It's more common among men than beer drinking and farting, which are, of course ridiculously common. What exactly is the question? Link to post Share on other sites
Author clairehunti Posted May 5, 2017 Author Share Posted May 5, 2017 I read your posting twice and can't tell what it is you're seeking advice regarding. A guy who is a visual creature and likes to look at pictures of women with big boobs? That describes the entire male sex, 98 percent of it anyway. It's more common among men than beer drinking and farting, which are, of course ridiculously common. What exactly is the question? Maybe I wasn't very clear but I find that the things he says is hurtful. Like when he brags about how girls with big boobs likes his pictures? He says he has other girls. He asks me what I would do if I slept with <insert a famous person's name here> He likes pictures of other girls. Maybe it's normal but the way it makes ME feel isn't okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Telemachus Posted May 5, 2017 Share Posted May 5, 2017 The fact that he loves you matters little if you don't think that he treats you well. You can find a man who never says such things, but finding a man who never thinks such things...that's going to be difficult. He may be boorish, and I'm not saying you shouldn't dump his ass right now. Best case, he's honest but tactless, and I'm being honest in saying that the vast majority of guys have similar thoughts. We men are basically pigs, but some behave better than others. You could tell him that guys with long and girthy you-know-whats have been liking your pics. It would drag you down to his level, but he'd get the message, maybe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author clairehunti Posted May 5, 2017 Author Share Posted May 5, 2017 The fact that he loves you matters little if you don't think that he treats you well. You can find a man who never says such things, but finding a man who never thinks such things...that's going to be difficult. He may be boorish, and I'm not saying you shouldn't dump his ass right now. Best case, he's honest but tactless, and I'm being honest in saying that the vast majority of guys have similar thoughts. We men are basically pigs, but some behave better than others. You could tell him that guys with long and girthy you-know-whats have been liking your pics. It would drag you down to his level, but he'd get the message, maybe. Thanks for your advice. I figured that it's common to think that way but saying it is another thing. I sometimes let him know how it feels by saying similiar things back to him (it rarely happens because I don't have the heart) but then it seems to turn into a completion. We can sit on a nice date and he spits out something like that which hurts and I feel like my stomach drops. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted May 5, 2017 Share Posted May 5, 2017 Maybe he is unsure that you like him as much as he likes you and he's throwing these things out to get a reaction from you. A jealous reaction from you would reassure him you care. I can understand how it makes you feel though. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts