Weezy87 Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 If another girl approaches my boyfriend and asks for his number and if he had a girlfriend, why is it too much to ask for when i say i expect my boyfriend to answer that he is in a relationship and not interested??? His answer instead: 'ummm... well im seeing someone... but i could give you my number and we could hang out?!' Im not happy with this answer because he shows her that he is interested in her somehow and to me it also means that he is not really committing to me. Am I really exagerating? Remember that they never met before or did have any kind of conversation before. But I still have to believe that he wants to have her as a normal friend?? And now Im the jealous girlfriend and dont understand that guys and girls cant be mormal friends?!?! If thats really the right thing for me to do then Im screwed because I could never deal with this... Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 (edited) If a GUY came on here posting about his girlfriend giving her number out to new guys, we would tell him to dump her, now. Part of respecting your partner in a committed relationship is avoiding even the APPEARANCE of cheating. Guys don't approach a random woman just to be "friendly" and everyone knows that on some level. So to answer your question, your boyfriend's behaviour is completely unacceptable. He knows these girls are approaching because they are romantically attracted to him and he is giving out his number to them for likewise reasons. He is disrespecting you and your relationship in the process. You should dump him. If you can't do that pronto then at the very least he needs to knock that off completely. Edited June 6, 2017 by Imajerk17 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 If my BF did that I would break up with him on the spot. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Remember that they never met before or did have any kind of conversation before. But I still have to believe that he wants to have her as a normal friend?? And now Im the jealous girlfriend and dont understand that guys and girls cant be mormal friends?!?! If thats really the right thing for me to do then Im screwed because I could never deal with this... Why Men and Women Cant be friends - Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 This is not something to be even asked for ! He isn't serious about you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Weezy87 Posted June 6, 2017 Author Share Posted June 6, 2017 Thanks everyone for your answers! We already broke up because I was too jealous for him. I could tell you many more stories: comments under facebook posts of girls posing half naked and he wanted to support them because they lost weight a lot (sure, all of them... ), never saw any comment under his guys friends posts. Then I found pictures of a girl posing in provocant position (yes, these were shoots from a photographer and she apparently gave the pics to him as a friend of course). While being with him he also started being friends with a 20 year old girl whose nickname was dirtypandabear but they were only playing onlinegames together.. and whenever i opened his internet i saw the people who he followed and these were all girls and pretty much the same type (blonde hair, big butts etc). Then he had a friend far away from us, but they skyped like every day and i read an email to her saying how much he loved her (it was before our time, but when i asked him how close this relation is, he said they are just friends and it never happened anything). So he finally accused me of disrepsecting his privacy and says i have trust issues. I regret that i looked into his stuff and i totally dont want to be that kind of person, but he doesnt see that i always found something to worry about. I was always the negative person expecting the worst even though i never had these kind of problems before in my relationships. he didnt show one moment of understanding, any insight nor did he ever apologize for his misstakes. im so done! Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 A good relationship unfolds naturally with no problems and no jealousy. I read your history and this man is 38 years old!! He is nothing like a normal 38 year old man, he's like a 14 year old mentally. Break up and do not come back. The next thing you need to do is to figure out why YOU accepted to be in such disrespectful relationship for 9 months. Don't give men chances, if they don't act like gentleman toward you, dump them. Finally do not try to play the cool girlfriend that is ok with a boyfriend flirting and giving other women attention. You know exactly what type of man you want to date? then don't settle for anything less! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Tell him his response to her is just fine as long as by "We can hang out," he means "we" being you and him and her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Weezy87 Posted June 7, 2017 Author Share Posted June 7, 2017 A good relationship unfolds naturally with no problems and no jealousy. I read your history and this man is 38 years old!! He is nothing like a normal 38 year old man, he's like a 14 year old mentally. Break up and do not come back. The next thing you need to do is to figure out why YOU accepted to be in such disrespectful relationship for 9 months. Don't give men chances, if they don't act like gentleman toward you, dump them. Finally do not try to play the cool girlfriend that is ok with a boyfriend flirting and giving other women attention. You know exactly what type of man you want to date? then don't settle for anything less! Thank you Gaeta, I always thought I had to find a middleway between my standards and his standards. I thought if I insist on my standards I would be too much of an egoist. But now I see the whole thing differently.Im so happy for myself to finally got myself away from this man and i see him totally different now. Its such a release!! I feel awesome! I hope this feeling will stay! Thanks so much for your answer, I need to talk about it. He made me doubt myself and Im totally a person that questions myself. Now I know Im ok and I have realistiv expectations of a man and a relationship. Thank you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted June 8, 2017 Share Posted June 8, 2017 Tell him his response to her is just fine as long as by "We can hang out," he means "we" being you and him and her. I agree with this honestly. Gonna play devils advocate here. Most people in life think that guys and girls can't just be friends....and sadly for MOST people, that is true. There are some guys out there who genuinely just like to be friendly and social and not necessarily expect anything more to come out of it. The video that Elaine posted is just a bunch of college kids who are still young and horny so I don't find it to be a very accurate portrayal of reality... If I was your boyfriend I would have said something along the lines of, "I have a girlfriend...but you can add me on Facebook if you want to party with us sometime or something." Idk. I generally don't like meeting new people since I really don't like people...but I still like to give people the benefit of the doubt. You never know when you'll meet someone that truly changes your perspective on life...we are social animals. Sometimes we just like connecting with different people to get different perspectives on life. The chances that he just genuinely wants to add more people to his social circle and not hope for 'something in the future' with those girls is pretty slim honestly but you never know. Looks like you already broke up with him but if you have a problem it's always best to communicate and not assume. Jumping to conclusions causes way more problems in relationships rather than just simply communicating what your problem is. Never assume anything in life. Link to post Share on other sites
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