I think she's sincere...

[Sailynn]

My ex-GF of just over a year ago approached me to become friends again and over the past few days, I have come to believe that she is sincere.

 

In the year we were apart, I only contacted her once about six months into the separation and we had a meeting that didn't go too well. Still a lot of hurt going around. Anyway, she seems different. I'm receiving inspirational e-mails from her and I think that's a big deal because she only sends these things to family and very close friends important to her. Maybe she's lonely, maybe she is on the rebound -- I don't know. That should be revealed in due time. She told me she had been to counseling and that she was a work in progress.

 

I told her that my friendships were active, not passive. I also told her, in no uncertain terms, was I to be considered a girlfriend type friend. I am a man that wants my life filled with love and a relationship.

 

I think my course of action would be to contact her occasionally, initiate talks, a little fun, yet, I still need to keep my other friends close by, which means, I'll see my other men and women friends and continue to make new ones. If we become

a couple again, then that's great. If not, it'll be just a bump in the road.

 

All my friends know of her and they're encouraging me. They all think this is great. Maybe they just know how much I loved her and want what's best for me to be truly happy. We were a great couple

 

Anyway, we'll see what happens.

 

BTW, I've grown too and I bring some improvements to the mix as well. Going through this forced me to take a long hard look at myself and work on some things. So, I'm a work in progress too. Aren't we all?

[ollydolly]

Yes, we sure are - especially those of us who choose to make the work conscious!

Some of our greatest lessons are learned via challenges in a relationship - but we should be careful not to use our love relationships as therapy.

 

Best of luck to you and your (ex)girlfriend Sailynn.