thefooloftheyear Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 I've said it numerous times and I think it makes all the sense in the world..(Not that it will ever happen).... Make a marriage cert like a drivers license...It has to be renewed every 4 years...This gives people the chance to evaluate the status of their relationship and decide to bail if need be... I mean, sure, you can divorce any time, but this way there is less involvement of lawyers, less kids being born into shaky marriages, etc.. Most of the younger guys I am hearing from have little to no interest in tying the knot...They saw what happened to their fathers and don't want the same deal.. TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 For some guys, I think they believe somehow that it "locks down" a woman....Kind of a territorial type of thing... TFY I think this is especially true if the guy feels like he's punching above his weight with regards to his partner. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 My main reasons were two: One I was programmed since birth that marriage was the love expression vehicle by parents who were married for life. Two my whole social circle was married, most with children, by age 25. I was one of only a few unmarried, and all were men, after that point. Two of us weren't living with someone. The others who weren't married were. Still, overwhelmingly, the social pressure, as evidenced by many weddings attended, was 'get married and have a family'. I chuckle a bit about it now. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 I've said it numerous times and I think it makes all the sense in the world..(Not that it will ever happen).... Make a marriage cert like a drivers license...It has to be renewed every 4 years...This gives people the chance to evaluate the status of their relationship and decide to bail if need be... I mean, sure, you can divorce any time, but this way there is less involvement of lawyers, less kids being born into shaky marriages, etc.. Most of the younger guys I am hearing from have little to no interest in tying the knot...They saw what happened to their fathers and don't want the same deal.. TFY It's funny how women in the 60s and 70s didn't want to end up like their mothers and younger guys today don't want to end up like their fathers. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Another interesting observation re:men and marriage While I am nearing prehistoric in age, I am not so old that I remember that it was a pretty big taboo for women to be known to have sex with guys loosely before marriage....It was done...but it was pretty frowned on....Guys were encouraged to "put a ring on it".. And guys figured if they want regular sex, then its best to make it legit...so to speak... Well....Have things changed... Women now are free to express their sexuality, take on FWB's, advertise themselves on hook up sites, apps, etc....Well...now that the guys are getting it handed on a silver platter, need little to no effortand there is less of a stigma, then the need to declare that person as a wife has lost its need, in many cases... You know the story of free milk and cows??...well...I guess if the milk is free, they wont buy?? I dunno.... All I know is women still love the experience of marriage and all of the pomp and circumstance....Not that guys don't, but lets face it, its mostly their deal...Women get insanely jealous when other women in their circle sport rocks on their fingers, and have their dresses, bridesmaids, parties,etc.. ...I never once heard a guy get jealous because his buddy(s) got married.....About all you will hear is when and where is the bachelor party .Its not the same experience and doesn't have the same impact.... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 All I know is women still love the experience of marriage and all of the pomp and circumstance....Not that guys don't, but lets face it, its mostly their deal...Women get insanely jealous when other women in their circle sport rocks on their fingers, and have their dresses, bridesmaids, parties,etc.. ...I never once heard a guy get jealous because his buddy(s) got married.....About all you will hear is when and where is the bachelor party just to counterpoint there was a girl posting on another forum who was extremely upset because her fiance wanted a big wedding and SHE did not. in fact she got very huffy, complaining that weddings are supposed to be the bride's day so if she the bride says no big ceremony and no guests then she should have her way! all the people replying to her basically chewed her out and pointed out that it was HIS wedding too, so she'd better compromise and find something that suited them both. Link to post Share on other sites
Author avvril3000 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Share Posted June 8, 2017 I have to admit though.. that it is socially frowned upon when a guy 45 or plus is not or has not been married. Women think its weird... families think its weird. So i guess maybe men around that age think its not cool anymore to be single by that age. Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted June 8, 2017 Share Posted June 8, 2017 Marriage can also be a way of showing the seriousness of your commitment Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 8, 2017 Share Posted June 8, 2017 (edited) I have to admit though.. that it is socially frowned upon when a guy 45 or plus is not or has not been married. Women think its weird... families think its weird. So i guess maybe men around that age think its not cool anymore to be single by that age. Men and women for that matter should only marriage. Who cares what society thinks? Their approval doesn't pay my bills. Good god I am an awful typist. What I meant to say was that people should only embrace marriage if it is for love. Edited June 9, 2017 by Woggle 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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