amerikajin Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 Ever go through one of those periods when you just feel like no matter what move you make, it's the wrong damn move - ever time? I don't know...it just seems like lately, I am forever picking the wrong girl to go out on a date with, and then when I finally meet someone I click with, I don't get any clicks in return. For a while, it seemed like I was turning heads right and left. The only thing I'm doing now is turning women off. Argh! Maybe I need an arranged marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 Originally posted by amerikajin I don't know...it just seems like lately, I am forever picking the wrong girl to go out on a date with, and then when I finally meet someone I click with, I don't get any clicks in return. we've all gone thru this man....don't let it get you down. just remember that dating is totally a numbers game. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear32 Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 When you are trying to meet someone it seems like they can sense it and they back away from your intense desires. You need to relax and have that "don't care" attitude and things will probably run smoother. We tend to want to "cling" when we are wanting a relationship and people don't respond well to neediness. When you are positive people pick up on your excitement and want to be apart of it. It is very attractive to a women. I know we get sooo tired of hearing the confidence thing but it is so true with women. When you get down you think women aren't looking your way and you get even more depressed. Be positive about yourself and others will too. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 Some periods of time are more difficult than others. I don't think AT ALL that dating is a matter of number, maybe that's the trick. You're not only an attractive man, but you're also bright, well mannered, and wow, you can actually find interesting things to talk about. Some women can find that a bit threaterning, but then, you don't need for the whole city to want to be dating you, only the person you're interested in. So find the person you're really interested in and ask her out, rather than just shooting everywhere hoping to catch something. Maybe it's tha fact that a certain girl turned you down, rather than the whole lot of them, women ? Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 I've always found that when I'm having a dry spell and no luck that I change something about myself to create confidence and that normally fixes the problem.. ie: I might go out and buy new shirts and pants and partially change my look.. It makes me feel great and women can sense that. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 3, 2005 Share Posted August 3, 2005 yeah right....and the funny paradox here is that when you are dating someone it is much easier to meet other women. they flock to you cause youre already attached and give off this "don't give a damn" attitude. now when you're single then many men give off this desperate air that turns women off. you know...they come on too strong or say dumb things or act unconfident....whatever. it really sucks. its sorta like finding a new job. it is much easier to find a new job when you are already working than when you have no job at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author amerikajin Posted August 4, 2005 Author Share Posted August 4, 2005 I don't think AT ALL that dating is a matter of number, maybe that's the trick. It is a matter of numbers in the sense that you probably have to go through a lot of prospects in order to find the right candidate. But you're right - it's probably not necessary to date merely for the sake of dating. Maybe it's tha fact that a certain girl turned you down, rather than the whole lot of them, women Bingo. It goes back to another thread I started about two weeks ago. To find someone that you click with on all levels is rare - very rare. That person doesn't come around every day. Link to post Share on other sites
kellydontwanttasleep Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 just be yourself and don't try to impress them and go out with lot of girls good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 It goes back to another thread I started about two weeks ago. To find someone that you click with on all levels is rare - very rare. That person doesn't come around every day. If it's any comfort, sometimes you think you've clicked on all levels with someone, but on further discovery, realize that it was an illusion. After all, 'click' usually means that both people feel the connection, no? Link to post Share on other sites
