Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted June 4, 2017 Author Share Posted June 4, 2017 I would love to get back together with her as I still love her so I did send it back. Could she be possibly hinting around waiting for me to ask to get back together. I was the one who broke up with her by the way Link to post Share on other sites
ItIsNotMe Posted June 4, 2017 Share Posted June 4, 2017 Tell us more about your relationship and breakup Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted June 4, 2017 Author Share Posted June 4, 2017 We had a great relationship I don't know what I was thinking when I left actually I wasn't we had a heated argument and I left. I highly regret it now and I want her back. We are getting along great now and like I said she even lets me spend time with her girls I can't see her putting their emotions at risk of being hurt again if she didn't have good intentions. And she tenderly started putting xo and xoxo at the end when she texts me goodnight. My gut tells me she really cares about me and she's just feeling me out cuz she's told me the girls one first and she doesn't want them hurt again Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Share Posted June 8, 2017 Hello, I have recently struck up a good friendship with my ex. We went through the whole anger phase and everything after the breakup we are great friends again almost like when we were together. However I do want her to take me back as I was the one who left and I'm trying to improve and change to make it work even though the ball for getting back together is in her court. I can't make her if she doesn't want to. But she has recently let her kids' get attached to me and let me see them all the time and even take them out for a fun day every now and then. I love her and I Love her kids would she let me get close to them again if she didn't have any intentions of getting back together. Link to post Share on other sites
OptimismHopeTrust Posted June 8, 2017 Share Posted June 8, 2017 I think that an honest conversation would be the best thing to do. Since you broke up once and there was a lot of anger, the last thing either one of you probably want is more misunderstanding and mixed signals. You can "guess" at how she feels, but you won't know unless you sit down and talk openly with each other. You may both care deeply for one another....and if you both decide you want to try to make the relationship work, you might want to consider seeing a counselor together to better learn how to support one another and deal with conflict. Those children care about you and they enjoy spending time with you. She may not want to hurt them either and so she supports you having a relationship with them since you sound like you care a lot about them too. Take it slow and do not pressure each other. Ask if you can speak to her about your relationship with her and see where she is. Once you understand how she feels, you will be better able to handle your emotions and your direction. I hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted June 10, 2017 Author Share Posted June 10, 2017 I think that an honest conversation would be the best thing to do. Since you broke up once and there was a lot of anger, the last thing either one of you probably want is more misunderstanding and mixed signals. You can "guess" at how she feels, but you won't know unless you sit down and talk openly with each other. You may both care deeply for one another....and if you both decide you want to try to make the relationship work, you might want to consider seeing a counselor together to better learn how to support one another and deal with conflict. Those children care about you and they enjoy spending time with you. She may not want to hurt them either and so she supports you having a relationship with them since you sound like you care a lot about them too. Take it slow and do not pressure each other. Ask if you can speak to her about your relationship with her and see where she is. Once you understand how she feels, you will be better able to handle your emotions and your direction. I hope this helps. I sent her a message hinting around that I wanted to get back together but only after everything falls in place. I'm starting a new job and she recently thought she was going to uh a house but it fell through and now she's looking to move on top of school and working and still getting her daughters places they need to be. My gut tells me she wants to try again cuz she never said no and she still talks to me all the times and the person she vents to when she needs it so I'm sure she still cares. I have to take no response as better than a no cuz she has the personality that if it wasn't going to happen she would just flat out tell me no chance. She still lets me be a part of the kids' lives and maybe she's feeling out of it could work next time around. I'm starting to become a loss on what to do though but I have to try I really do love her and the girls Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 You don't need to hint. Make it very clear to her that you want to get back together and try again. If you keep going at this pace you are only making it easier for her to just have you as a friend. At some point soon you need to get the romance worked back into the picture. Don't let this go on too much longer. Not good for either of you and the kids. Maybe more time apart would be best if she's still not sure at this point. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted June 13, 2017 Author Share Posted June 13, 2017 Last night I went to look at my ex girlfriends new house and she showed me around and I think she was throwing out hints that we might be together again She said the thermostat didn't seem to be working right and told me to remind her to get it fixed this winter. She also seems to be getting friendlier but I've noticed she seems to be making hints about me being in her future Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 Hints are not good. Words mean very little. You should get some definite answers and not hints. What she says to you makes you feel hopeful. To her they are just words. You're in an emotional state so you will take things the way your heart wants them to be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 My ex girlfriend who I get along great with and talk to everyday recently sent me bikini pics when she was shopping for a new one. She has also recently told me that I was amazing. Is she flirting I would love to have her back I just need some opinions??? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 She is just doing it to keep you giving her attention and nothing more. Totally friend zoned. Watch your step. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 If you want her back stop the friend thing it does nothing for you. I'm looking for more if it's not there I gotta move on. Just hanging on won't get you anywhere except breadcrumbs and you'll starve on those. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 If you want to know, then ask her out and try to have sex with her. If she refuses then you can start ignoring her. In other words, only respond to the behavior you want: relationship and sex. You have enough friends. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 My ex girlfriend who I get along great with and talk to everyday recently sent me bikini pics when she was shopping for a new one. She has also recently told me that I was amazing. Is she flirting I would love to have her back I just need some opinions??? Did she break up with you? If she did, then she's yanking your chain for attention because pickings are slim and she knows she's got you until diversion crosses her path again. If you did, then yeah, she's trying to get back with you. But you need to point blank ask her why she sent the pics and why she's in touch with you if you want to know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted June 26, 2017 Author Share Posted June 26, 2017 I'm gonna ask her if we can get together sometime to talk about everything. I know I totally blew it last time cuz I did break up with her and I horribly regret it and it's like she's giving me hints that she wants me back like putting xo at the end of messages when she says good night sending sexy pics giving me big hugs every time we leave each other and she's even initiating conversation now. She vents to me whenever she's upset it's like I'm her best friend all over again and she's feeling me out to see if we are worth another shot Link to post Share on other sites
