Fresnite Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 In the world of snap chat and pics and sexting. How are you supposed to text a girl you are interested in? Like i don't know any girl or woman that wants a dick pic, like ever. But How do you build chemistry and sexual tension through texting if you are a nice guy? Like do woman really not want a nice guy? They want someone forth coming and just come out with stuff? Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 (edited) They want someone forth coming and just come out with stuff? Really Fresnite in all the years I've been married to h I've never seen a pic of hs stuff. Nor do I want to. I have to keep reminding myself you're 19! But if I had the internet a 19, when I met h maybe.... I was a wild child! But he was older and dignified and would have never agreed to it. Edited June 7, 2017 by mercy not telling Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fresnite Posted June 7, 2017 Author Share Posted June 7, 2017 Really Fresnite in all the years I've been married to h I've never seen a pic of hs stuff. Nor do I want to. I have to keep reminding myself you're 19! But if I had the internet a 19, when I met h maybe.... I was a wild child! But he was older and dignified and would have never agreed to it. Spoiler alert to that person(s) that wanted to know my age lol. But Mercy that's exactly what i said, i don't do that stuff with the dick pic and i don't know any girl or woman that actually wants that either. Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 OP, you keep mentioning about being a ''nice guy'' which I don't doubt from your post. Hoping you aren't one of these ''fake nice guy'' I've sometimes ranted about here, you know those who try too hard while being secretly overly jealous, insecure and resentful when the lady they are interested in is dating someone else. Anyway. If you don't want to send c*ck pics more power to you. I did it only once with a woman I have never dated but who's still friend with me. I knew her from a site and we were horny. Sure it was a bit weird when I first met her that she knew already what I was hiding in my boxer and me in her pants. I don't think it's wrong to do it, if you don't feel like it, just refrain. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Intelligent and witty banter with well-placed/timed emojis is much sexier than a dick pic. Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 But How do you build chemistry and sexual tension through texting if you are a nice guy? I don't understand the nice guy comment. You can tell a woman that you can't wait to feel her touch, taste her kisses, and that your whole body craves her and still be a nice guy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 In the world of snap chat and pics and sexting. How are you supposed to text a girl you are interested in? Like i don't know any girl or woman that wants a dick pic, like ever. But How do you build chemistry and sexual tension through texting if you are a nice guy? Like do woman really not want a nice guy? They want someone forth coming and just come out with stuff? Fresnite, you are SO right about that. Nothing is quite as skeevy as a man presuming a woman he's not dating wants to see his business. Really, there is no magic formula for building chemistry because what is good chemistry for one woman will be ho-hum to another. And what that leaves you with for your best hope of finding someone who genuinely likes you the way you are is just being your best self in real life and in online communications and not try to be someone else who you admire because they're getting a lot of women. Because you don't want their women. You want the woman who likes YOU and she can't find you unless you show who you really are in small increments as you get to know someone. Don't dump it all on her at once or you'll run out of anything to say. Just do a healthy mix of being sincere about who you are and also trying to be your best self and not giving in to your worst tendencies, and then also try to always be interested in getting to know who they are, and if it's part of your personality, it helps to be a little entertaining and fun, but don't force it if it's really not you. Plenty of women also like serious guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 In the world of snap chat and pics and sexting. How are you supposed to text a girl you are interested in? Like i don't know any girl or woman that wants a dick pic, like ever. But How do you build chemistry and sexual tension through texting if you are a nice guy? Like do woman really not want a nice guy? They want someone forth coming and just come out with stuff? Messing with her, joking, flirting, connecting, etc. There are loads of good guides online about messaging women. Experiment with different ideas, find your own style, and be okay with making mistakes whilst you improve. If you blow a few dates trying things out, so be it. I know most guys hate texting, and I used to be like that too. But it really is an important skill to develop. When you get better at it, you start to actually enjoy it. But I find that a lot of guys just want to play it safe, and not take any risks. Which actually hurts them in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 But How do you build chemistry and sexual tension through texting if you are a nice guy? You don't. You build those in person. Yes, even at your age. