Mysterio Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 At this time in your life. Assuming that you are single. What do you think it takes to be with you romantically. For me. Any women that wants me to invest in them romantically for the long haul. Has to be Single/Widowed/Divorced with out kids. S/W/D with one to two kids. 30 to 40 something in age. Maybe early 50's if there is a connection. If Separated. Depending on how well we click. I may still invest in the relationship. Although there needs to be major traction getting Divorced and we will not be living together or having kids if there is a Separation around her. An Engagement/Living together may happen when we hit the 2-3 yr mark. I really don't want kids, but I may compromise with just one. Then its the big V or tubes tied between us. No problems with cats. Accepts me as I am pretty much. I am working at a Hospital and I don't see myself leaving there any time soon. I am not a homebody and don't want to sit around watching TV/Movies. I don't Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 I'm actually pretty content being single right now so for a man to want any of my time he better be awesome. Because I'm awesome 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 (edited) Big tits, small waist, shapely ass, pretty face, inviting mouth. And before you get excited OP, FEMALE. Oh ya, and personality. It actually takes a whole lot more than that. No on the big tits. Really, I love women that are heroically functional. Edited May 11, 2017 by Imported 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 I had a great prospect (I'm 64) just a few years ago who is still on my social media, and I just got worn out with the emails alone (he's long distance in NY where I would never want to live but used to live in my town and I've always know who he is). I mean, really had a crush on this guy decades ago but he was married then, so I mean, if I was going to get it together for anyone, it would be him, but it was just too much making time even for the daily emails (he's a writer and I'm also long-winded so they were hefty emails). When on top of my two jobs and everything else I had to take care of my sister's business and home while she was in the hospital, the whole thing just became a burden and I told him it had gone on too long, which it had, three years. There was a point at which we should have gotten together. We both had had obstacles. I was on a diet when I started talking to him and wanted to finish it before getting together and he knew how much I weighed and stuff. And once I was "ready" enough, right then his journalism job prospect fell through and then he was financially unstable for a long time, so right when I was ready to get together and he was ready to get together, then it became impossible for him. So things just kept going long-distance until it got to be too long. During that time I had to be at the hospital all the time for my sister, I was barely able to walk, so the prospect of sex just sounded painful and better left to practicing at home alone, and it still does with torn miniscus, arthritis, etc. At a certain point, starting a new relationship just sounds like a lot of trouble, I'm afraid. I still really like the guy, and he's successful again, sends articles he writes, but we don't email anything personal anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mysterio Posted May 11, 2017 Author Share Posted May 11, 2017 Prayers for your sisters Health Preraph. I kind of thing as we age sometimes that big romantic desire kind of wanes for some people. I have three friends that had to really change their lives for their women. Friend A. Has to live with the fact that his GF is still legally married to her ex. Even though they separated for almost 8 yrs. Friend B. Had a long distant relationship with his GF for 5 yrs and had to manipulate his schedual just to drive 14 hours to see her every 6 weeks. I could never see his GF doing the same thing for him if the situation was reversed.. He has been living with her and their bio kid for 8 yrs now in another city. Friend C. Currenlty separated from his ex. Can't live without a GF. Managed to get a new one after a year of being seperatred. his Current GF has major problems. Bi Polar and job stability. She is now getting her GED. He has to to work two jobs just to support them. Its not like she can get a job that easy. She has Anxiety issues as well that prevents her from getting a decent job. So my standards are to flush out any nonesense that comes my way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Titanll Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 Hmm... I need a great cook, knows her way around a horse, doesn't watch reality TV, lets me control the radio (unless she likes my kind of music), doesn't have celebrity crushes or talk endlessly about her ex, loves puppies and babies, a sense of humor is a must, can't be a picky eater (I hate that), reasonably fit, adores me, high sex drive, drinks but not too much, knock out gorgeous (my definition)...I think that's about it. The list is not all inclusive... Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 ^Well, you lost me at "babies," and then again at "reasonably fit." 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Titanll Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 ^Well, you lost me at "babies," and then again at "reasonably fit." Haha! I figured I would lose most folks with the "knowing her way around a horse" bit. Everyone loves puppies and babies, right? Reasonably fit to me means probably less fit than me but not a total flub that gets out of breath walking up a flight of stairs. Girly and I mountain bike so she's good in that department as well as all of the others that I mentioned. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 Haha! I figured I would lose most folks with the "knowing her way around a horse" bit. Everyone loves puppies and babies, right? Reasonably fit to me means probably less fit than me but not a total flub that gets out of breath walking up a flight of stairs. Girly and I mountain bike so she's good in that department as well as all of the others that I mentioned. Well, if you were looking for a grandmother, I'd be almost perfect for you except for the babies. I love horses, but could not more get on and off one than fly anymore. Puppies, all day long. