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So to put this simply, I am a twenty-two year old guy, I haven't felt any real emotions in a year and the last relationship I was in was abusive and frankly I haven't really cared about any form of relationship in a long time. Not even friendship. I have two friends that remain to me. What the hell happened? I feel like there simply isn't someone like me, and if there were that I wouldn't meet them. And before you say there are many fish in the sea, let me list off basic traits of my personality:

 

-Excellent liar

 

-Not trusting

 

-Reclusive

 

-Dedicated to music to an extreme extent

 

-Intelligent

 

-Artistic

 

Frankly it's an extremely weird combination. However what is extremely interesting is that I am not depressed in any way, I simply do not feel anything. I work with a very attractive girl and I am not attracted to her. And even stranger is that I'm not attracted to men either. And I don't really have any sort of libido at all. I've gone to a gynecologist and they've said everything check out.... What the hell is going on? Nothing is wrong with me psychologically, I've gone to several counselors and they've racked their brains trying to figure it out, but keep coming back to the conclusion that nothing is wrong. What is this? Why am I not attracted to anyone and where has all that emotion gone?

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vanhalenfan

Wait...You're a guy but you went to a gynecologist? (I'm guessing transexual here)

 

But as I was reading this, my first thought was asexual. Have you looked into that yet?

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Wait...You're a guy but you went to a gynecologist?
yeah, I caught that too. You seem to be buying into that whole "choose your gender" thing a little too much
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No, I have not had any changes made under the belt so to speak. I was simply concerned as to the status of everything down there. I know it is mainly a crap I'm pregnant move by women but I was simply concerned that something may have happened.

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Wait...You're a guy but you went to a gynecologist? (I'm guessing transexual here)

 

But as I was reading this, my first thought was asexual. Have you looked into that yet?

 

Not really but generally speaking human sexuality hinges on a significant other, and the genes that make up our DNA and determine certain traits (IE whether or not a person is homosexual etc) do not contain a gene that activates the asexual trait in humans unless I am mistaken. As such it is extraordinarily weird that I have little to no emotion towards anyone whatsoever.

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I feel like there simply isn't someone like me, and if there were that I wouldn't meet them. And before you say there are many fish in the sea, let me list off basic traits of my personality:

 

-Excellent liar

 

-Not trusting

 

-Reclusive

 

-Dedicated to music to an extreme extent

 

Having the same personality traits as someone isn't always a good indicator of compatibility. Especially if the traits aren't particularly appealing ones, like those listed above. One reclusive, non-trusting, music obsessed liar isn't necessarily going to find happiness with another reclusive, non-trusting, music obsessed liar.

 

Frankly it's an extremely weird combination.

 

Perhaps, but I also don't think the novelty of your character traits or the combination of them is what's salient here.

 

However what is extremely interesting is that I am not depressed in any way, I simply do not feel anything.

 

Well, then... ok? You don't seem too troubled about it. If it were causing you some emotional pain or discomfort, I'd suggest getting some medical help, but it doesn't seem to be affecting you, other than the fact that you noticed it's a little odd.

 

I work with a very attractive girl and I am not attracted to her. And even stranger is that I'm not attracted to men either. And I don't really have any sort of libido at all. I've gone to a gynecologist and they've said everything check out.... What the hell is going on? Nothing is wrong with me psychologically, I've gone to several counselors and they've racked their brains trying to figure it out, but keep coming back to the conclusion that nothing is wrong. What is this? Why am I not attracted to anyone and where has all that emotion gone?

 

If nothing's wrong with you, and you feel fine, is there really an issue? You don't seem to be in any pain or have any desires that aren't being met. Maybe you're just asexual? It's uncommon but I don't know if it's at all cause for concern.

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The thing is, I have desires I just don't have any sort of feeling about them. I'm not attracted to anyone but yet I honestly want a relationship, and I think about that quite a bit.

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Have you ever had a screening for Asperger's Syndrome?Although Aspies are as unique as one's fingerprint, what stood out to me is your obsessiveness with a topic (music), your reclusiveness, and your lying. Some Aspies carry these traits. Although I'm a recluse as well (Social Anxiety Disorder and all), I still have desires for a lady to share my life with, though not everyone does. If you haven't, please get screened for AS.

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No, I have not had any changes made under the belt so to speak. I was simply concerned as to the status of everything down there. I know it is mainly a crap I'm pregnant move by women but I was simply concerned that something may have happened.

 

Huh?? Do gynecologists even agree to see men??

 

This thread is very confusing.

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