kgal Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 Some of you have read my other posts re: my situation... If you haven't here's some background... I met someone online...we fell in love and we also met in person and slept together. He is on the west coast and I'm in the midwest. Anyways... lately, for about the past month he was acting as if he could care less.. and would limit our conversations. He recently went to the lake over the weekend.. and I found out that he didn't go w/his kids. When I asked who he went with (actually, I sent him a text asking).. he didn't reply back. I called but no answer... I feel like he's not telling me for a reason. I just cried and cried and I kept on calling and texting cuz I couldnt believe he was shunning me. I don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted August 1, 2005 Author Share Posted August 1, 2005 Let me UPDATE you all once more... He IM'd me tonight tellin me that he didnt see all the messages cuz his phone was on silent. Then he told me he didnt go to the lake w/a woman and he just went and hung out and stuff. He told me to relax and he wants to see me when I come there this week. What now??? Link to post Share on other sites
Israfil Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 Don't believe him. Trust your gut. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 Originally posted by kgal He is on the west coast and I'm in the midwest. 2000 mile seperation = no relationship Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale 2000 mile seperation = no relationship 2000 mile distance = cyber relationsh*t Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted August 1, 2005 Author Share Posted August 1, 2005 No no no... if you don't have any helpful advice, please don't reply. Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 SORRY!...damnit, I knew I should have used a smilie to indicate that I was only trying to be funny (failed miserably obviously )........ Okay...I understand your situation COMPLETELY. I'm in Vancouver and the ex lived in Ottawa - we were separated by 2000 miles. And yeah, unfortunately the whole thing went sour after a year and 1/2. You're asking "what now?"...well you're going to see him this week, that's a good thing, a great opportunity for in-person discussions on exactly what direction this relationship is heading. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 I am with Israfil. Judging by your other posts you don't even have a relationship with him; nothing more than with the nearest kangaroo (assuming that you visit the zoo once a year). What do you really know of him? And what do you think you know of him? There is probably a grave mismatch between the two. His phone on quiet? Given the fact that he is a father, I wonder if it could be plausible and irresponsible, or even implausible and irresponsible. You seem to have built up an ideal version of him in your head, which is of course quite unreal in reality. You are almost desperately trying to believe that nothing is wrong, and that everything will be alright. Save yourself the heart-ache, and do not go, and break things off completely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted August 1, 2005 Author Share Posted August 1, 2005 Rosalind... I know you were tryin to joke about it... Im just extrememly sensitive to everything right now. I guess I want to here that things are going to work out.. I want them to so bad. Sorry things didn't work out w/you and your ex. It seems like I am always wondering how he feels. I just have alot of time on my hands right now... Talking in person is a good idea. I'll be closer to him (2 hours) later this week... so that will limit the distance.. which is a good thing. I just hope he doesnt go back to the west coast. D'Arthez....thanks for your help.. I really can't see myself breaking things off.. I don't feel that I could go through that right now. I'm just in a major state optimism and I want to see where it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
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