Wife's "affair" after one year married

[Vincentstreet]

I am afraid your wasting your time here. The lengths she has gone to.. to deny you the truth and keep up the charade is typical. (remember the lies you caught her out in.. that's just the tip of the iceberg.. she has most likely given herself to this guys in ways she has never given you) You can NEVER trust her. Do yourself a favor and cut your losses while you are still young. I am pretty certain there are many women out there who are worthy.

 

Run!!! get out!!! You don't owe her mother anything, and certainly not her.

[QuietDan]

At risk if being too politically incorrect, I am both impressed and horrified with a Waywards Wife's appearantly natural skill and ability to lie and deny with unwavering unflinching resilience and persistence. The number of threads I have read that describe the apparently unblinking steady earnest telless lying ability that a wayward wife has when being confronted with anything less than incontrovertible proof is... Well... From a male perpective, daunting, unsettling, and intimidating. Appearantly, most can perform at this level regardless of upbringing, or historic family value or innocent good girl background, once they have ventured into wayward status, this seems to almost comes as the standard package...

[reboot]

At risk if being too politically incorrect, I am both impressed and horrified with a Waywards Wife's appearantly natural skill and ability to lie and deny with unwavering unflinching resilience and persistence. The number of threads I have read that describe the apparently unblinking steady earnest telless lying ability that a wayward wife has when being confronted with anything less than incontrovertible proof is... Well... From a male perpective, daunting, unsettling, and intimidating. Appearantly, most can perform at this level regardless of upbringing, or historic family value or innocent good girl background, once they have ventured into wayward status, this seems to almost comes as the standard package...

 

Incredible isn't it? It can almost make you think you're the one that's crazy.

[GoldenR]

If she was staying at her Moms house then why did her Mom need to text her? Don't they talk in person when they live in the same house?

 

She parked the car in that parking lot - her OM probably picked her up to go somewhere and dropped her off afterwards.

 

 

This ^^^^^. I've been wondering this myself.

[Zona]

At risk if being too politically incorrect, I am both impressed and horrified with a Waywards Wife's appearantly natural skill and ability to lie and deny with unwavering unflinching resilience and persistence. The number of threads I have read that describe the apparently unblinking steady earnest telless lying ability that a wayward wife has when being confronted with anything less than incontrovertible proof is... Well... From a male perpective, daunting, unsettling, and intimidating. Appearantly, most can perform at this level regardless of upbringing, or historic family value or innocent good girl background, once they have ventured into wayward status, this seems to almost comes as the standard package...

 

Yes, if you lurk around this forum long enough, you will undoubtedly realize these very unsettling facts for yourself.

 

Normally a woman's amazing ability to sway and influence their husband is used for good, to make a man better, to motivate him, and push him to succeed. However, once a woman gets sucked into an affair, those powers of persuasion become a tool for evil.

 

I've seen the female persona from both sides, a hellish two year relationship with a BPD girlfriend, and an almost 20 year happy marriage to a good woman (and even this is hard).

 

Select your mate wisely, and take your time. Some aspects of a woman's personality take a while to surface. Even then, there is no guarantee.

[Dobber80]

If she was staying at her Moms house then why did her Mom need to text her? Don't they talk in person when they live in the same house?

 

Because she was at work on lunch break, while texting her mom at home. This is true. Her mom was asking how she's holding up, and if I've tried contacting her yet.

 

Day 2 since she left, and she hasn't contacted me at all, nor have I contacted her. I think her plan is to separate, and make me miss her and beg for her back. Her mom even said it.

 

My family knows, and her family knows. As well as some friends. Over the past hellish 5 months, she has done a lot to try and make things right. Number one being she quit her job, shes still kind and tries to do things to get back to normal again. She tries to plan things to do, but I just can't have any of it right now. Which in turn is frustrating her. She keeps saying if I can't love her again, then just let her go. But it's obviously much more complicated than that. She cooks for me, still cleans around the house. However, she won't do the poly and that speaks volumes. She says over and over "I quit my job for you".

 

She has also said if I tell the other guys wife, then it's over. It's not my business to tell her, it's his she says. She doesn't want word getting out at her former workplace about what she has done. She still has a lot of friends there.

 

But that's too bad, it's time for her to know I've put it off long enough.

[aliveagain]

Because she was at work on lunch break, while texting her mom at home. This is true. Her mom was asking how she's holding up, and if I've tried contacting her yet.

