Would men look at my financial situation?

[Chilli]

She wouldn't be too bright then going for doctors and lawyers , l heard they usually paying 2 or 3 ex's by 50 and have the highest rate of broken families and divorce out there. And does she really want her man working 70 or 80 hrs a wk and rushing off at all hours on call

Weird though, l know multi millionaires and even have a few in my family, don't like any of them tbh, terrible people.

 

 

Go figure.

Edited May 18, 2017 by Chilli

[Chilli]

Nope , wouldn't worry me one bit , l'd probably rather it bc of the person it would make you and the fact that you probably have more time for life

[GunslingerRoland]

To the OP: Bankrate.com said that 40% of women would not date a man with a bad credit score, and 32% of men would not date a woman with a bad credit score.

 

That leaves 60% of women and 68% of men who don't care about it.

 

The fact is most people are "broke" or at least living paycheque to paycheque already. If you're broke you don't mind dating someone else in that situation.

 

For me, if I was single, and for some reason I decided to date a mid 20-something I'd pretty much expect her to be financially unstable. That is normal at that age, and I wouldn't think much of it. But if I was going to date someone my own age (40) whose financial situation was a mess, I'd be a lot more hesitant. What have they been doing with their life? Are they really bad with money? How can they be this far into their working career with nothing to show for it?

 

The older you get the more of a factor it becomes... I've seen a couple of posts on here with people 60+ talking about that situation, if you are at retirement age and flat broke, you're on the border of being a charity case, and i don't think most people want to be a charitable organization for their lover.

[normal person]

2) What I am trying to separate is

A) Financial stability coming when you work and

B) Love

 

You say you're trying to separate them, but you're doing the opposite.

 

I believe in love, I always will.

I do not consider relationships as business (you will have to excuse me if my opinion does not suit your convictions).

 

I'm not saying they're strictly business, I'm just saying it's naive not to consider the very pertinent business aspects of it. If you buy a house together, or if you have dramatically different spending/saving habits, your relationship, a lot like a business is likely to be affected.

 

A relationship for me must be based on love. Each of the partners must be financially stable, then they will not worry about money they will only live their love.

 

If a relationship "must" be based on love, then why is it that each partner "must" be financially stable? You're contradicting yourself. By your logic, financial stability shouldn't even enter into this conversation from your perspective. You're saying love is all that matters, assuming both partners meet the financial prerequisite. That's not a relationship based on love, that's love provided on the condition of financial security. Conditional love.

 

 

I can ask in another way: What if I am in love with a man who is financially stable (but I am not financially stable). Would he want to have a relationship with me?

 

I guess this depends on the man.

 

Some might, some wouldn't. It depends on a multitude of things that vary from person to person.

 

 

I do not care who earns how much because if I do not love the man I will never be happy with him.

 

I'm not saying you're a gold digger, but you also said that both partners have to be financially stable. Again, you require financial stability as a prerequisite, are conveniently ignoring it, and calling that condition "love."

 

All I'm saying is that you're trying to separate finances and love, but what you're really doing is showing how interrelated they are.

 

She wouldn't be too bright then going for doctors and lawyers , l heard they usually paying 2 or 3 ex's by 50 and have the highest rate of broken families and divorce out there. And does she really want her man working 70 or 80 hrs a wk and rushing off at all hours on call

Weird though, l know multi millionaires and even have a few in my family, don't like any of them tbh, terrible people.

 

Total conjecture. Divorce Facts and Statistics | What Affects Divorce Rates? - The professions with the highest divorce rate listed are all on the low end of the income spectrum, barring nurses. The professions with the lowest divorce rate include Medical scientists, legislators, dentists, podiatrists, optometrists, and engineers.

 

"The groups with the most prolific experience of marriage ending in divorce are downscale adults (adults making less than $20,000."

 

It's almost as if people who make the choice to go into higher earning fields are also more likely to pick more suitable partners and marry less impulsively.

 

May I ask: How is this unemployed woman supporting herself now? Is her job situation just temporary? Is she actively doing something to fix the situation? Does she have savings from her better time, or is she replying on debts?

 

She has horrific medical problems that prevent her from working too much or too strenuously. I think she gets disability. She "lucked out" and is living rent free in a house being flipped by her boss in exchange for her services as "personal assistant" which is basically just a charity job in which she makes basic living expenses. To her credit, she's totally candid about the fact that she wants to be with a successful guy because she's incapable of providing for herself given her circumstances. Can't really fault her for it, she's just trying to survive.

 

[Ahurtgirl]

Start looking around you and the people you know. Every relationship has different dynamics to their relationship, including finances and those dynamics typically change throughout a relationship.

For instance, when I was married, and I first met my exhusband, I made more than him. Ten years later, he had moved his way up and was making more than me. Finances had never been a reason for us to marry or not to and had nothing to do with our divorce.

Being back in the dating world, now in my late 30's, finances do seem to play into it more since myself and the men available to date have children also. You see life differently than when you are 20. It's about providing a good life for your kids. I had one guy propose to me until he realized my gross income was lower than his and even though my investment and asset value was higher than his, that was a deal breaker for him. He had a history of cheating also, so it was actually a good thing it didn't work out.

[S_A]

I am thinking about having a boyfriend. However I earn well but not much.

My question for the men is : Would you avoid having a relationship with a women who is financially unstable?

Does it matter how much I earn for a relationship?

 

Women can give some advice too.

 

Thank you!

 

What are you looking for? A real relationship and not a hook up? I'd say most won't care all that much, so don't be self conscious. My advice to you, since few girls catch on to this, if you're going to use a dating service like Tinder, do not say in your profile that you love to travel. Many "relationship guys" swipe left on those girls. You'll get a higher concentration of guys that want to "hit it and quit it" if you say you love to travel. Just avoid the word travel altogether.