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How can you earn it or be able to receive a second chance? Besides changing and realizing what was wrong in the first place, how do you get someone to give you a second chance or to hear you? Like how do you make it work? What do you say?

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todreaminblue

be genuine.... be real...be thoughtful..be honest..be prepared to listen ..which you are and which you do...deb

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Besides changing and realizing what was wrong in the first place, how do you get someone to give you a second chance

If you're not going to change or realize what was wrong then what is the point of a second chance? The same issue will lead to the relationship ending all over again??

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If you're not going to change or realize what was wrong then what is the point of a second chance? The same issue will lead to the relationship ending all over again??

 

I think he's actually asking for advise than those two common answers. There definitely is more to it than just changing and realizing the problems in the relationship. After that comes asking if it's even worth returning to the relationship. There's a lot more but I'm tired and headed to bed at the moment.

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Ok here is the thing about "second chance". Whatever you did, doesn't matter. Don't be prepared to listen or be real or thoughtful or whatever. At best this will give you a second chance in which you will be abused(that's not at best for me).

 

If you begged on the breakup and acted needy forget about second chance. If you said "Ok, fine enjoy" and let things move on, then you'll get a second chance most likely down the road. On your terms. If you do it right.

 

But I'm sure you acted needy so there is 0% of second chance. Move on and forget about her. Learn from your mistake and don't repeat neediness in the next relationship.

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staggerlee71

wait till she contacts you to discuss possible reconciliation. if that happens sooner than later, you should be right in line for a soul crushing on again off again relationship!!

 

If she calls to discuss a reconciliation after some serious time has passed...

see todreaminblue response

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Ok here is the thing about "second chance". Whatever you did, doesn't matter. Don't be prepared to listen or be real or thoughtful or whatever. At best this will give you a second chance in which you will be abused(that's not at best for me).

 

If you begged on the breakup and acted needy forget about second chance. If you said "Ok, fine enjoy" and let things move on, then you'll get a second chance most likely down the road. On your terms. If you do it right.

 

But I'm sure you acted needy so there is 0% of second chance. Move on and forget about her. Learn from your mistake and don't repeat neediness in the next relationship.

 

She didn't actually break up with me, she just hadn't responded to my text the following day.

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I'm sure there is more to it that you are not saying, otherwise there will no discussion about second chances. The point is how you reacted to this. If you acted needy like sending pile of texts she is a lost cause.

 

If you just send her a text and she didn't reply and you didn't follow through, then that's another matter and you are on the right track.

 

I'm very adamant about this. It doesn't matter what you did in the past, her excuse or whatever. What matters is how you react to her behavior. If you have the mentality of "Yes mistress I was wrong pleeeease I will change" she might give you a second chance but you will be her little puppy for a while until dumps you forever. If you show her this mentality her attraction will go down to the toilet and anything else after that is pointless.

 

The mentality you should have is this: Radio silence. Vanish for at least 2 weeks. Let her ponder why you are so "harsh" to her. "Did he care about me?", "Did he find another gf?". Then send her a simple text "Hey how are you? I was thinking of cooking x, come over." Then be very sexual and don't discuss anything about the relationship.

 

That's the best chance you have to turn this around.

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I'm sure there is more to it that you are not saying, otherwise there will no discussion about second chances. The point is how you reacted to this. If you acted needy like sending pile of texts she is a lost cause.

 

If you just send her a text and she didn't reply and you didn't follow through, then that's another matter and you are on the right track.

 

I'm very adamant about this. It doesn't matter what you did in the past, her excuse or whatever. What matters is how you react to her behavior. If you have the mentality of "Yes mistress I was wrong pleeeease I will change" she might give you a second chance but you will be her little puppy for a while until dumps you forever. If you show her this mentality her attraction will go down to the toilet and anything else after that is pointless.

 

The mentality you should have is this: Radio silence. Vanish for at least 2 weeks. Let her ponder why you are so "harsh" to her. "Did he care about me?", "Did he find another gf?". Then send her a simple text "Hey how are you? I was thinking of cooking x, come over." Then be very sexual and don't discuss anything about the relationship.

 

That's the best chance you have to turn this around.

 

You do know he's talking about someone he's known for less than one week, right?

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If you just send her a text and she didn't reply and you didn't follow through, then that's another matter and you are on the right track.

 

I'm very adamant about this. It doesn't matter what you did in the past, her excuse or whatever. What matters is how you react to her behavior. If you have the mentality of "Yes mistress I was wrong pleeeease I will change" she might give you a second chance but you will be her little puppy for a while until dumps you forever. If you show her this mentality her attraction will go down to the toilet and anything else after that is pointless.

 

The mentality you should have is this: Radio silence. Vanish for at least 2 weeks. Let her ponder why you are so "harsh" to her. "Did he care about me?", "Did he find another gf?". Then send her a simple text "Hey how are you? I was thinking of cooking x, come over." Then be very sexual and don't discuss anything about the relationship.

 

That's the best chance you have to turn this around.

 

I didn't send her a pile of texts, I sent a good morning text then 4 hours later a text letting her know i enjoyed our past two days and a snap chat of the despicable me movie filter because it's her fav, that was on Monday. On the 2nd day she said this coming Friday she wants to spend $$ on me and treat me to dinner. But still no reply and i haven't blown up her phone. She just now about 2 hours ago opened up my snap chat, still no reply.

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What can I say in a voice mail message or a text that can help me out with continuing to see her? She hasn't flat out told me no, so....

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No CO I thought he was talking about an ongoing relationship.

 

That doesn't help me lol

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Yes but where do you say that you've known this person for less than a week?

Are you together or not? Did you have sex first of all?

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You can't make someone give you a second chance. If it was hard for them to leave, they are going to stay gone and not have to go through that again. You have to realize we all make mistakes, and maybe over time we learn from those mistakes and change, but it's unrealistic to think you can just change overnight or that anyone else would think that was possible and be convinced to give you a second chance. Change takes time. Just stopping a behavior is a good first step, but it's no guarantee that whatever thinking led to you being willing to do that behavior won't just pop up in some other thing you do.

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How can you earn it or be able to receive a second chance? Besides changing and realizing what was wrong in the first place, how do you get someone to give you a second chance or to hear you? Like how do you make it work? What do you say?

 

I know your not getting the answers you want...there's a lot of people on here with a lot of good advice read through some posts..

In the meantime give her space let her miss u and contact u if she doesn't get back to u then u know she doesn't care or think about you give it a week or 2 then send her a text saying hope your having a good day! What would you think about going out for some drinks/dinner and don't talk about the relationship just act my like your on a date with a new girl and take it from there

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