ConfusedThoughts Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 This might be a little long but stay with me. It all started 10 years ago. I became very best friends with a kid next door. We were always hanging out at each others house. I grew super close with his family and so did he with mine. A group of my friends all got jobs through a place his mom works once we turned 16. About 3 years in this friendship, I developed a crush on his mom. It always seemed like she was sending signals to me. I don't know if I was just thinking it or what? One Christmas she asked me what I wanted and my friend and I joked I wanted a blow up doll. I know what your thinking. Kinda weird huh? I was just 16 and I was always fooling around. Come Christmas, she actually got me one. I always found myself at their house waiting for my friend to get home from somewhere and Its just me and her. She made her own kind of nickname for me that she called me. I had to drive her truck for one day. We got back to his house, she came outside in a towel and asked how I liked driving the truck? I'm thinking to myself, what mom does this? Is it normal? Am I thinking way to much into this? There are other situations like this but those are just a few examples. My friends even joked with me about having a crush on her or having an affair with her. Even my mom said the same thing. I just laughed it off and said no way. She friended me on Facebook and we would talk sometimes on there. I once was drunk and messaged her about telling her a secret. Once she replied, I instantly came to my senses and turned it off. I couldn't tell her how I felt. I didn't want to ruin the relationship with the family. Fast forward 10 years, I'm now 26 still working at the same place. She is actually my manager. Her son and I grew apart a couple years ago. We both had different interests. I see her everyday when I go to work. She brightens my day. When the work week is over, I often feel instantly depressed because I cant see her. It feels so unhealthy and weird. I feel like I need to change shifts to get over this. It would hurt so bad to do though. I'm lost and don't know what I should do?
Author ConfusedThoughts Posted May 27, 2017 Author Posted May 27, 2017 How old is she and is she married? I guess I did forget to mention that. Yes shes married and shes 45 :/
Shanex Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 I guess I did forget to mention that. Yes shes married and shes 45 :/ Forget about her, shortly. 1
stillafool Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 Sorry she's married so forget it. If she wasn't I would see no problem with you asking her out. I'm sure she'd be flattered if she knew you had a crush on her. 1
LivingWaterPlease Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 If this is something that interferes with your life you might want to change jobs. 2
amaysngrace Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 I'd be mad at her for messing with your head all these years. Who buys a kid a blow up doll for Christmas and comes outside only in a towel to greet that same kid? If you've been an adult for eight years and she hasn't filed for a divorce to be with only you I think it'd be best for you to move on now. 5
preraph Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 Really, you might want to find another job and just stop focusing on her and find someone new. 3
Author ConfusedThoughts Posted May 27, 2017 Author Posted May 27, 2017 I'd be mad at her for messing with your head all these years. Who buys a kid a blow up doll for Christmas and comes outside only in a towel to greet that same kid? If you've been an adult for eight years and she hasn't filed for a divorce to be with only you I think it'd be best for you to move on now. Its just so hard to move on idk why. I know what you mean though.
preraph Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 I think she bolstered your confidence when you were young and so she had an influence on you, but she is married and shows no signs of leaving her husband and she's got to be twice your age. I think you should look for someone nice and nearer your age that you don't work with. And who isn't a blowup doll and doesn't act like one. 1
stillafool Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Its just so hard to move on idk why. I know what you mean though. It's best to move on to a new job and put this crush behind you. Nothing is ever going to come from it but you wasting your years pinning for someone you will never have while missing out on other girls. 2
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