Reliving your moments?

[freengreen]

 

A year or two ago there was a BH posting a lot on the infidelity and OW threads both. He posted he had friends who talked about and showed pics their OWs had sent them and laughed about the photos and the women in this group setting behind their backs. When confronted about being a part of this type of mocking behavior by tolerating it he was very defensive.

 

And he continued to frequent the OW threads appearing as if he was offering support.

 

Anyway, long story short, ends up he, a BH posting that he was trying to reconcile with his WW, "fell into" an EA with one of the OW he was "supporting" who was posting on LS. I watched it unfold right here on LS. This woman was hurt badly by this BH who had led her on.

 

You dont say! O.0

[LivingWaterPlease]

I hear you, and I agree with you for the most part. I do my absolute best to stay out of situations where this kind of stuff can happen, but, unfortunately, it's part of my job to work with these types of people (rich/powerful men).

 

I will admit, I do have a somewhat condescending attitude towards women, but I have that same attitude towards men, so it's not like I'm singling out a group. I kind of feel like most of the OW out there are like a 65 year old guy who has a 20 year old girlfriend. His friends are all going to look at him and kind of laugh behind his back "dude, she's after your money". And we'd look at him and think "how can you be so blind". Well, that's exactly how I feel about a lot of the women who post their stories here, you're not seeing the reality of the situation, just like the gold digger is after the old mans money, the AP for a lot of these women is just after sex. And they, just like the older guy with his hot 20 year old GF, just don't see it. People who intentionally deceive themselves make my head hurt; if you're going to get into an A, or if you're going to marry a trophy wife, expect that they are there for reasons other than "love".

 

I'd NEVER put myself "above" doing this. I know I'm fully capable of it. The only reason it hasn't happened to me is because I'm careful to avoid situations where it could happen. But I'm 100% capable of doing this, and watching my wife torn apart by my stupid decisions. So please don't take me as holding myself above, I'm not.

 

Thanks for your reply, Overtaxed, and your honesty in admitting, what seems to me to be a condescending attitude toward women. And then admitting you have a condescending attitude toward men, too.

 

This prompts me to want to investigate further your reasons for this but I don't want to t/j OPs thread anymore.

 

I do want to add, though, there are many rich powerful men and women both who are faithful to their spouses, humble and gracious, also. I have seen great charity and compassion from folks who are wealthy and generous in spirit toward those who have had little advantage in life and have made a mess of their existences through poor choices.

 

Also, a scene comes to mind you may or may not be familiar with. It happened long ago when the richest, most powerful, purest and most noble of men stood with courage to defend a woman caught in the very act of adultery. The crass low lifes who accused her scrambled quickly away in the light of His presence as He stated, "Let he that is without sin cast the first stone."