cutie26 Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 I met her in May, I had seen her around before but we never really talked until she came up to me one day and started a conversation She asked for my number first and even started the flirting. I was a little surprised because i am usually the one doing the chasing. Anyway we talk for a few weeks and things seem to be going well. We have a lot in common and we just seemed to click you know. We haven`t gone out yet, but we talked about it and we hung out together a few times talking for hours and flirting a lot. I`m starting to really like her and I'm hoping she feels the same about me, but i don't know. She was giving me a lot of the signs of interest that i read about here.. The problem started on a Monday in June, i see her having lunch at the mall, so i ask if i could join her and she said yes. She had a big smile on her face like always when she sees me. We talk for a while, i tell her that maybe we should go out sometime that weekend and she agrees. We talk about were we would go and where to eat. Time is just flying by and she has to go back to work, she works in the mall, I tell her i will call her later to talk more about it. I called her that Friday night, and she seemed distracted, she tells me she is babysitting her nephew. I can hear him crying in the back ground , so she had to go but said she would call me back later. Well she never calls. I see her again the next Monday and i asked her why she didn`t call me back. She said she was busy and she had a lot going in her life right now. She seemed nervous too and she starting playing with her hair a lot. I tried to get closer to her and she backs off a little. Red flags galore, so i ask her what`s going on and she said nothing. I say ok and i left. Next time i see her she is distant and i ask if i did anything to upset her and she said no. I decided to stay a way for awhile. About 8 days later, i ran into her at walmart of all places . She is smiling and nice to me, so i`m thinking maybe things are ok now.. I ask her if we could go get something to eat and talk.. She said no she has something to do. So i ask if i could call her later. she said not right now. So now i`m confused. Is she telling me she needs time or she she telling me to get lost in a nice way? If she wasn`t interested, why didn't she just say so? This waiting and not knowing is hurting me worse than anything she can say to me. I just don`t understand why she changed on me all of a sudden and she won`t tell me anything. So many things are going through my head right now. It`s been 2 weeks and i haven`t heard anything from her yet. She did ask my dad about me last Friday.. She met my parents once when she came over to my house while they were here. I also found out Wednesday she lost her job last week, so i know she is going through a rough time right now. I want to call her so bad but i`m afraid it will drive her away further. I`m worried about her and i would like to help. I really care about her. What do you think i should do? Link to post Share on other sites
fundamental Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 NEVER EVER ASK A WOMAN What's wrong? Why didn't you call me back? Did I do anything to upset you? ....especially if she isn't your long-term girlfriend or else it equals death. It seems as if you built up a stronger attachment to her than she had for you. If she was down because she lost her and liked you, she would probably call you. DO NOT call her. Although she may like/have liked you a lot, you are scaring her off with your insecurity. Time to start over with someone new. You have to be kind but at the same time act like you don't care. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 2, 2005 Share Posted August 2, 2005 She sounded like a super friendly person and was taken aback by your wanting to hang out with her. Can you imagine if she said " No, I dont want to go out with you " Most women spare your feelings on this one. Most people in general will try to soften the blow by making an excuse of some sort. Sorry this did not work out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
krystalboricua Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 hey maybe she was scared of getting hurt or maybe something happened. sorry that happened 2 u but give her time and maybe she will come back 2 u. things take time. so whats new? she still hasn't called or talked 2 u. just give her time and maybe at the end , u and her will be wit each other?sorry Link to post Share on other sites
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