Anyone ever get tired of dating?

[Blackened Heart]

As of late I've been dating quite a bit, and it has been so draining. Some good ones, some terrible ones, but nothing that ever sticks to be long term. Be it either I don't feel it, she doesn't, or neither of us do.

 

I'm kind of at the point now where I just don't want to date, well for who knows how long. Or I guess rather not try pursuing it. Meeting my compatible mate who I can spend a very long time with is always something I'm open do, just the looking for it is exhausting

 

So for any that did get to this point, was there anything in particular you did with your time and energy? And how long did it last for you? I'm thinking of just focusing more on my studies and physical health. I just did a mud run, and while I did perform good, I definitely got winded at the end would like to be in better shape for the next one.

[ZayKayWill]

Eh I wouldn't say I'm getting tired of it but like you said it becomes exhausting because it requires so much work and most of the time they don't stick it out which essentially means you wasted your time...but hey. That's just how it is sadly.

[d0nnivain]

When you get like this, it's good to take a break. Just change up your routine. Do something different. When you are ready try again.

[Chilli]

l dunno how people do the dating thing everyone talks about, l really don't.

 

l was on a date sight for a little while later on after my divorce but l never dated anyone/ went to meet a few and stayed over for a few days at ones , but nothing l'd call dates.

Think l've only real dated once, in my life. l more just tend to meet people, somehow, dunno how though because l have about the quietest life you ever saw a lot of the time especially since my divorce these days.

although l use to party it up good yrs ago.

 

Still , met gf in a forum , sadly it hasn't worked out, but, the bizarrest thing has happened , again, and there is someone , not sure yet.

But should it all turn belly up , the idea of maybe ending up dating in the future , is pretty effg sickening to me still.

But l feel as though l'm this age now and l couldn't afford to just cruise along in life until someone popped up now, could be yrs and yrs or maybe never , maybe l'm outa luck, yknow.

Bu l guess gf popped up and even though it hasn't worked out she was well worth every second and waiting for.

The other thing going on , well , she is just the most beautiful thing, but l know nothing or even understand it yet but ,,, surely l've gotta be outa luck if l do end up back on the singles heap.

So l cringe to think.

[Blackened Heart]

I did, once. I was spending way too much time using online dating sites. I was scouring POF and OKC for perspective matches. I was going out of my way to take pictures while I was out doing things. I was even working out like crazy so I would have better luck with women. It all wore me out.

 

I think it all comes down to perspective. If you are out there actively looking to date, the effort that you put into it can become exhausting. Stop focusing on dating. Don't even think about it. Just live your life as you normally would, without looking for dates. Instead of seeing new women as a dating prospect, just see her as another person. I did all those things, and incredibly, once I stopped worrying about dating, the stuff became so much easier, so much more fun.

 

This is actually the mindset I'm looking to set myself in for now, just live my life and not have that worriment of dating or being with someone. That constant thought or need to not be alone is so annoying, and has been in a way engraved into me over the years. I think the drained feeling of dating I have now is doing that, to make me just not care about it anymore.

[Frostedflake]

I've never been into dating. It's the pause between relationships that does it, like the idea of starting over again gets me tired before I even ask the woman out.

 

Right now I'm investing my energy into furthering my degree and hitting the gym. It feels well invested but I know eventually I'll have to date again.

Or change some life goals and become the fittest guy who earned all the degrees.