 

Day 2 since she left, and she hasn't contacted me at all, nor have I contacted her. I think her plan is to separate, and make me miss her and beg for her back. Her mom even said it.

 

My family knows, and her family knows. As well as some friends. Over the past hellish 5 months, she has done a lot to try and make things right. Number one being she quit her job, shes still kind and tries to do things to get back to normal again. She tries to plan things to do, but I just can't have any of it right now. Which in turn is frustrating her. She keeps saying if I can't love her again, then just let her go. But it's obviously much more complicated than that. She cooks for me, still cleans around the house. However, she won't do the poly and that speaks volumes. She says over and over "I quit my job for you". She didn't quit her job for you she did it for the O/M's protection and her own shame.

 

She has also said if I tell the other guys wife, then it's over. It's not my business to tell her, it's his she says. She doesn't want word getting out at her former workplace about what she has done. She still has a lot of friends there.

 

But that's too bad, it's time for her to know I've put it off long enough.

 

Friend, here is all you need to know. She refuses a poly because she already knows the truth is so bad you'll divorce her. She threatened you with divorce if you tell the other man's wife. She is choosing to protect him over you. This is a marriage ending threat, his safety is more important then yours. This tells me the affair is still going on. She is not worth the trouble or effort required for reconciliation. Talk to a lawyer. Read up on the "180" and implement it immediately. Expose her cheating a$$ to the other man's wife, seriously.

Edited June 10, 2017 by aliveagain

[Marc878]

Because she was at work on lunch break, while texting her mom at home. This is true. Her mom was asking how she's holding up, and if I've tried contacting her yet.

 

Day 2 since she left, and she hasn't contacted me at all, nor have I contacted her. I think her plan is to separate, and make me miss her and beg for her back. Her mom even said it.

 

She cheats and wants you to beg? Really. That's not the life you want to live.

 

My family knows, and her family knows. As well as some friends. Over the past hellish 5 months, she has done a lot to try and make things right. Number one being she quit her job, shes still kind and tries to do things to get back to normal again. She tries to plan things to do, but I just can't have any of it right now. Which in turn is frustrating her. She keeps saying if I can't love her again, then just let her go. But it's obviously much more complicated than that. She cooks for me, still cleans around the house. However, she won't do the poly and that speaks volumes. She says over and over "I quit my job for you".

 

She has also said if I tell the other guys wife, then it's over. It's not my business to tell her, it's his she says. She doesn't want word getting out at her former workplace about what she has done. She still has a lot of friends there.

 

But that's too bad, it's time for her to know I've put it off long enough.

 

My friend if hiding her affair from her other mans wife is all that's keeping her married to you it's not much to work with.

 

It also speaks volumes of how much control she has over you. His protection is more important than her husband? Wow

 

You should have already blown this up. You are letting your weakness and her control define you. Stop!!!!

 

No warning !!!!!!

[Zona]

She doesn't want word getting out at her former workplace about what she has done. She still has a lot of friends there.

 

That's as close to an admission of the truth as you have got out of her.

 

Obviously it wouldn't be a big deal if it was a few kisses and a quick grope.

 

It's clear that she has this almost insane desire to cover up the extent of the affair, and that is why she is playing this crazy emotional chess game with you to try and stop you from discovering the truth and exposing her actions.

 

She is WAY more worried about the affair being exposed than she is worried about your mental health, or even you divorcing her, don't you think?

Edited June 10, 2017 by Zona

[GoldenR]

By saying it's over of you tell his wife, she's choosing to protect him over healing you.

 

That pretty much says it all, doesn't it?

[usa1ah]

Because she was at work on lunch break, while texting her mom at home. This is true. Her mom was asking how she's holding up, and if I've tried contacting her yet.

 

Day 2 since she left, and she hasn't contacted me at all, nor have I contacted her. I think her plan is to separate, and make me miss her and beg for her back. Her mom even said it.

 

My family knows, and her family knows. As well as some friends. Over the past hellish 5 months, she has done a lot to try and make things right. Number one being she quit her job, shes still kind and tries to do things to get back to normal again. She tries to plan things to do, but I just can't have any of it right now. Which in turn is frustrating her. She keeps saying if I can't love her again, then just let her go. But it's obviously much more complicated than that. She cooks for me, still cleans around the house. However, she won't do the poly and that speaks volumes. She says over and over "I quit my job for you".

 

She has also said if I tell the other guys wife, then it's over. It's not my business to tell her, it's his she says. She doesn't want word getting out at her former workplace about what she has done. She still has a lot of friends there.

