The culture around me?

[bradt93]

Based on that attitude I would say that she is. How exactly did she bully you in middle school?

It's a long story, I prefer not to get into it.

[RecentChange]

A social disability actually.

 

Does that disability cause you to be a NASTY person?

 

I know a number of men with aspergers. With the huge numbers of computer engineers in this region, its fairly common to know people on the spectrum (as they tend to excel in this particular career field).

 

But I do not know any bitter, NASTY, foul mouthed aspies. Quit blaming your disability for your poor show of character.

 

You don't think I know that, why do you think I'm continuing on to my education all the way to my mba? Hey, I'm better than the bitch who I didn't tip and she doesn't have any education, yea, at least I'm not a damn waiter like her and I will her that to her face. You bullied me in middle school and who's the better one now?

 

There is a saying "you can't buy class". Sure, you can earn an education, you can make money, but that does not make you a BETTER PERSON, it simply makes you a person with more assets. You can still be a classless, nasty person, yet rich.

 

Mean while there are many who have CHARACTER. They have a true and genuine heart, and that is not changed by an MBA etc.

 

And when did Brook bully you? Because she knew about you getting in trouble for stalking someone many years ago? Because she didn't acknowledge you when you had her as a waitress a good decade later? When you stiffed her and her coworkers on the tip?

 

You know, most people here are trying very hard to be nice to you. Like Gunslinger, I have reached the point where it appears that you are simply not a nice person, disability or not.

 

At the rate you are going, you will never have a date, you will never develop friendships. As long as you insist on being a smug, nasty, thinks that they are better than everyone else human - you will be destined to be alone.

[RecentChange]

On the tipping, how to treat others note etc.

 

My friends and I have talked about this. How no matter how rich, gorgeous, fun etc a man may be - if he treats "staff" (waitresses, valet, gardeners etc) poorly, that is an absolute DEAL BREAKER.

 

Shows that they have no charter. Shows that they are entitled and selfish. There are few things more embarrassing that being out in public with someone who treats people of lower social standing with rudeness or arrogance.

 

I grew up under the wing of a wealthy family. They taught me the importance of ALWAYS thanking staff. Of always being polite and pleasant to those who are not as fortunate as you. To those who have to serve you in order to put food on their own table.

 

Money nor education does not make any one "better" than their fellow human beings. The way you treat people - thats what sets the "good people" apart from the "bad people".

 

Okay end of rant - no idea if any of that will sink in....

 

In this world we reap what we sow. Treat people with respect and kindness, and you will get it in return.

[Springsummer]

Did not read every post, but if OP was bullied because of his disability, then I think he is entitled to have some attitude and rub it in the bully's face.

 

You can't really judge OP if you have never been through what he went through.

[Springsummer]

Also, I hope to be making pretty good money when I'm out of college, I'm majoring in Accountancy.

 

ha? You don't need to be a nerd to be good at accountancy. all you need is just algebra skills and a decent memory.

 

gosh, why would anyone who is truly intellectually smart want to be am accountant? isn't that a waste of talent?

 

accounting doesn't require high IQ...my 2 cents.

[bradt93]

Did not read every post, but if OP was bullied because of his disability, then I think he is entitled to have some attitude and rub it in the bully's face.

 

You can't really judge OP if you have never been through what he went through.

That's exactly what she did.

[bradt93]

Does that disability cause you to be a NASTY person?

 

I know a number of men with aspergers. With the huge numbers of computer engineers in this region, its fairly common to know people on the spectrum (as they tend to excel in this particular career field).

 

But I do not know any bitter, NASTY, foul mouthed aspies. Quit blaming your disability for your poor show of character.

 

 

 

There is a saying "you can't buy class". Sure, you can earn an education, you can make money, but that does not make you a BETTER PERSON, it simply makes you a person with more assets. You can still be a classless, nasty person, yet rich.

 

Mean while there are many who have CHARACTER. They have a true and genuine heart, and that is not changed by an MBA etc.

 

And when did Brook bully you? Because she knew about you getting in trouble for stalking someone many years ago? Because she didn't acknowledge you when you had her as a waitress a good decade later? When you stiffed her and her coworkers on the tip?

 

You know, most people here are trying very hard to be nice to you. Like Gunslinger, I have reached the point where it appears that you are simply not a nice person, disability or not.

 

At the rate you are going, you will never have a date, you will never develop friendships. As long as you insist on being a smug, nasty, thinks that they are better than everyone else human - you will be destined to be alone.

You don't know anything about me, so don't judge me okay.

[5x5]

Hey, I'm better than the waitress who I didn't tip and she doesn't have any education, yea, at least I'm not a damn waiter like her and I will her that to her face. You bullied me in middle school and who's the better one now?

 

No you're not better than the waitress.

 

Do you understand that harbouring such a perspective makes someone rather unnatractive?

[d0nnivain]

Brad

 

 

This waitress may have bullied you in Middle School, when she was a CHILD. You are now a grown man. You are supposed to be mature. She had no such obligation back then.

