Want to ask her for her number but not sure how

[racing20]

I will say upfront I am a shy guy and I tend to be shy around the ladies whereas some of my friends or very blunt sometimes cringe worthy.

 

Anyway, the place I frequent to get my hair cut, I had the same lady cut my hair multiple times. We could carry on a conversation the whole time, she was super friendly and I could make her laugh and we seemed to just click. Well most guys would just come out and ask for her number, but I am too shy to do it that way so I decided I would write my number on a slip of paper and fold it up and put it inside the 5 dollar bill I handed her for a tip. Sadly for me, I never did hear from her so I started going to another location of supercuts to get my hair cut to not feel embarassed if I went there and she was there.

 

Today I was just getting into the chair to get my hair cut and someone grabbed my arm I turn around and there is the same lady! She playfully asked me if i was cheating on the other location by coming to this one and she wondered where I have been. I just played it off that I go here now because my work is close by. So when I was done, I told her goodbye and I would come see her again at her location.

 

 

Now I really do want to get to know this woman better, so the next time I go to her store to get my haircut I need to make my play. When we talked before I tried to feel her out and see if she had a man but she was either smart enough to know what I was doing or just didn't want to say. A lot of the stuff she would talk bout she would say we this or we that but never came out and said she had a boyfriend.

 

I know theres lots of smart peeps on here so I guess I am asking on how in the heck I can get her to take my number or exchange numbers when I go see her. I don't wanna make it awkward and say infront of customers and her co-workers hey can I get your number I really like you!

[preraph]

Well, you already asked for her number and she didn't give it to you. I wouldn't ask for it again. Listen, every hair stylist I've ever been to would talk to you like they were your shrink. If she had second thoughts she could have told you, hey, sorry I never called or something.

 

I think the maximum I would do is next time you're in there, say "do you still have my number?" And then see what she says or if she uses it.

[racing20]

Well, you already asked for her number and she didn't give it to you. I wouldn't ask for it again. Listen, every hair stylist I've ever been to would talk to you like they were your shrink. If she had second thoughts she could have told you, hey, sorry I never called or something.

 

I think the maximum I would do is next time you're in there, say "do you still have my number?" And then see what she says or if she uses it.

 

No, she didn't give me her number. I said I am too shy to ask so I slipped mine on a piece of paper and put it inside the money I handed her for a tip.

[preraph]

I'm sorry. mixed up words. You gave her your number already and she didn't use it. So I wouldn't ask her for her number. I'd ask "Do you still have my number?"

 

I mean, if she wanted you to call, she would have volunteered her number on this last encounter because she knows you want to date her since you slipped her your number. It's still her move.

[JuneJulySeptember]

I will say upfront I am a shy guy and I tend to be shy around the ladies whereas some of my friends or very blunt sometimes cringe worthy.

 

Anyway, the place I frequent to get my hair cut, I had the same lady cut my hair multiple times. We could carry on a conversation the whole time, she was super friendly and I could make her laugh and we seemed to just click. Well most guys would just come out and ask for her number, but I am too shy to do it that way so I decided I would write my number on a slip of paper and fold it up and put it inside the 5 dollar bill I handed her for a tip. Sadly for me, I never did hear from her so I started going to another location of supercuts to get my hair cut to not feel embarassed if I went there and she was there.

 

Today I was just getting into the chair to get my hair cut and someone grabbed my arm I turn around and there is the same lady! She playfully asked me if i was cheating on the other location by coming to this one and she wondered where I have been. I just played it off that I go here now because my work is close by. So when I was done, I told her goodbye and I would come see her again at her location.

 

 

Now I really do want to get to know this woman better, so the next time I go to her store to get my haircut I need to make my play. When we talked before I tried to feel her out and see if she had a man but she was either smart enough to know what I was doing or just didn't want to say. A lot of the stuff she would talk bout she would say we this or we that but never came out and said she had a boyfriend.

 

I know theres lots of smart peeps on here so I guess I am asking on how in the heck I can get her to take my number or exchange numbers when I go see her. I don't wanna make it awkward and say infront of customers and her co-workers hey can I get your number I really like you!

 

Aww. That's a cute story dude.

 

Reminds me of my younger days when I would get crushes like that.

 

I would say the chances are not good, but might as well take a deep breath and take another shot just to be sure.

[d0nnivain]

You are going to have to be brave. Yes, that is scary but you will never know if you don't try.

 

That said she is in a customer service field. Being a little flirty gets her better tips. She may have no interest in you which is why she didn't call you.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Now I really do want to get to know this woman better, so the next time I go to her store to get my haircut I need to make my play. When we talked before I tried to feel her out and see if she had a man but she was either smart enough to know what I was doing or just didn't want to say. A lot of the stuff she would talk bout she would say we this or we that but never came out and said she had a boyfriend.

 

I know theres lots of smart peeps on here so I guess I am asking on how in the heck I can get her to take my number or exchange numbers when I go see her. I don't wanna make it awkward and say infront of customers and her co-workers hey can I get your number I really like you!

 

She probably does not as I get my hair cut at Supercuts somewhat often, and almost all of them tell me off the bat what their boyfriend/husband does or where they live or are going that weekend without me even asking or caring. It's probably their ploy to prevent guys from hitting on them.

 

As far as what to say, just get to talking, come to a common event/activity, and when she says "Oh, I love that" ask her if she wants to go with you the next time.

 

In reality, nobody really cares. I barely remember or pay attention to what the other people who are getting their haircut are doing or saying.

[thefooloftheyear]

Just ask her....Worst she could do is say no, or that's she's taken....She's not going to kick you in the nuts or anything...

 

TFY

[normal person]

Keep in mind people in the service industry are often excessively nice because it helps them extract as much money as possible out of customers, not because they're attracted to the customers.

 

If she was interested in you, you really shot yourself in the foot by giving her your number rather than asking for hers. If you want to go out with someone (especially as a man), the onus on you is to do all the heavy lifting and make it as easy as possible for her. By giving her your number, you're essentially telling her that you're too scared (not a good look for an adult, by the way), to do it yourself and you need her to do it.

 

The only way around this is to talk to take matters in your own hands and not pass them off onto her. If you want to go out with her, ask her out, don't make her ask you. This "shyness" will not do you any favors. Just ask and you'll have your answer.

[ZA Dater]

Keep in mind people in the service industry are often excessively nice because it helps them extract as much money as possible out of customers, not because they're attracted to the customers.

 

If she was interested in you, you really shot yourself in the foot by giving her your number rather than asking for hers. If you want to go out with someone (especially as a man), the onus on you is to do all the heavy lifting and make it as easy as possible for her. By giving her your number, you're essentially telling her that you're too scared (not a good look for an adult, by the way), to do it yourself and you need her to do it.

 

The only way around this is to talk to take matters in your own hands and not pass them off onto her. If you want to go out with her, ask her out, don't make her ask you. This "shyness" will not do you any favors. Just ask and you'll have your answer.

 

Agree with you but lets be honest asking people out in the service industry is more likely to end in failure by virtue of the fact that get to pick and choose by being in the service industry.

 

 

If I were the OP would simply move on because the odds don't favour him in this situation.