Worried about myself

[GeekLover]

I just need to put it out into the universe: I'm worried about my own well being. I thought I was doing well, but I'm not at all. My mental health is suffering. I've had a couple friends to talk to, but it's getting old for them I'm sure. I can't dump on them anymore.

 

I just started seeing a new therapist, which is a good start, but it also makes me sad. I've seen one before, but it was more geared toward "couples therapy". Now it's strictly for myself, and it scares me that I've put myself in this position...that I'm at the point where I feel I need to reach for professional help. I know I shouldn't be ashamed, but I kind of am. I feel I should be stronger than this.

 

Anyway...I have no question...just...stating my feelings I guess.

Thanks for reading.

[marie25]

Don't feel bad - I think it's weaker to not seek help and instead live in sadness. You are making strides.

 

My work with my therapist helped me so immensely. I went from someone with little emotional control to having so much control over my life and choices. I am still sad, but I believe I'm on an upward slope.

 

Try doing things that make you happy - keeping busy, etc. Youve heard it before but try implementing one of those things in your life and it will help :-)

[Ronni_W]

I feel I should be stronger than this.

Too many people have this same idea about seeking proper help for their specific needs or challenges. As you know, it's a false idea but nevertheless it persists in the general population.

 

We don't think twice, though, that all professional athletes work with sports coaches, and many with sports psychologists -- they recognize the benefits and they don't take on any stigma about it.

 

When you think about it, beginning in childhood we are given very little if any actual proper education and training in good mental-emotional (psychological) health habits and practices -- if we 'got lucky', our parents will have been more 'functional' than more 'dysfunctional' ...but, for the most part, they too would have been well-served if they had had the insight and self-awareness to seek professional help for themselves, whether a therapist, life coach, counselor or spiritual mentor.

 

You've put yourself in a great position...to realize as much of your full potential as possible. .

[BaileyB]

We all have times in life when we struggle. We all have times in life when we are desperately sad.

 

I've been there, it doesn't feel good but there is no shame in seeking assistance. It takes great strength to admit that you are struggling and ask for help.

 

I went through some very sad, lonely years after the sudden death of my mother. My family struggled and relationships were almost lost. I was heartbroken and very, very alone... But, life has a strange way of leading each of us down paths that we could never imagine for ourselves. If you would have told me five years ago during the worst of my depression that I would be happier than I have ever been, I would never have believed you. But, that's exactly what has happen for my family.

 

There is always hope. Things will get better, with time. Best wishes.

[NTV]

Do you journal?

[preraph]

NO! If you had cancer, you'd go to the doctor, right? Mental illness is real illness for which you may need to see a doctor. You should be proud of yourself for being self-monitoring enough to recognize that something is changing for the worse and getting help for it. And it was a good decision to do that rather than leaning on your friends, who are concerned about you but can't help you.

 

There is no shame in seeing a therapist. The only shame is how much those people charge! If they were affordable, we'd ALL go just to vent and such. As long as you feel good about this therapist, you keep going and follow their directions to the T. Get feeling better soon!

[seeyoung87]

Don't be embarrassed or ashamed. I've been looking up counseling for myself. If it weren't so expensive I'd do it. Don't be ashamed in your quest to better yourself.

[Thisguy21]

Take it from me, it's weaker to run from your issues then face them. This is coming from someone who has a long history of bottling issues, then turning to the bottle. I've run from a lot in my past.

 

It takes more strength to admit you need help and seek it then to know you need help and refuse to ask for it. Pride is a double edge sword.

[Ronni_W]

I've been looking up counseling for myself. If it weren't so expensive I'd do it.

There is something you might try: Contact local psychotherapy training schools or the psychology department at a local university, and ask if they run low-cost or no-cost clinics for their graduating intern students. The counseling is high-quality and the intern students work under supervision.

 

Of course though, whether intern student or already graduated, if/whenever you feel that your counselor/therapist is not doing a good job that fits in with your needs, then do fire that one and look for another.

[Gillys]

As others have said, you should Not feel weak or ashamed about seeking help for mental illness. Deep down I think most people respect any person who wants to improve their wellbeing and health. Personally, I think it's a sign of maturity and a very likable quality to find someone who values self improvement.

 

Enthusiastically, get the help you need and I hope you feel better my friend. You deserve it ?

[Inya]

I can't dump on them anymore.

 

dump on us, we are listening and we care

[whatnot]

It's humbling to admit you can't fix yourself. The reality is....I could not. There's a freedom in admitting the truth.