shamen Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by amerikajin Maybe it's tha fact that a certain girl turned you down, rather than the whole lot of them, women Bingo. It goes back to another thread I started about two weeks ago. To find someone that you click with on all levels is rare - very rare. That person doesn't come around every day. Originally posted by Outcast If it's any comfort, sometimes you think you've clicked on all levels with someone, but on further discovery, realize that it was an illusion. After all, 'click' usually means that both people feel the connection, no? I agree with Outcast: just because it didn't work out with this one person with whom you clicked doesn't mean that it would have worked out. The last guy that I dated I thought I seriously clicked with at first... he had so many of the traits that I wanted in someone. We had a ton in common, he was a nice guy, all that good stuff. When I first met him, we had one of the best conversations that I've had in a long while. Upon "further discovery," I found out that he was a hopeless slob and had no financial control over his life. He was also needy and clingy. The sex was bad too. Ugh! Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 A man of your caliber and substance has absolutely no shortage of interested females. It's your own selectiveness that cuts down the odds of finding someone of equal potential. Don't settle. Keep your bar set high, while enjoying the ride. Don't pine over the one or two that got away. At the end of the day, you don't really know if that person would have met your expectations over the long haul, anyway. Instead, focus on the horizon and try to keep your sites set on the one you haven't met yet. She'll wander along when you both least expect it. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 Hey, don't get down on yourself. I haven't had a steady girlfriend for quite some time now. Speaking of time, I don't have much of that either, now that I'm working too much for my own good. Consequently, my social life leaves much to be desired, my dating life is a joke, and I struggle with sleep deprivation. But I'm cool with it. Do I want a girlfriend? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. The opportunities are there, no doubt, but I don't see a pressing need to make an emotional commitment to someone who may or may not reciprocate my efforts down the road. It also simplifies my life, somewhat, in that I can focus on myself instead of coping with someone else's drama. Maybe I'm not ready for the risk=reward aspect of dating, but there's more to life than romantic fulfillment, inner peace being one of them. Besides, we grow through suffering, once we learn to accept it. It makes us appreciate the good times, which are as temporal as this year's fashion trends (whatever the hell they may be). Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Do I want a girlfriend? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. the grass is always greener on the other side WEST... know what I mean? when I am with a broad, I mean woman, I want to be single and have no hassle. When I'm single I want to be with a woman, etc... it is a vicious circle. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 You're nuts ALPHA! Westy, the right one will snatch you away when you least expect it. Until then, just enjoy and be happy! Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale the grass is always greener on the other side WEST... know what I mean? when I am with a broad, I mean woman, I want to be single and have no hassle. When I'm single I want to be with a woman, etc... it is a vicious circle. That's a good way to put it, Alpha. Sometimes, when I'm with a woman at a bar or movie, I end up wanting every other woman in the vicinity. Other times, when by myself, I don't want any woman to spoil my moment of solitude. One of these days the it's gonna get the best (or worst) of me, and I'll end up claiming a significant other on my tax return. Then the grass will really be greener on the other side. Originally posted by whichwayisup Westy, the right one will snatch you away when you least expect it. Until then, just enjoy and be happy! That's what's so scary, yet fun at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer One of these days the it's gonna get the best (or worst) of me, and I'll end up claiming a significant other on my tax return. Then the grass will really be greener on the other side. Not only that WEST....but the "grass" on the other side will be 20 yrs younger with a firmer and tighter body Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Not only that WEST....but the "grass" on the other side will be 20 yrs younger with a firmer and tighter body HAH! You should see these 20-year-old babes visiting Boardwalk on Hollywood Blvd... nothing like a little T&A to wake a person up. It's a feast for the eyes that makes lunch a little tastier than usual. If I didn't have scruples, I'd tell them I was a producer looking for some starlets... auditions tonight at 10 p.m., my place. *sly grin* Funny thing is, they'd fall for it, too. Link to post Share on other sites
clandestinidad Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 amerikajin, where do you go to find women? Maybe since youre a little more intellectual and like to discuss various topics with more depth than most people, its harder for you to meet women in "normal, shallow" places (i.e. bars, clubs, etc.....I dont know what you do in your spare time). It seems like a lot of women these days are acting much younger than their age, and kinda stupid. Its really gross to me. They tend to be very shallow and fake....hence a brief explanation of why I dont hang out w/ many women. I could go on, but I fear being attacked by my gender-mates for 'treason' Anyway, back to my question: where do you go to meet women? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by kat23 It seems like a lot of women these days are acting much younger than their age, and kinda stupid. nooooo! really? I hadn't noticed Link to post Share on other sites
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