Setting the record straight on STRIP CLUBS! Ladies, get in here!!!

[Woggle]

Why dont they gop to a different bar instead of the stripper ones if there not watching them women?

So really men go to see them and to get to know them if they are actually talking to them.Why?If you havent got a girlfrind fair enough but to go and have another women dance infront of you isnt that just disrespectful!If my boyfriend did that id wonder why he would be going in the first place.

The first thing id think was that he want sto whats othr naked women dance for him!Because thats why men go.It isnt right.If your in a relationship go to a different bar!

 

Looking is not cheating. If my girlfriend went to a male revue I would not care.

[Firehawk]

Why dont they gop to a different bar instead of the stripper ones if there not watching them women?

So really men go to see them and to get to know them if they are actually talking to them.Why?If you havent got a girlfrind fair enough but to go and have another women dance infront of you isnt that just disrespectful!If my boyfriend did that id wonder why he would be going in the first place.

The first thing id think was that he want sto whats othr naked women dance for him!Because thats why men go.It isnt right.If your in a relationship go to a different bar!

 

 

True, if you're in a relationship... Maybe I should have said that at the time I wasn't seeing anyone exclusively...

 

When I was committed I would have never gone to a strip club... I was having to much fun with the g/f

[Toni_no12002]

Thats what i thought why not be with your girlfriend instead and get here to strip?I mean your with her because you like her.So instead get her to do it instead of going out and seeing other women who you dont know stripping!

[amber245]

One of my friends is doing pole dancing classes, so her boyfriend won't have to go to strip clubs

[Toni_no12002]

Exactly good idea lol

[Woggle]

Going to the strip club with the guys is just harmless fun. Women should not really worry about it too much unless he goes once a week or something.

[Toni_no12002]

I thinks because men and women think so differently men think its ok to go to strip clubs.Maybe some women dont mind them.Im sure all guys like them.I dont get it though why would men want to go to get turned on and then they cant do ought about it?

[Firehawk]

One of my friends is doing pole dancing classes, so her boyfriend won't have to go to strip clubs

 

Now that's a creative way to deal with strip club jealousy!

 

I question whether or not a girl really need to take a class to learn that stuff though... C'mon the guys aren't exactly a panel judging proper form for figure skating at the Olympics!

[amber245]

The pole dancing classes keep her fit and she says they are really good fun. There's all kinds of stuff here about how to play hard to get. Telling guys who are mucking you about that you can't see them for a few weeks so that you either get rid of them totally if they're going to keep being **** boyfriends, or they get more interested in you. I think a very good excuse would be that you can't go out tomorrow night because you have a pole-dancing class. Who agrees?

[wicked678910]

This is what I would want from my man. I WANT that if he should be there, that he doesn't get anything out of the women. I want him to not want to look at the women, and that if he does, he doesn't like it. Because that's what I would do. I wouldn't go to a male strip club. I don't look at other men, I NEVER think of anyone sexually but my man. I don't Want to look at naked men and I would NEVER pay to see them. The only person who does anything for me sexually is MY MAN. I love to see HIM naked-- he's the only one who does anything for me. I don't put myself in the position to be around men that would hit on me. I don't watch porn, I don't check out other men... I love MINE and I just want that he is the same toward me. But I believe it's impossible to get a man to stop looking at a woman who is taking off her clothes for him because males' thinking is that it's natural to be aroused by women, no matter if they are taken or not.

[Toni_no12002]

I dont think they should go looking for it though.I mean by going to a strip club your looking for it.

[bluebubbles]

I use to work at a s/c when I was young. I didn't see anything bad or wrong with it. The girls where on stage and the guys could not touch them. It basically was a bar with naked girls on stage. As far as other clubs I don't know what happens? Anybody want to shed some light on the subject.

[Woggle]

If you ask me if other clubds want to go further it should be legal. Prostitution should be legal. I admit if I had a daughter I would not want her doing it but teh government hs no place telling people they can't.

[Love2share]

but I disagree with the OP. I once had an XBF who went to a strip club and wound up cheating on me with the stripper. They exchanged phone numbers. She called him several times. So it's not like he was doing all the initiation. Perhaps he was giving her money. But she was definately in love with him. Eventually, I dumped him. They got engaged. But it didn't last long. He regretted being involved with her later.

[Hunny]

Im a dancer and heres my view...

