How often do you see your AP?

[starswewillnavigate]

This is aimed more at the OW/M who aren't in their AP's "orbit" (ie aren't family friends and don't work together) but curious to know how often everyone sees their AP? And how often you contact in between.

 

xMM and I saw each a lot initially, as often as we could and messaged all the time in between. Then he pulled back but carried on messaging everyday. Then it became a once a month cycle of meet, withdraw, warm up, meet again with very little contact in between.

[somanymistakes]

Since we're trying to avoid sliding into a physical affair we don't see each other in person at all, we only have long phone calls once or twice a week.

 

His wife has gone to stay with her mother for a week because she "needs space to think". I kind of wonder if she's rigged up secret recording devices in the house in the hopes of catching us, seeing how people in the infidelity forum are always suggesting voice-activated recorders and all that. She'll be disappointed.

[lostgirl87]

MM and I used to work together so we saw each other every day, went out to lunch 2-3 times per week and he'd come over at least once a week. Then, when he was unemployed and I was working, we saw each other for lunch a few times a week and he'd come over after work about once every other week. It was harder for him to justify being gone while unemployed. When he started working, we'd meet up for dinner or a quick hang out at least once a week but then we "took a break" and went a few weeks without seeing each other. And finally, once I lost my job and he was working, we saw each other several times a week for lunch and he'd come over usually once a week.

 

As far as communication, he called me some mornings before work but always every day after work. We'd text during the day depending on how busy we were. In the evenings we'd text on Snapchat. On weekends, I required him to reach out every morning and let me know what he'd be doing, at least with a text. he'd try to call if he could. If not, Snapchat was our method of communication. In other words, we talked every day several times a day in some form or another. I required him to be available for me to communicate with him whenever I wanted. As I write this I realize I wasn't the most easy going OW hahah.

[PickledHead]

I see MM 2 or 3 times a day. We don't work together and have no link family wise but we make the time to see each other

 

We have at least one night out a week and a weekend away every few months

[NikonRN]

My exMM lived in another state 1400 mikes away. We'd physically see each other just two or three times a year when he came to hometown or I went there. When we were younger , some twenty or so years ago...we'd see each other every day through work or through living a few blocks from each other.

[TheBathWater]

I'm lucky. I'm the OM to an engaged woman who has been living with me 5 out of 7 days a week. Her fiancé has been on an ongoing travel assignment for work and only comes home a couple of days per week. Otherwise, she's all mine (at least for now). I've got it made.

[Lady2163]

I was also long distance with XMM. We saw each other roughly every 4-6 weeks. We'd spend a couple hours together each day I was in his area. Usually sex, but sometimes we'd go do other things. He's admitted that he never realized how stressful those days were. He'd be juggling work demands, home demands and not wanting to piss me off by doing a slam, bam, thank you, ma'am quickie. I always planned other activities in case he cancelled at the last minute and I never pressured him for more time.

 

Communication wise, when we first started we emailed throughout the day until his company put the end to personal emails. We talked daily and texted several times a week. We rarely communicated on the weekends.

[Southwardbound]

Ours is Long distance, so we see each other in time stretches of two-three weeks where we live together, with an in between time span of 30-40 days. We talk or text, email constantly everyday, communication in any type of relationship is important.