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 Haha! I figured I would lose most folks with the "knowing her way around a horse" bit. Everyone loves puppies and babies, right? Hehehe, I am everything on your list (and I might just out ride you), but I don't like babies, nor am I single. (Oh and you can control the radio as long as it's not exclusively new country) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 12, 2017 Share Posted May 12, 2017 When I occasionally get bored with being single, I date someone for a few months and I am thrilled again when I am back to being single. I haven't been on dating sites for a while now and I couldn't be happier. It would take a lot for me. Simply, he would have to make my life better than it currently is. My main problem is that the whole society is couples oriented. I wish more people realized that being in a relationship (let alone marriage and children) are completely optional. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Titanll Posted May 12, 2017 Share Posted May 12, 2017 Hehehe, I am everything on your list (and I might just out ride you), but I don't like babies, nor am I single. (Oh and you can control the radio as long as it's not exclusively new country) See, we are on the same page with the radio. I like some country but some of this new stuff is horrible. How in the world can someone in Frisco out ride a Montanan cowboy? And obviously you joke about babies...everyone loves babies and puppies haha! Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted May 12, 2017 Share Posted May 12, 2017 See, we are on the same page with the radio. I like some country but some of this new stuff is horrible. How in the world can someone in Frisco out ride a Montanan cowboy? And obviously you joke about babies...everyone loves babies and puppies haha! That would be because I grew up out HERE, surrounded by lots of THESE. While San Francisco may be “city” 45 mins down the coast its another world. I have literally ridden my horse to school (which was surrounded by cow pastures, and had a pen to park your horse for the day). I got my first horse when I was 8, and kept it at a working cattle ranch. Been riding all my life, from breaking youngsters, retraining OTTBs, flipping auction horses, years working for high end sport horse barns, competed in everything from three day eventing, jumpers, team penning, barrel racing, and dressage – you get the idea! I still ride 5 days a week after my office job – HERE is where you will find me most evenings (yes, thats my appy). No brad Paisley, but I love some bakersfield sound. And really, I am not a fan of babies, big reason why I never had one of my own! Kids are okay, but someone else can hold the baby. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Titanll Posted May 12, 2017 Share Posted May 12, 2017 That would be because I grew up out HERE, surrounded by lots of THESE. While San Francisco may be “city” 45 mins down the coast its another world. I have literally ridden my horse to school (which was surrounded by cow pastures, and had a pen to park your horse for the day). I got my first horse when I was 8, and kept it at a working cattle ranch. Been riding all my life, from breaking youngsters, retraining OTTBs, flipping auction horses, years working for high end sport horse barns, competed in everything from three day eventing, jumpers, team penning, barrel racing, and dressage – you get the idea! I still ride 5 days a week after my office job – HERE is where you will find me most evenings (yes, thats my appy). No brad Paisley, but I love some bakersfield sound. And really, I am not a fan of babies, big reason why I never had one of my own! Kids are okay, but someone else can hold the baby. Probably a good thing that we are both taken...I might would wife you haha! Beautiful pics, by the way. Almost as beautiful as Montana...hehe! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted May 13, 2017 Share Posted May 13, 2017 That would be because I grew up out HERE, surrounded by lots of THESE. While San Francisco may be “city” 45 mins down the coast its another world. It sure is!!! Good lord.... Sounds and looks like where I live now. I think you and I talked about this before but I can't remember if I live where you grew up??? (no horses for me tho) Link to post Share on other sites
Sloppyseconds Posted May 13, 2017 Share Posted May 13, 2017 For me, to be worth my time, I felt that i needed someone well rounded. A brilliant mind that could converse with ease about any old thing. Someone who I felt comfortable and safe with. Eye contact. Strong body language, in a positive way. Someone who I could feel okay with seeing my tears. Someone I could talk long into the wee hours with and never be bored. Honest eyes. Someone I could sit in silence with yet speak volumes together. A scent that ignites something within. All this wins over physical appearance, however, good hygiene is important. I don't have a type as such, but the mind is a beautiful thing and someone who keeps mine engaged is definitely worth a look. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
somuchfortheone Posted May 13, 2017 Share Posted May 13, 2017 (edited) At this time in your life. Assuming that you are single. What do you think it takes to be with you romantically. For me. Any women that wants me to invest in them romantically for the long haul. Has to be Single/Widowed/Divorced with out kids. S/W/D with one to two kids. 30 to 40 something in age. Maybe early 50's if there is a connection. If Separated. Depending on how well we click. I may still invest in the relationship. Although there needs to be major traction getting Divorced and we will not be living together or having kids if there is a Separation around her. An Engagement/Living together may happen when we hit the 2-3 yr mark. I really don't want kids, but I may compromise with just one. Then its the big V or tubes tied between us. No problems with cats. Accepts me as I am pretty much. I am working at a Hospital and I don't see myself leaving there any time soon. I am not a homebody and don't want to sit around watching TV/Movies. I don't Single, Christian, 35 - 42 years old, no young kids, no desire for additional kids, have to earn decent money (nothing incredible, but able to cover their own bills and save for retirement), have to have it together.. make wise choices... not drink excessively, not work excessively, be honest, faithful, loyal, not selfish, and definitely want someone who sees the value in me and what I bring to the table. Must be smart and must love dogs. Also I'd prefer them to be mature and not huge into social media, snap chat, etc Edited May 13, 2017 by somuchfortheone Link to post Share on other sites