 

Ok... (stick with me on this coz im replying to different comments made throughout this thread!!) , if your bf/hubby goes to strip joints on a REGULAR basis (ie once or twice a week) then there's something wrong in the relationship. You'd need to find out why he goes to strip joints instead of regular bars.

 

If men go when its a friends bachelor party then its totally acceptable!! Its the norm thing to do on those occasions!

 

Thirdly, dancers dont walk into a strip club and tear their clothes off ITS THEIR JOB!! They do it maybe 3 times a week or more and perform (depending on the night) between 10 and 50 dances and most of us have a man of our own to go home to!

 

Your men dont talk to the dancers, the dancers talk to your men, thats how they earn their money, they make small talk then offer them a dance.

 

Many women do find it disrespectful for their men to have a dance INFRONT of them, some women find it a turn on though and the women who are at home know no different.

 

The person who said that they never look at another man sexually...ARE U SERIOUS?!? Your man looks at tons of women sexually and other women look at guys sexually, it doesnt mean they want to have sex with them. I've spent many a lazy morning in bed thinking about how me and Josh Hartnett would get it on

 

There you go...oh and one more thing...its against many clubs policies for girls to see/speak/etc with customers and they're strict on that.

[Toni_no12002]

Many people have told me time and time again that women dont get turned on by a man naked but men do by women.I think men have sex on the brain 24/7.Im confused you have said that if a man looks at another woman sexually doesnt mean he wants to have sex with her but someone said somewhere that they do want to.Im confused! lol

[Hunny]

No, its human nature for people to fancy others sexually, it doesn't mean they want or will have sex with them because other instincts would prevent that. ie. If i fancy someone on my block i would never have sex with them because my loyalty to my bf is stronger then my sexual desires to that someone. Confusing?!? Yes lol

[LucreziaBorgia]

1. I think men have sex on the brain 24/7.

2. Im confused you have said that if a man looks at another woman sexually doesnt mean he wants to have sex with her but someone said somewhere that they do want to.

 

1. More or less, yes. Maybe not sex per se, all the time but sexual associations at the very least.

2. When a man looks at a woman sexually, it makes him want to have sex. That doesn't mean he wants to have sex with the woman he's looking at necessarily (though sometimes it does) - just that it creates a set of associations in his mind that make him want to be sexual in general.

[megabit15]

I had a conversation with the fellow I am dating about this. I asked: Why a strip club? His first response was "it's male bonding" and "sometimes the clients want to go, so I go" (He's in sales) I didn't exactly buy into that. If it is solely for male bonding, why not hunting, bowling, a regular bar, a sports bar, cars, etc. It's not like they are conducting business there (at least legal business). He admitted that "It's the one place where a man is allowed to look at a women in a sexual light where there are no negative repercussions".

Duh. Ya think? I respect his honesty - not so sure about his reason. I don't really care for it, but I'm not going to get nuts about it. Some guys do go along with the suggestion as male bonding - if a client wants to go, it IS better for business that he goes too. I agree with Hunny in that a common frequenter of clubs of this nature has a problem. But, I'm not so sure that it's a good way to celebrate an impending marriage. "Honey, I love you so much that as we formalize our commitment I want to go ogle lots of women to celebrate!" Seems kinda counter intuitive.

[Toni_no12002]

i think most women want to feel like there the only person there boyfriend actually wants to look at.They dont have to be so obvious about it by going to a strip club.Theres plenty of women half naked down the bloody street!and you dont have to pay to see em!why not look at them but dont make it bloody obvious other wise you will get a smack around the head lol

[CarmenIbanez]

This is what I would want from my man. I WANT that if he should be there, that he doesn't get anything out of the women. I want him to not want to look at the women, and that if he does, he doesn't like it. Because that's what I would do. I wouldn't go to a male strip club. I don't look at other men, I NEVER think of anyone sexually but my man. I don't Want to look at naked men and I would NEVER pay to see them. The only person who does anything for me sexually is MY MAN. I love to see HIM naked-- he's the only one who does anything for me. I don't put myself in the position to be around men that would hit on me. I don't watch porn, I don't check out other men... I love MINE and I just want that he is the same toward me. But I believe it's impossible to get a man to stop looking at a woman who is taking off her clothes for him because males' thinking is that it's natural to be aroused by women, no matter if they are taken or not.

 

Here is someone only slightly repressed. When this one goes, watch for flying debris!