Author victoria88 Posted May 17, 2017 Author Share Posted May 17, 2017 Just to give an example of how emotional I am and how easily I get hurt: He postponed twice an appointment with me (just a cup of coffee at work): after the 2nd time he postponed I went home and cried for 3 hours... It was even worse when he said he would have a lot of work and will travel for 2 weeks (=he cannot talk to me again)...This I lived even worse much more than 3 hours of crying...I think it was 2-3 days of sadness and tears coming out of my eyes... I thought he did not want to come and I was hurt (=this is like if he says he does not care about me). Probably many women would never have this reaction (especially if they have been in many relationships). I realize that I live all this 10 times more emotional than it should be (but this is just me). Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 In that case, he is not interested in you (were you the one who proposed to grab coffee?). You have a hopeless crush on him, but you are not in love with him. Just to give an example of how emotional I am and how easily I get hurt: He postponed twice an appointment with me (just a cup of coffee at work): after the 2nd time he postponed I went home and cried for 3 hours... It was even worse when he said he would have a lot of work and will travel for 2 weeks (=he cannot talk to me again)...This I lived even worse much more than 3 hours of crying...I think it was 2-3 days of sadness and tears coming out of my eyes... I thought he did not want to come and I was hurt (=this is like if he says he does not care about me). Probably many women would never have this reaction (especially if they have been in many relationships). I realize that I live all this 10 times more emotional than it should be (but this is just me). Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 How much he makes you hurt is no measure of love. If he's postponing things with you, he's not interested. If he's at work he is obligated to just be polite. He hasn't shared anything with you. This is you having a crush on who you think he is, but you don't know him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 1) I think about him every day since the 1st day saw him; 2) I do not stop to think about him 3) I am happy just to see him (just to say HI) 4) the days when I do not see him I miss him 5) If he ingores me it hurts, if he talks to me I am in heaven 6) When he is laughing or smilling I am happy, when he is sad I wonder what is wrong... 7) My hearts beats quickly when he is around me... How is this all called if not love? This is called infatuation. You may end up in love, you may not. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 -I will explain how I feel you tell me what this is: 1) I think about him every day since the 1st day saw him; 2) I do not stop to think about him 3) I am happy just to see him (just to say HI) 4) the days when I do not see him I miss him 5) If he ingores me it hurts, if he talks to me I am in heaven 6) When he is laughing or smilling I am happy, when he is sad I wonder what is wrong... 7) My hearts beats quickly when he is around me... How is this all called if not love? Well, I really do not know everything about him, but i want to... Given the fact you know virtually nothing about the man (as evidenced by not knowing what his private life consists of), you are describing a text book crush. Don't ever go professing love to a person who you know very little about. He will think you unhinged. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 How is this all called if not love? So, we can be just friends or have a relationship. (it is up to him) I think people must be friends first then have a relationship. It is called infatuation. It feels similar to love but it wears off quickly & is quite superficial. True love takes time & nurturing to build. You actually have to know the person, not just the superficial things you pick up about a co-worker. Because he is a co-worker & not just a friend, please do not blurt out that you love him. You will make work VERY AWKWARD. This man will stop interacting with you altogether. Dating a work colleague is a very bad idea. It may be OK when your contract ends & you are not employed there anymore but for now stay away. Be friendly only Friends before a relationship is also not always the best way, after high school. If you tell a potential SO that you want to be friends they stop seeing you in a sexual / romantic way & it's almost impossible to get that spark back. What you really want -- but are saying all wrong -- a slow courtship where you get to know each other & develop a bond before things get physical. Just to give an example of how emotional I am and how easily I get hurt: He postponed twice an appointment with me (just a cup of coffee at work): after the 2nd time he postponed I went home and cried for 3 hours... It was even worse when he said he would have a lot of work and will travel for 2 weeks (=he cannot talk to me again)...This I lived even worse much more than 3 hours of crying...I think it was 2-3 days of sadness and tears coming out of my eyes... I thought he did not want to come and I was hurt (=this is like if he says he does not care about me). Probably many women would never have this reaction (especially if they have been in many relationships). I realize that I live all this 10 times more emotional than it should be (but this is just me). You need to get that under control because it's an extreme overreaction. What are you going to do if somebody actually hurts your feelings? At this point this guy barely knows more about you then you temporarily work at his place of business. You are no where near his dating radar. Any ill advised announcements about love on your part will be badly received. They could complicate your work & possibly cost you a next contract with this company. Link to post Share on other sites
Author victoria88 Posted May 18, 2017 Author Share Posted May 18, 2017 Thank you for your opinions... I really do not know everything about him, your are right about this. I also agree with someone who wrote that I am in love with the man I THINK HE IS. In general I am very shy and very careful and cautious. I do not trust people easily. I am sure that I will take the best and the wisest decision. Thank you all for the advice! P.s. I have a great job which I love and I do not want to complicate things... (and my colleagues are great too). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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