 

But that's too bad, it's time for her to know I've put it off long enough.

 

 

Tell her next time she says " I quite my job for you!" You f@@kes your boss for yourself.

[Just a Guy]

Hi Dobber , at 37 you are probably a few months older than my son. If it was him in your place I would tell him that for the sake of his own sanity and because he deserves so much better, he should initiate divorce proceedings immediately and have nothing more to do with this woman. She is not worth the scrap of paper that you have signed jointly with her in church solidifying your marriage vows and making you a couple. To put it crudely, she has crapped all over that piece of paper and your marriage. A woman ( or man) who cheats during the honeymoon phase of a marriage has to be the worst kind of traitor that one can imagine. It only goes to show that she had scant respect for you or the marriage and all her shenanigans to date are to protect her AP and her reputation.

 

All this threat of divorcing you or your marriage ending is just so much bull because the moment you file and reveal everything that went on to the AP's wife and at his workplace, she will be a blubbering mass of hysteria and may come around on bended knee for you to take her back. Even if you do not want to be vindictive, just file for divorce and let her figure out her future course of action with her AP. Warm wishes.

[oldlion]

In every bad situation there comes a point where hard decisions have to be made. You are reaching that point. You are either going to have to decide to believe your wife and continue the life you have had for the last 10 years or decide she is lying and you can't get by that and walk away from her. I see you are one of those that has to know every detail and I understand that. There are those that just can't let go and have to turn up and look under every rock. You believe that if she has done more than she said and she tells you then she believes you will leave her. You even said you would leave her. If I thought that my life would be destroyed if I told something then I, and probably you and a lot of other people, would hold out as long as possible. It is called survival and is a very powerful instinct. My wife had at least a 10 year on and off EA. I was gone a lot (US Army Special Forces) and during my deployments a civilian "friend", who was married with 2 children, decided he could fill my wife's emotional void. When I finally found out it stopped dead. Was it a PA also? I never ask because I didn't want to know. If I knew, and being the person I was at the time, I would have done him dire physical damage and maybe even a divorce. What brought us back together was the death of someone I dearly loved and the fact that my wife and I loved each other more than anything else. Like your wife, my wife said nothing physical ever happened between them. I chose to believe her because I knew something like that would never happen again. And it hasn't. For the last 35 years our marriage has been as close to ideal as a marriage can get. I trust her above everyone and there's not but about 5 people in the world I trust 100 per cent. You have a "gut feeling" that there is more and there very well could be. What is finding out more going to do to your life? Do you love her as much as you say or do you love her only if she never does anything to upset your world and infidelity can really upset a world. As I have said before, I had 2 careers in 45 years. Both were dangerous and violent and my gut feeling has saved my ass more than once. But also along the way I found out that sometimes my gut was wrong. Could yours be wrong? Sometimes a marriage can be like a piece of iron. A walk through the fire can make iron into steel and a really bad place in a marriage, stronger. She has done a lot to win you back. If you don't love her enough to accept her remorse and what she is doing to R, and you must have answers that she don't have or feels she can't give, then stop the hurt for both of you and walk away. If you do love her and you walk away, my "gut" says, in years to come you, you may wish you hadn't. I do wish you well.

[HereNorThere]

It is far better to grasp the universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring. - Carl Sagan

[Overtaxed]

At risk if being too politically incorrect, I am both impressed and horrified with a Waywards Wife's appearantly natural skill and ability to lie and deny with unwavering unflinching resilience and persistence. The number of threads I have read that describe the apparently unblinking steady earnest telless lying ability that a wayward wife has when being confronted with anything less than incontrovertible proof is... Well... From a male perpective, daunting, unsettling, and intimidating. Appearantly, most can perform at this level regardless of upbringing, or historic family value or innocent good girl background, once they have ventured into wayward status, this seems to almost comes as the standard package...

 

Have to agree on this one. I said on my thread, and I feel the same, I really didn't think my wife could lie. Of course we can all lie about small things, but a big lie? I didn't think she could do it. She hated that in other people, she always jumped all over her family members for doing it, and then.. It seemed like she couldn't stop lying. I had the proof from day 1, got more proof later, but it was incontrovertible. I never said "I know this" but I did tell her, in general, where the proof came from (phone/computer recovery). And still, it took about 4 months of conversation before I got to the "big" lies.