 

 

I'm sorry that you were bullied but you need to be the better person as an adult. If asked, I'm sure the waitress is now sorry for her behavior because as an adult she can see how wrong she was & how much harm she caused.

 

 

You need to let go of what happened to you as a child.

[bradt93]

Does that disability cause you to be a NASTY person?

 

I know a number of men with aspergers. With the huge numbers of computer engineers in this region, its fairly common to know people on the spectrum (as they tend to excel in this particular career field).

 

But I do not know any bitter, NASTY, foul mouthed aspies. Quit blaming your disability for your poor show of character.

 

 

 

There is a saying "you can't buy class". Sure, you can earn an education, you can make money, but that does not make you a BETTER PERSON, it simply makes you a person with more assets. You can still be a classless, nasty person, yet rich.

 

Mean while there are many who have CHARACTER. They have a true and genuine heart, and that is not changed by an MBA etc.

 

And when did Brook bully you? Because she knew about you getting in trouble for stalking someone many years ago? Because she didn't acknowledge you when you had her as a waitress a good decade later? When you stiffed her and her coworkers on the tip?

 

You know, most people here are trying very hard to be nice to you. Like Gunslinger, I have reached the point where it appears that you are simply not a nice person, disability or not.

 

At the rate you are going, you will never have a date, you will never develop friendships. As long as you insist on being a smug, nasty, thinks that they are better than everyone else human - you will be destined to be alone.

I don't like being called a "stalker", I made a stupid mistake a decade ago, but I apologized to that girl for it and realized it was very immature. My point is some people who knew about it can't seem to let it go, mainly women. Why do women hold more grudges a DECADE later?

[bradt93]

I wish some of you all would understand me, but I know you can't since you don't know me in person, but I've battled severe depression for years and my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a year ago and she caught it early thank god. I've been to hell and back and I've come out stronger than ever. I'm very proud of myself.

[Bastile]

I wish some of you all would understand me, but I know you can't since you don't know me in person, but I've battled severe depression for years and my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a year ago and she caught it early thank god. I've been to hell and back and I've come out stronger than ever. I'm very proud of myself.

 

I think I do understand you. It's a case of blaming everyone else for your problems.

 

In order to improve, you are going to have to destroy your ego, and build something better/stronger in it's place.

 

Only you can really do that. You need to take responsibility for yourself.

 

And before you start talking about Aspergers again, RSD Tyler has aspergers...

 

You can choose to take that and use it as an excuse. Or you can see it as a challenge to be overcome.

 

Genuinely wish you the best of luck. I'm sure if you try to move forward, people will try to help. People are good like that. But, you need to do it yourself at the end of the day.

[RecentChange]

It's fine to be proud of yourself.

 

It's not okay to be smug and think you are better than others. It's not okay to call women the B word. It's not okay to be nasty and judgmental.

 

It's interesting that you don't want to be judged, yet you have many posts doing just that. Judging people. Judging your old classmate for be a waitress etc.

 

You want us to show you empty and compassion. How about you try lending empathy and compassion to others as well?

 

Like I said before, give kindness, receive kindness.

 

There is a good quote:

 

"Be kind, for everyone you meet, is fighting a battle you know nothing about"

 

You just told us about your secret battles and now want compassion. Remember you aren't the only one who has struggles that the world does not see. You are not special in that regard. You do not know what challenges and opportunities others have.

 

What we CAN judge people on is how they treat others. So remember the battles, and treat others with kindness.

 

It will make you a better person, you will bring light to others lives, and make the world a better place to be.

[d0nnivain]

I wish some of you all would understand me, but I know you can't since you don't know me in person, but I've battled severe depression for years and my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a year ago and she caught it early thank god. I've been to hell and back and I've come out stronger than ever. I'm very proud of myself.

 

 

You have overcome a lot in your life. All of those things are things to be proud of.

 

 

But in the midst of that you say these awful belittling things about others which contradict your assertion that you are a good guy at heart. Do you understand that?

[somanymistakes]

I don't like being called a "stalker", I made a stupid mistake a decade ago, but I apologized to that girl for it and realized it was very immature. My point is some people who knew about it can't seem to let it go, mainly women. Why do women hold more grudges a DECADE later?

 

But aren't you still holding a grudge?

[bradt93]

But aren't you still holding a grudge?

Well, you're right, I can either let the people who bullied me in middle school defy me or I can go on with my life. I chose the later. Their has to be something wrong with me why I can't stop thinking about that decades later. Psychologists have said though bullying can leave scarring for life.

[bradt93]

Before deciding to go the business route, I wanted to become an actor, but with my social skills, yea that really would've worked out not.

[d0nnivain]

I don't know about becoming an actor but taking an acting class may help you socially. You will read plays that explore how people interact & you will learn more about fake it 'til you make it.

[bradt93]

I don't know about becoming an actor but taking an acting class may help you socially. You will read plays that explore how people interact & you will learn more about fake it 'til you make it.

I wonder if I can for an elective?

[d0nnivain]

Yes, you can probably take it as an elective. It will either fulfill a humanities or English requirement.