springy Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 We've been telling you this since you first started posting over a month ago. You need to straight out ask her if there is a chance of reconciliation/what her intentions are. None of us can know for sure what's on her mind. It does sound like she's enjoying the attention and you have been friend-zoned but we could all be wrong. Stop beating around the bush and ask her. Do not make any more generic plans to hang out or play friendsies until you find out what she's up to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted August 21, 2017 Author Share Posted August 21, 2017 (edited) Broke up with my girlfriend about 5 months ago. We lived together for just about a year and it was great untill I got comfortable in the relationship and quit trying. I know that was a mistake I should have never made. We had a fight one night after everything that we had been dealing with finally come out and I left. We went through the whole no contact phase and after that we are almost like a couple again. Doing things that couples do spending time with each other and all that. She has even let me get close to her two girls again which she is very protective of. She comes over to see me when she gets time or I will go over to see her and the girls whenever I have time off of work or some free. Tell each other good morning and good night flirt with each other and even cuddle up to each other whenever we spend time together. I do love her and realized I have made a tremendous mistake by leaving and I have worked on myself every day since I left to be who I should've been all along. I do want her back and the way she's been acting and warming up towards me I think she might want to give it another try also but I'm just not sure if she does or not but I can't see her letting her girls get close to me again or even letting me around them if she didn't have intentions of wanting to get back together. I'm the one who left so I know I'm going to have to bring it up as I can't expect her to since I'm the one who messed up. Does anyone have opinions on if it sounds like she wants to try again or should I live and learn and let go? My grandma told me that sometimes you have to lose something you love before you can truly appreciate it and that sometimes two people have to fall apart before they find how good they fit together and I see now how right she is!! Any opinions or advice would be greatly appreciated as if I do ask for her back I've got to do it before it's to late Edited August 21, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs~T Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 (edited) It's never too late. You need to communicate to her how you truly feel, let her know specifically what you are willing to change about yourself and that you are willing to work out the issues at her pace. It's pretty simple. Edited August 21, 2017 by smackie9 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 All this contact you are currently having -- you are giving it another go. You just haven't labeled it yet. Take her on a romantic date talk to her. Tell her you have enjoyed being part of each others lives again & that you recognize you messed up. in essence you be vulnerable. Then ask what she wants. Abide by her wishes. Yes, you are the dumper but she's the one who got hurt so you need to respect her wish to be cautious. Do not move back in quickly. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted August 21, 2017 Author Share Posted August 21, 2017 All this contact you are currently having -- you are giving it another go. You just haven't labeled it yet. Take her on a romantic date talk to her. Tell her you have enjoyed being part of each others lives again & that you recognize you messed up. in essence you be vulnerable. Then ask what she wants. Abide by her wishes. Yes, you are the dumper but she's the one who got hurt so you need to respect her wish to be cautious. Do not move back in quickly. I was thinking it seemed like we were giving another go just not as fast. We are pretty much like a couple minus the kissing and sleeping together and saying I love you. I'm sure she wants to take it slow but advance I've made she hasn't pushed me away I'm assuming that's good. She even puts xoxo at the end of her goodnight messages and someymtimes calls me by my old pet name she had for me. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 then keep on taking baby steps back into her good graces. Show her by your actions that you are worthy of a 2nd chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted August 21, 2017 Author Share Posted August 21, 2017 then keep on taking baby steps back into her good graces. Show her by your actions that you are worthy of a 2nd chance. One thing I'm not sure of though is sometimes it's like she goes cold on me. She still initiates conversation but she won't reply like she usually does or it will be short I know she's busy but could she also be losing interest at the same time or maybe getting impaitient becase I haven't made a move to talk about getting back together Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 She gets to set the pace. You push, you lose her. Choose wisely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Musclehampsrer1987 Posted September 3, 2017 Author Share Posted September 3, 2017 Hello, I am friends with my ex girlfriend and she and I have a great friendship. But one problem I broke up with her but I'm also in love with her still. I realized I made a huge mistake. I've apologized to her for everything and she was accepting. However I want more and want to be back together. I'm picking up signs that she does too, she's always making time for me in the little bit of free time she has and she has been flirting with me. Yesterday she showed me new underwear that she had got and I did flirt back saying I bet she looked great in them if have to see them sometime. She doesn't mind cuddling or any of that stuff. It's almost like we're a couple minus the kissing and sex. I just want to know how I go about asking her where our relationship stands and if there is a possibility we could be back together? Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 3, 2017 Share Posted September 3, 2017 Just put it out there. You've been wrestling with this since last spring. It's time to sh*t or get off the pot, as they say. You two are definitely not friends in the true sense, so I think it's time to either lay out your cards or detach completely for a long time, because being "friends" is never going to work if one is still longing for something more from the other. Link to post Share on other sites
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