 

Women know the sex stuff is very important to most men. It seems that it's standard WW script to not only have a lot of sex with the OM, but also do things with him that are off limits to the H. So, those are generally the most protected lies; the ones that are hardest to get to. It's why some men ardently seek affairs, the best way to have "kinky" sex seems to be "have it with another man's wife". I have no idea why this is the case, I've heard some plausible explanations, but nothing that really clicks. I can tell you what it feels like though; "You never loved me" or "I was always your 2nd choice". Which is why so many WW's are so careful to maintain that secret.

[Trtroles]

Your wife is threatening to leave you for months. Wtf man. Now she is gone for 2 days. She is makind demands like you are the one who cheated.

 

She is protecting OM and his family. This means she still cares for him and wants best for him.

Expose them. Tell the other wife because she deserves to know. They hurt you,your family,other wife,her 3 kids...

 

Go to HR and report the boss. He deserves some pain.

 

We only kissed--we had sex

We only kissed 3 times--we had sex 333 times

 

He was at your wedding. No respect for you from your wife side. Oh my God.

 

Why did she fight with female co-worker ??? I can bet my life she found about them and wanted to expose them.

 

Her mom is just like her. Supports cheating

[Trtroles]

one more thing

 

DONT HAVE A BABY WITH THIS WOMAN

[QuietDan]

Have to agree on this one. I said on my thread, and I feel the same, I really didn't think my wife could lie. Of course we can all lie about small things, but a big lie? I didn't think she could do it. She hated that in other people, she always jumped all over her family members for doing it, and then.. It seemed like she couldn't stop lying. I had the proof from day 1, got more proof later, but it was incontrovertible. I never said "I know this" but I did tell her, in general, where the proof came from (phone/computer recovery). And still, it took about 4 months of conversation before I got to the "big" lies.

 

Women know the sex stuff is very important to most men. It seems that it's standard WW script to not only have a lot of sex with the OM, but also do things with him that are off limits to the H. So, those are generally the most protected lies; the ones that are hardest to get to. It's why some men ardently seek affairs, the best way to have "kinky" sex seems to be "have it with another man's wife". I have no idea why this is the case, I've heard some plausible explanations, but nothing that really clicks. I can tell you what it feels like though; "You never loved me" or "I was always your 2nd choice". Which is why so many WW's are so careful to maintain that secret.

Overtaxed, I noticed a bit of a change. The tone and nature of your post seem to noticeable change this last month or so.

You are still early in the affair recovery process... unfortunately, in all likely hood it will get a lot worse for both of you before it gets better. Recovery with a wayward that has ended things and doing everything right generally is 2 to 5 years.

 

Unfortunately, Dobber80's wayward is still acting like an active wayward. Everything she is doing screams active wayward...

[Overtaxed]

Overtaxed, I noticed a bit of a change. The tone and nature of your post seem to noticeable change this last month or so.

You are still early in the affair recovery process... unfortunately, in all likely hood it will get a lot worse for both of you before it gets better. Recovery with a wayward that has ended things and doing everything right generally is 2 to 5 years.

 

Unfortunately, Dobber80's wayward is still acting like an active wayward. Everything she is doing screams active wayward...

 

TJ below:

 

You mean from my normal harping in the WS forum to other women who are wondering if their AP loves them (he doesn't)?

 

Yeah, I know, we're early, and I'm not sure what change your noticing, but, if your asking how we're doing, it's "generally well" with some fits and starts.

 

But, back to the topic at hand (kind of). An active WS is impossible to deal with. Impossible. My wife broke it off immediately with the OM, she was still deep in a fog for months. Couldn't stop lying, couldn't stop shifting blame. All of it. And she hadn't spoken to the AP. If she had, I'm 100% convinced, this process would have drug on indefinitely (or until I D'ed her).

 

In many ways, dealing with an active WS is like trying to reason with a drunk who's had a 30 pack before dinner. It's just not going to happen. They are in "love", or the man is simply unable to imagine life without the sex from the WS AND their wives, going from 2 partners to 0 at d-day is unthinkable to many men.

 

QuietDan, if you'd like, please PM me, I'd love to see what shift your seeing in me, and would like to not jack this thread up worse than I already have.

[Just a Guy]

Hi Overtaxed, I had stopped responding on your thread long before you wound it up( or did you?) but the fact is that I never really could understand how and why you kept at trying to reconcile with your wife after her behaviour and attitude post your DDay. In every way you come across as a man of the world, successful, attractive to the opposite sex and with virtues any good woman would die for and yet you pursued your WW even when she was at her unwilling worst for reasons that I have'nt and probably will never comprehend. I guess you have your reasons and they may be excellent. However, your complete devotion to your wife in the face of her horrifying choices and her adamant attitude is beyond me. It is almost as if you were trying to save her from herself.