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Ok you're gonna say I am from an older generation and I don't get the social media blablah. I get it, I get it all. I have a daughter of 30, nephews and nieces I am close to - age ranging from 17 to 24. All of them have boyfriends and girlfriends or are casually dating. Social media did not bring them together! spending face to face time together did. Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 There's nothing not-nice about flirting in text. You can FLIRT with no problem. Imply you want to be with someone, see more of her, do naughty things with her... if you're dating a girl I don't think she's going to be offended if you say you'd really like to go to the beach and see her in a swimsuit! But I would say don't send a dick pic to a girl unless she asks for it, even if you're dating. I mean even if you're trying to be really flirty with someone you can always send her a picture of you with your shirt off but your business still covered and then ASK HER if she wants to see more. The slow tease of anticipating seeing more is hotter than just a sudden closeup anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 I mean even if you're trying to be really flirty with someone you can always send her a picture of you with your shirt off but your business still covered and then ASK HER if she wants to see more. I wouldn't even like this because my answer would always be no, and then I'd feel like I was insulting them. I would feel pressure to say, "Oh baby, yeah, let me see it ALL!" lol! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Ok you're gonna say I am from an older generation and I don't get the social media blablah. I get it, I get it all. I have a daughter of 30, nephews and nieces I am close to - age ranging from 17 to 24. All of them have boyfriends and girlfriends or are casually dating. Social media did not bring them together! spending face to face time together did. It's not necessarily about bringing them together, but rather keeping them together. A lot of women need to feel that sort of connection. I've personally had women tell me when we've broken things off that one of the things they miss are our message exchanges. The importance of it really can't be understated in having emotional connections with women. I get where people are coming from in feeling concerned that this sort of messaging might be taking the place of connecting in person. But, that is just going to the other extreme. Taken as a thing unto itself, messaging is important in modern dating and relationships. It's important to learn to express yourself half-decent using the medium, imo. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 I wouldn't even like this because my answer would always be no, and then I'd feel like I was insulting them. I would feel pressure to say, "Oh baby, yeah, let me see it ALL!" lol! Well the easy answer is "haha maybe later" which is nicely noncommittal and suggests you may be too near your family at the moment to look at the rest! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 It's not necessarily about bringing them together, but rather keeping them together. A lot of women need to feel that sort of connection. I've personally had women tell me when we've broken things off that one of the things they miss are our message exchanges. The importance of it really can't be understated in having emotional connections with women. I get where people are coming from in feeling concerned that this sort of messaging might be taking the place of connecting in person. But, that is just going to the other extreme. Taken as a thing unto itself, messaging is important in modern dating and relationships. It's important to learn to express yourself half-decent using the medium, imo. Within an already existing relationship is different. Having followed OP's threads I understood he is wanting to win over a woman by being flirtatious over text, he is not currently in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 I don't understand the nice guy comment. You can tell a woman that you can't wait to feel her touch, taste her kisses, and that your whole body craves her and still be a nice guy. on repeat for being subtly sexy......this is a nice guy comment to make that is subtle and sexy.....shows interest and intelligence and is thoughtful and very sexy... reminds em of micheal hutchence actually(im big on words)....he lost hsi sense of smell and taste and he said the most upsetting thing for him was he was unable to taste his gf anymore......micheal was considered a very sexy and alluring man.had a magnetism about him.......he had that sense of mystery,of unpredictability and cpt insanos comment lends it self to mystery and a bit of excitement..rock star response...so much better than a pug of a penis pic......which to me is probably the unsexiest thing to send a woman.....you can be nice...respectful...and sexy too.....you just give a little mystery and a little thought......like saying i want to taste your kisses .....is better than saying i want you to ride my cock.....one has class the other well....next......not nice not respectful..... like i said fresnite dating is often more about the thoughts and feelings behind the actual act of dating...it all adds up........good luck...deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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