lostinmymind Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 Ok, amazing thing just happened. My ex IMed me, we had this amazing conversation. We just talked about random things at first and she just said "why do you still act awkward around me". I pretty much explained to her everything in the simplest and most non-offensive of terms. I stood my ground and told her I'm not going to get over her instantly. I did everything I didn't do before. I agreed with her, I admitted to mistakes, and I even shared her 'optimistic' lookout on the future. I think I REALLY caught her off guard. She was defensive at first, but this strategy really, really softened her up. We talked about memories from the past, etc. For the first time in a LONG time I talked to her without being sad. I was sad from the sentimentality, but not from losing her. I complimented her, and she accepted it, didn't just shoot it down. She said I'm being "immature" and that I need to get on with my life and this happens blah blah. She just doens't understand the feeling of being heartbroken so I didn't try to argue with her about it. I conveyed to her that I'm making progress, but if she wants to be friends like she says she does she needs to have patience with me and I'm not going to come around and be her best friend instantly. Now, she still says she wants to try new things and her feelings about us just changed, blah blah. I wish I could just post the conversation on here I AM AWESTRUCK! She is still stuck on her previous convictions, but I think I shocked her with my change of attitude. She even mentioned how I've changed: "You care about my body, you go to the beach now, etc." I told her "I always cared, I just have lots of time now". She replied with "dork". She thinks she should be able to hang out with me and other guys at the same time. I pretty much told her no, that I will continue to avoid that situation even if we are friends. She let it go after that. I really look forward to the day when she learns how hard it is to lose the one you love (she thinks it's like a walk in the park, not to mention she ran to another guy to get over me), she will see what she lost. I am confident in that fact. Whether she wants it back is another story, but she will realize it. Although I still hope of having another relatoinship in the future with her this was the first time in a while that i talked to her and didn't feel like my heart was being ripped out. Everything I thought or posted earlier about her changing and being a bitch now was not correct. It was all just in response to my whiney attitude. Women want a confident, calm man, not a whiney boy. (I'm only 19 here so I'm learning) Anyways, if you read all that I'll be amazed with your patience. I've really had a revelation tonight, and I hope I can keep building upon it, I'm not going to let anything get me down from now on if I can help it. Wish me luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Teag Posted August 5, 2005 Share Posted August 5, 2005 Good luck & let us know what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
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