 

I guess for your sake I wish you have a smooth journey here on out. I am all for reconciliation if the WS puts in the required effort, is truly remorseful and has the necessary empathy for his/her spouse to help them heal from the tremendous hurt and pain they have caused them. Sadly, in your wife's case I didn't see that so I am wishing you all the luck going forward.

 

As far as Dobber is concerned, he has been given sterling advice on here. If he still chooses to reconcile with his wife he better be sure what he is signing up for. Warm wishes.

Edited June 10, 2017 by Just a Guy

[SummerDreams]

Dobber I'm sorry for what you are going through. It is my opinion as well that your wife cares more for her lifestyle and the opinion othershave about her rather than for you. Even a kid knows that if they make a mistake they need to truthfully apologize and do everything to show remorse and fix the mistake. Your wife knows how much you love her and she is taking advantage of it. She doesn't seem to be remorseful at all, making it all about her. If I were in her shows I would quit everything and stay close to my H day and night trying to make hi trust me and believe in me again. I wouldn't care about my job, my friends, my lifestyle, others' opinions of me. Your wife follows her mother's advise playing it cool until you ask her back.

 

In my opinion, even if she had no sex with this OM, the way she lied time and time again, the dismissive way she treated all of this like your feelings don't matter and you are overeacting, the way she is threatening to leave you, all these things would make me not want to be with this kind a person anymore. How would I go on in our lives when I would question everything they would say to me? "Honey I'm going out for coffee with my friend", "Honey I'm staying late at work", "Honey my phone was off cause the battery was broken". Really? Were you really or are you cheating on me again? I can't even imagine living in this environment. The best thing in a relationship is the blind trust. If this is gone, what remains?

 

I know the future seems hard at the moment cause it's the unknown but let me promise you, things will get better. Make the decision and divorce this woman, she is not who you thought she was anymore. The perfect relationship you thought you had, evem if once was there, not it's not anymore. Don't waste more time with this manipulative person. She has shown that she only cares for herself time and time again.

 

She will never admit she had sex with him cause she knows your opinion about this matter, that sex = divorce, so she spares you the extra hurt and humiliation.

 

Either way, you are better off without her. Your future awaits you.

[SydCar]

Dobber, you already have your answer - she has been ****ing him because she thought she could get away with it and he fed her ego and it was illicit and exciting. YOU ALREADY KNOW THIS!

 

Now you want her to admit it - why?

 

You also know that she is not marriage material! So don't even consider reconciling. You are lucky that she has shown you what she is this early in the marriage. With out any kids I would run as fast as I can.

 

AND DO THE RIGHT THING AND TELL THE POS BOSS' WIFE IMMEDIATELY! Do not hesitate.

[Just a Guy]

Hi folks, actually on reflection I am coming round to believe that Dobber's wife was having an affair with her boss even before she married Dobber. He didn't notice anything because he was in a fog himself at the time, the impending marriage fog. His wife had been at this job for a while before the marriage and the boss was probably aware she was getting married. It would have boosted his ego to steal her affection so to say from her future husband all the while knowing he could carry on regardless after the " Marriage" was solemnized.

 

The thing is that Dinner and his wife have been together for six years and they were living together at her patents place before buying their own place. In that time their relationship would have become stale as most marriages do especially if circumstances lead to routine ness and the two people become complacent. In such s case her boss's attention would have been flattering and she would have succumbed to them. From everything that Dinner has written about his wife's post DDay behaviour it is quite obvious that the relationship was physical and had been for sometime. A woman usually would not cheat on her husband during the honeymoon phase of her marriage unless a) She was already involved in an affair prior to the marriage orb) She is the worst kind of " Morals of a cat" woman who would sleep with anyone one at the drop of a hat. If what I have had to say is any where near the truth of the matter then I believe Dinner is in eben more hot water than he knows. Time to start protecting himself before he is had in the worst way possible. Warm wishes.

