jdaniel Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Sent a message to Ex GF, i want her back. She replied- "I care for you as well and i am not angry at you, i do want for us to get back talking to each other but i need some time (a little) to think about us." I do know she want me back because otherwise she would have just ignored me. i know how she thinks. But i have no idea how much time should i give her before i try to contact her again. A day? A week? Or wait for her to contact me first? As far as i understand she said it because she doesn't want to look cheap, and want for me to sweat and even beg for taking me back. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Why did you break up? People who want to be together, well, are together. She evidently has something that's holding her back from reuniting. Only she could possibly tell you how much time she wants, and what exactly she hopes to accomplish in your time apart. Any chance she's testing out another guy? That's often what "time" is really being used for. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Is this the same girl you wrote about here Need in dating an 'Ugly Girl'? If it is, given your attitude to her, I have to question why she would return to you. If it's not the same girl, why would she come back when you were seeing someone else less than a month ago? Are you sure she's not stringing you along in an act of revenge? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 she said it because she doesn't want to look cheap, and want for me to sweat and even beg for taking me back. And you want a girl who behaves like this? You think that personality type makes good relationship material? She sounds like a total attention seeker. I would just reply "ok" and move on. If she comes back, take it from there. If not carry on with your life as normal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdaniel Posted June 6, 2017 Author Share Posted June 6, 2017 (edited) I broke up with her because i wasn't sure what i felt. It was one year ago, it really complicated to explain. short version - -I broke up with her, even though we had excellent relationship. -She got hurt, -After 1 year i still care for her and i think i love her, -She never met another guy after me, -I send her message asking her back and asking to forgive me, -She forgive and said that she do forgive me, but she isn't sure it is enough for us to get back. -She do want for us to talk until she will think she is ready to restart our relationship. - She ask me to give her some time to think about us (a very little time). - She is not dating another guys How much "some time" really is? Edited June 6, 2017 by jdaniel Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Thats something you should have asked when she said so. Now you wait for her to contact you. Anyway, whats the guarantee that you wouldnt break up without any reason again? Thats what she wants to know. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Ah ok, it's not the girl you wrote about before. "Some time" is as long as it takes for her to decide whether or not she can trust you again. She might decide quickly, or she may take her time. Whatever the result, it will happen in her own time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 She's had a year, how much more does she need?? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 "Some" time is as long as it takes. The ball is squarely in her court. You can't do anything except wait. You shouldn't just sit there though. Continue living your life without her. If by the time she pops back up you are in another relationship, well I guess she waited too long. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 She's had a year, how much more does she need?? He only just sent her the message....so they've only just started talking again. The trust rebuild starts now. Not a year ago Link to post Share on other sites
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