normal person Posted May 25, 2017 Share Posted May 25, 2017 Omg, this is 2017 not 1985. Have you been to a comic expo or something similar? Thens of thousands of gorgeous nerdy girls on the arms of nerdy guys. Nerd culture has NEVER been more in than it is now. Seriously. Not to mention computer programmers are making fortunes these days. The adaptable, smart, girls who can see potential in a guy are quick to realize this. The short sighted ones like those you described in the movie are doing themselves a huge disservice If you think this movie you watched represents real life, than you really need to get out more. Yeah, I've got to admit, that comment made me question his judgment. Link to post Share on other sites
jjgitties Posted May 25, 2017 Share Posted May 25, 2017 Op. What you have is self esteem issues. What you need to do is dress a little better, stop giving a fusk, and look happy. Women love a man who is happy. They see happy and they go after him and suck the life out of him until he is a miserable sack of ****. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted May 25, 2017 Share Posted May 25, 2017 A poor craftsman blames his tools.... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted May 26, 2017 Author Share Posted May 26, 2017 From my own experience I can say that being a nerd is far less of a problem than not being social. I've mostly been with somewhat nerdy women myself, but they were definitely attractive. But In would have never met them if I hadn't chatted them up, and attended parties or social events. If you are not very social and focused on a particular type, well yes, that will compound the problem. Well, I should've mentioned Aspergers holds me back. It affects my social skills badly, it's not "mental retardation" just a social disorder in case you didn't know. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 26, 2017 Share Posted May 26, 2017 I just thought of another reason why I can't seem to find a girl. It's because I'm educated and I'm stuck in a state with a low education level. I just don't seem to click here in Tennessee even though I was born here. Maybe I could find a relationship in a more educated state like CA or NY. You know people who think like me and are not ignorant. I take my goals very seriously and I'm more professional orientated than a partier or drinking type. Maybe I'm in the wrong state with the wrong type of people? I'm also liberal in a conservative state, so if I move to a liberal state, I might be able to find someone who shares the same interests? given the situation I think a move is in order but do your research first Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 26, 2017 Share Posted May 26, 2017 Well, I should've mentioned Aspergers holds me back. It affects my social skills badly, it's not "mental retardation" just a social disorder in case you didn't know. I'm thinking about joining this club at my university, it's for people with aspergers and other disorders like me, what do you all think? Did you do that? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted May 26, 2017 Share Posted May 26, 2017 Well, I should've mentioned Aspergers holds me back. It affects my social skills badly, it's not "mental retardation" just a social disorder in case you didn't know. Yes, I'm familiar with Aspergers. What I was saying that it will hold you back far more strongly than being a nerd. Many nerds have rather full social lifes. I would think that anything to compensate through experience what you do not pick up inherently in social situations may help you more than trying to shed a nerd image. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 26, 2017 Share Posted May 26, 2017 Many nerds have rather full social lifes. with other nerds...yes Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted May 26, 2017 Share Posted May 26, 2017 with other nerds...yes A very common misconception. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 26, 2017 Share Posted May 26, 2017 Well, I should've mentioned Aspergers holds me back. It affects my social skills badly, it's not "mental retardation" just a social disorder in case you didn't know. That speaks to Elaine567's inquiry as to whether you joined the club at school? There are coping mechanisms so you can be more social. Investigate those. Do get this addressed because it is most likely playing a roll in your social life, or lack thereof more so then your geography. Failing to address this but moving will simply have you facing the same issues in a different location. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted May 26, 2017 Author Share Posted May 26, 2017 That speaks to Elaine567's inquiry as to whether you joined the club at school? There are coping mechanisms so you can be more social. Investigate those. Do get this addressed because it is most likely playing a roll in your social life, or lack thereof more so then your geography. Failing to address this but moving will simply have you facing the same issues in a different location. Doesn't help when I feel like I'm a pariah in my hometown either. It could be all in my head too. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 26, 2017 Share Posted May 26, 2017 Doesn't help when I feel like I'm a pariah in my hometown either. It could be all in my head too. Do you know anything about The Secret or the laws of attraction? It's a theory that you get back what you put out there. Part of Asperger's is the inability to read social cues. So while I'm not going to say it's "all in your head" because that is dismissing what you are experiencing, your condition probably means you are more well liked then you think or that there is something you can change about how you interact with the world that will improve your social skills. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 I think that's a really poor attitude you have. So, you can't get a girl because they are too stupid (elitism), it's everyone else with the problem (delusion), and you think the answer is to run away somewhere else (avoidance). Move wherever you like. If you have no hustle, you'll always find it a struggle. I've heard guys complain about London, Paris, Miami, etc... Maybe, just maybe, the problem is you? Ill hustle for a job. A position or maybe a for piece of property or a sports car I really like. I will never hustle for a woman and rather enjoy the single life Insert: Shame you attack the OP for wanting a person of intellectual value. I hope you do the same when one ask a man to be fiscally stable (double standards) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lance01 Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 I just thought of another reason why I can't seem to find a girl. It's because I'm educated and I'm stuck in a state with a low education level. I just don't seem to click here in Tennessee even though I was born here. Maybe I could find a relationship in a more educated state like CA or NY. You know people who think like me and are not ignorant. I take my goals very seriously and I'm more professional orientated than a partier or drinking type. Maybe I'm in the wrong state with the wrong type of people? I'm also liberal in a conservative state, so if I move to a liberal state, I might be able to find someone who shares the same interests? Brad, from my experience as well young girls either like rich guys, or guys who drink and party all the time. If you're just an average guy who doesn't drink or party women will place you in the boring category or the friend zone. American women simply don't respect or respond sexually to intelligent, average wage earning men who don't participate in some type of party/drug scene. Here are your options to secure female company: 1. Date older women (35 and older) 2. Date foregin women 3. Date Asian women Link to post Share on other sites
Lance01 Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 Of course nerds can get girls. Have you seen Steve Jobs, Bill Gates & Mark Zuckerburg? Everybody knows nerds make more money in the end. Stop thinking of yourself as the nerd & start thinking of yourself at the successful brain. Develop your personality. Dress appropriately for the occasion & you will be just fine. Those men are rich and famous. Brad the OP isn't either of the two so he's not going to have the same opportunities. Link to post Share on other sites
Lance01 Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 I think that's a really poor attitude you have. So, you can't get a girl because they are too stupid (elitism), it's everyone else with the problem (delusion), and you think the answer is to run away somewhere else (avoidance). Move wherever you like. If you have no hustle, you'll always find it a struggle. I've heard guys complain about London, Paris, Miami, etc... Maybe, just maybe, the problem is you? Brad didn't say women were too stupid. You know what he meant, but you're trying to flip his problem back on him to make it look like it's all his fault. Bottom line is that in Westen culture if you don't drink or do drugs it's really hard to meet people and have intelligent conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 Bottom line is that in Westen culture if you don't drink or do drugs it's really hard to meet people and have intelligent conversation. This is utter nonsense - if you drink and do drugs it's going to be much harder to meet people and have intelligent conversation. And if you lump everyone into categories and refuse to deal with them as individuals ("girls only want rich men!") then it's not surprising you have a hard time finding a date. It's beyond laughable. Hell, just read posts from women on this forum and see how many of them are dating / married to men who are not partiers or millionaires. People are quoting you famous individuals because if I tell you that my friends R, D, H, J, and A are all male nerds on average wages with cute wives and girlfriends, you have no idea who the heck these people are or whether I'm just making them up. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 ,,,you're trying to flip his problem back on him to make it look like it's all his fault. Bottom line is that it IS all his "fault". Whose fault is it then? Unless he comes from a culture where his extended family and the community will find him a suitable bride, then he has to go out and do his best to find himself a partner in life, just like everyone else has to do. In order to change his life he needs to do a lot of stuff that he will find very scary and he needs to take huge risks that will catapult himself out of his comfort zone. Faint heart never won fair maiden. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/625139-last-night-hammered-home And what did I learn from this? I learned something that I think we are starting to lose, which is that in order to meet people you have to leave the house and go out and DO things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted May 28, 2017 Author Share Posted May 28, 2017 Those men are rich and famous. Brad the OP isn't either of the two so he's not going to have the same opportunities. Actually, I am very smart intellectually, I'm not smart with my social skills. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted May 28, 2017 Author Share Posted May 28, 2017 Also, don't women like intelligent men? I mean why do women only go for guys who party? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted May 28, 2017 Author Share Posted May 28, 2017 Also, I hope to be making pretty good money when I'm out of college, I'm majoring in Accountancy. Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 Also, don't women like intelligent men? Some do. I mean why do women only go for guys who party? They don't. Women are individuals. Some like one thing, others like another. If you think of them as just a single group of "women" you'll never get anywhere. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted May 28, 2017 Author Share Posted May 28, 2017 Thank you guys for trying to help me though, I really appreciate it. I think I may do better actually when I finally enter the work force, because it forces conversation since we probably have to work on business projects together and all that. Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 I know that and I go to college at the University of Tennessee. I'm a commuter so I don't live on campus.You're a college puke and you don't like the girls there? Yeah, just looked at the SAT score percentiles. I wouldn't call that an intellectual's paradise. Transfer! Or is in-state tuition an issue? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bradt93 Posted May 29, 2017 Author Share Posted May 29, 2017 You're wrong actually, the haslam business program is rated in the top 50 schools in forbes magazine. Link to post Share on other sites
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