[Sparta]

In every bad situation there comes a point where hard decisions have to be made. You are reaching that point. You are either going to have to decide to believe your wife and continue the life you have had for the last 10 years or decide she is lying and you can't get by that and walk away from her. I see you are one of those that has to know every detail and I understand that. There are those that just can't let go and have to turn up and look under every rock. You believe that if she has done more than she said and she tells you then she believes you will leave her. You even said you would leave her. If I thought that my life would be destroyed if I told something then I, and probably you and a lot of other people, would hold out as long as possible. It is called survival and is a very powerful instinct. My wife had at least a 10 year on and off EA. I was gone a lot (US Army Special Forces) and during my deployments a civilian "friend", who was married with 2 children, decided he could fill my wife's emotional void. When I finally found out it stopped dead. Was it a PA also? I never ask because I didn't want to know. If I knew, and being the person I was at the time, I would have done him dire physical damage and maybe even a divorce. What brought us back together was the death of someone I dearly loved and the fact that my wife and I loved each other more than anything else. Like your wife, my wife said nothing physical ever happened between them. I chose to believe her because I knew something like that would never happen again. And it hasn't. For the last 35 years our marriage has been as close to ideal as a marriage can get. I trust her above everyone and there's not but about 5 people in the world I trust 100 per cent. You have a "gut feeling" that there is more and there very well could be. What is finding out more going to do to your life? Do you love her as much as you say or do you love her only if she never does anything to upset your world and infidelity can really upset a world. As I have said before, I had 2 careers in 45 years. Both were dangerous and violent and my gut feeling has saved my ass more than once. But also along the way I found out that sometimes my gut was wrong. Could yours be wrong? Sometimes a marriage can be like a piece of iron. A walk through the fire can make iron into steel and a really bad place in a marriage, stronger. She has done a lot to win you back. If you don't love her enough to accept her remorse and what she is doing to R, and you must have answers that she don't have or feels she can't give, then stop the hurt for both of you and walk away. If you do love her and you walk away, my "gut" says, in years to come you, you may wish you hadn't. I do wish you well.

 

Because she was at work on lunch break, while texting her mom at home. This is true. Her mom was asking how she's holding up, and if I've tried contacting her yet.

 

Day 2 since she left, and she hasn't contacted me at all, nor have I contacted her. I think her plan is to separate, and make me miss her and beg for her back. Her mom even said it.

 

My family knows, and her family knows. As well as some friends. Over the past hellish 5 months, she has done a lot to try and make things right. Number one being she quit her job, shes still kind and tries to do things to get back to normal again. She tries to plan things to do, but I just can't have any of it right now. Which in turn is frustrating her. She keeps saying if I can't love her again, then just let her go. But it's obviously much more complicated than that. She cooks for me, still cleans around the house. However, she won't do the poly and that speaks volumes. She says over and over "I quit my job for you".

 

She has also said if I tell the other guys wife, then it's over. It's not my business to tell her, it's his she says. She doesn't want word getting out at her former workplace about what she has done. She still has a lot of friends there.

 

But that's too bad, it's time for her to know I've put it off long enough.

 

First off buddy you're so afraid of her you don't come off of being a man. You've got that nice guy syndrome well how's that working for you. You're so afraid of your wife she picks up on this you need to tell the OMs wife now..! Standup be a man.! you should one with this tramp I'm telling you she's a piece of *****.! Why would you want anything to do with her. Do you think now that you work through (if you even get that far with her I doubt it) this she's going to be the good girl the rest of your life's come on.

It just amazes me how people come here for help and people give great advice but they ignore it and appear they know better. First of all you're thinking and your great ideas have along with your wife's great decisions to have sex with another man we can pretty much say put you in this position so I would try something else I would try something that suggested to me by people that are or have gone through the same exact thing so they pretty much know better. OP are you really truly believing they never had sex m.? come on buddy ask yourself this what would you do right.?! Adults don't just kiss they f**k.! They've had sex more times then your wife and you have had guys had. Sorry buddy but Face reality she's had sex your marriage is over call it quits and find someone that really loves you...

[OneLov]

A woman usually would not cheat on her husband during the honeymoon phase of her marriage unless a) She was already involved in an affair prior to the marriage orb) She is the worst kind of " Morals of a cat" woman who would sleep with anyone one at the drop of a hat.

 

I would think the same. However, I found this surprising.

 

No Cookies | Daily Telegraph

 

"While the statistics may seem brutal — after all, how many of us can imagine cheating on our new spouse so soon after tying the knot — it is surprisingly common,” Dr Anderson said.

 

The article reasoned that couples are cohabiting prior to marriage longer than previous generations, and therefore, well beyond the honeymoon stage by the time they actually tie the knot. I think this could be true for the OP's wife. She may have actually been nearing "the seven year itch" phase (if there is such a thing). But the research, supplied by Ashley Madison, is still surprising nonetheless.