Titanll Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 It sure is!!! Good lord.... Sounds and looks like where I live now. I think you and I talked about this before but I can't remember if I live where you grew up??? (no horses for me tho) No horses? You poor woman. How do you get to town? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 No horses? You poor woman. How do you get to town? I ride in on a cow. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mysterio Posted May 14, 2017 Author Share Posted May 14, 2017 Single, Christian, 35 - 42 years old, no young kids, no desire for additional kids, have to earn decent money (nothing incredible, but able to cover their own bills and save for retirement), have to have it together.. make wise choices... not drink excessively, not work excessively, be honest, faithful, loyal, not selfish, and definitely want someone who sees the value in me and what I bring to the table. Must be smart and must love dogs. Also I'd prefer them to be mature and not huge into social media, snap chat, etc All you said is great, but it goes out the window f there is not physical desire.on your part towards them and vice versa. I will state again in detail. 30.40's age range. Non smoker/major drinker. I don't even want a big heavy duty swearer as well. She treats people well. Warm/Sweet/Sharp and adorable is what I am looking for. Girl next door type. Dotes on me and is verbaly/physically loving towards me. Expect the same from me as well. As for kids. although I would not want kids. I am willing to compromise in terms if she has kids two at the most. If she wants one with us. Then I can make that happen, but thats it. As long as out core values are set. We should have few problems. What I am going to get first. I think she will be a single mother of 1 child. Then the second choice will be late 30 and childless. If I go acroding to who I am running into. I think a woman could land a single childless guy before a guy could land a single childless woman. Link to post Share on other sites
somuchfortheone Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 All you said is great, but it goes out the window f there is not physical desire.on your part towards them and vice versa. I will state again in detail. 30.40's age range. Non smoker/major drinker. I don't even want a big heavy duty swearer as well. She treats people well. Warm/Sweet/Sharp and adorable is what I am looking for. Girl next door type. Dotes on me and is verbaly/physically loving towards me. Expect the same from me as well. As for kids. although I would not want kids. I am willing to compromise in terms if she has kids two at the most. If she wants one with us. Then I can make that happen, but thats it. As long as out core values are set. We should have few problems. What I am going to get first. I think she will be a single mother of 1 child. Then the second choice will be late 30 and childless. If I go acroding to who I am running into. I think a woman could land a single childless guy before a guy could land a single childless woman. Yep - children bring a whole other level to the relationship.. then you have baby mama drama... or daddy drama... it's just too much stress out the gate for me. I don't want kids of my own... so I'll have a hard time finding a guy probably...unless he has older kids... most guys want kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 If I go acroding to who I am running into. I think a woman could land a single childless guy before a guy could land a single childless woman. I agree. And I don't know why that is. Since I've been divorced, I have only dated single childless men, even though I would prefer a divorced man with older children. It's just all that I have run into. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Never tried it but I think I'd like a single dad ...I love children and not really big on having ones of my own for ethical reasons (though I haven't ruled it out) and the trauma of pregnancy and childbirth: it'd certainly be an advantage to me. I'd get children with none of the downsides. Except the time/priority thing and yea they often don't like you I'm sure lol but I seem to get along great with lil kids 2 Link to post Share on other sites
telemakus Posted May 15, 2017 Share Posted May 15, 2017 Atheist or agnostic. Accepts Darwinian evolution. Politically engaged (preferably left-leaning but not essential - just not on the far end of the right wing). Loves art. Loves discussion and debate. Similar sense of humour. Willing to go on the occasional all - day pub crawl around London. Gets on with my daughter. Has zero interest in super hero movies or reality TV. Even tempered. Not bothered about 'text-game' (yawn). Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted May 15, 2017 Share Posted May 15, 2017 It sure is!!! Good lord.... Sounds and looks like where I live now. I think you and I talked about this before but I can't remember if I live where you grew up??? (no horses for me tho) You are north of SF right? This is the San Mateo County Coast - south of SF on the peninsula. Moved back and spent some years there while still working in San Francisco. I swear, best of both worlds. I could go to a dinner and concert in the City, and come home to my cabin that didn't have TV, or cell phone service, (barely any internet), and the closet neighbor was 90 acres away. But we did have stars, and bob cats, and a melodic stream, and towering redwoods, and wild iris. Yep I miss living in the woods dearly at times. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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