KrimzonWolf Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 I have a simple question... Do women think that men who play classical violin are gay? I am being completely serious, and I do not want to offend anybody by this post. I play the violin, and my brother plays the cello. We perform at weddings on a monthly basis and have for about 9 years. All I can say is that it seems like a turn off for girls, and I don't know why. I'm afraid to mention it during conversation because I for one don't want to brag, and two it just seems like I've received little to no "brownie points" for playing violin. I must add that I never started playing the violin for the sole purpose of scoring dates. I wanted to learn how to play, and I have been told that a happy side effects of being a musician is that lots of women are attracted to men like that. Now I will say that me and my brother have performed at many elderly women's meetings, and they seem to appreciate our abilities. Help Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 it depends if they wear a pink tutu or not 4 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 i dont know what girls or people are saying this.....but there is nothing gay about having a proficiency and an appreciation with and for a musical instrument .....and it is certainly true that respect and admiration is often to be had by women for men who have passion for music..... as far as musicians goes have dated a few and i would much much rather date a man who played the violin or cello, piano or guitar than a man who played in a thrash metal band....men who play music because they love it....are passionate for the love of music....are likely to be as passionate in other areas of life and love...so yes attractive to the opposite sex.........deb 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jjgitties Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 I dont think do. Playing an instrument does not infer sexual preference. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 No, I would actually be intrigued to learn that about a man I had an interest in. I like it when men have musical ability and/or are passionate about something in their lives. I would not assume that meant you were homosexual. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 My father used to play the piano for my mom, and I actually think it would be romantic for a man to serenade a woman with his violin. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 No. It would never occur to me to think such a thing. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Frostedflake Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 No, having an attraction to other men would be gay. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Where on earth does this idea come from? Here's one of my favourite musicians, so judge for yourself; Andre Rieu wiki, affair, married, Gay with age, height 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Where on earth does this idea come from? Here's one of my favourite musicians, so judge for yourself; Andre Rieu wiki, affair, married, Gay with age, height awesome artist....deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Maybe just stop trying to pick up women when you perform. It might be the setting. Link to post Share on other sites
doyathinkso Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Any women who would think such a thing are retarded boors and not worth your time. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 /..snip/ a happy side effects of being a musician is that lots of women are attracted to men like that. I used to think like that until I started playing the banjo. Oh wait, you said being a musician... ..lol.. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 I suggest you broaden your music genre and learn to play some country, or learn to play some pop songs. Don't limit yourself to "classical". It's not that they think you are gay, it's the fact "classical music" is not their taste and they find it boring. That's why they are turned off. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 I play the violin, and my brother plays the cello. We perform at weddings on a monthly basis and have for about 9 years. All I can say is that it seems like a turn off for girls, and I don't know why. Maybe they think your brother is your boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
whipster Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Go watch "Master and Commander" again and see how gay the violin and cello are. Russell Crowe is not gay. Spice things up with some Zydeco, and the girls will be eating out of your hand. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 If you learn anything in life, its that the things you enjoy should never be thought of in the same vane as whether or not it's going to make you more or less appealing to women... That's a road to nowhere... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 No it's not gay. It's pretty cool. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
vanhalenfan Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 No, I don't assume homosexuality. Actually it's intruiging! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Not sure who has been telling you that but sounds to me like you're in the wrong crowd friend. Playing an instrument does NOT make you gay. Man I really do hate people sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KrimzonWolf Posted May 21, 2017 Author Share Posted May 21, 2017 Well that's all very nice to know. People ask a lot if my brother and I are twins, which we are not, but I always figured that it would be easy to tell that we were brothers and not boyfriends. I have been offered to play in a country music band, so I might start considering it... As far as the setting goes, most of the time when girls come to weddings they bring a date, or some friends. Normally we perform the ceremony, and then leave, so I guess I'm not putting myself in a good position in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Well that's all very nice to know. People ask a lot if my brother and I are twins, which we are not, but I always figured that it would be easy to tell that we were brothers and not boyfriends. I have been offered to play in a country music band, so I might start considering it... As far as the setting goes, most of the time when girls come to weddings they bring a date, or some friends. Normally we perform the ceremony, and then leave, so I guess I'm not putting myself in a good position in the first place. The fact that they even *assume* that you're gay for that is pretty unbelievable. I see a lot of feminine guys in life but that doesn't necessarily mean they like having sex with guys, you know? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted May 22, 2017 Share Posted May 22, 2017 Uhhh...no. That's completely absurd! I was a music major in college so perhaps I know more classical musicians personally than the average person, but...I definitely do not associate violinists with homosexuality, or with heterosexuality for that matter. It's completely neutral in my mind. Personally I would find it attractive - I like it when my partner has a passion for something artistic and expressive, and it would mean we could go to the symphony together. Link to post Share on other sites
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