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[jparmyguy]

So I have written a couple of post about my break with a girl I dated for roughly 2.5 years. The last time a spoke to her was Sunday. We were talking over snap chat about stuff.

 

I was asking her to hit me up at the end of summer to talk again to see if maybe we should try again. Once we have had enough space to ourselves and time to focus on ourselves.

 

She asked me to meet up with her one last time to have a talk and have sex. I kind of second guessed it decided it was a bad idea. I wrote like 3 pages about how I felt about her. Originally the day before I had asked that question and she said I don't know, and I don't want to give you that hope because you need to focus on your self.

 

Anyways, she sent 3 sentence back saying you will get through this and that I will find my perfect fit one day. She also went on to say that I kind of just realized that we would have never worked out long term. After hearing this I blocked her and said ok shay.

 

After having time to think it through and talk to my close friends, I realized that I stopped loving her a long time ago and that I just have an addictive personality. Its the reason why I stopped paying attention to her and its the reason I wanted my own space. I was in a way fed up with her lying to me all the time and always blowing me off. When she dumped me my brain was playing tricks on me thinking that I wanted her back, when I really think I just wanted the attention. Deep down inside I was fed up with her family and attitude towards me.

 

I'm curious to hear some opinions on whether or not I will hear from her ever again. If she turns around a few months from now and tries to get back with me. I am afraid I will jump right back in to the mess of a relationship we had. Its been two days since accepting it was over and I am actually feeling a lot better, but let me know what you guys think.

[Marc878]

If you give chase they always move farther away. You'd be better off going your own way instead of wondering and wasting time on someone who dumped you.

 

It sounds like she's pretty definite about moving on.

[preraph]

It's easy to get caught up in that cycle of just interacting for some. At least you realize that is what you were doing but that there really wasn't much left. What I am hoping is that between now and whenever she crossed your path again, you find a new relationship or find a new path in life that satisfies and excites you so that you don't need to immerse yourself in a tired relationship just to feel alive.

[jparmyguy]

Actually, just recently she found out that I was going on a date with another girl. Honestly, it was just for fun and the girl knew that.

 

Now I had not changed my password to any of my accounts and my ex decided to log in to my Instagram. There she read the conversation between me and this other girl.

 

Around 12 o clock when her and I were walking on the beach. My ex decided to blow up my phone at this time. She asked who I was with and I told her because she decided to go around making fun of me begging for her back a couple of weeks ago.(I couldn't help it at the time)

 

After, telling her the news she went AWOL. She started saying she was going to kill herself and just told me F off. It ended up cutting my night short. I still care about my ex and she attempted suicide a couple times before. So I kept telling her that I would meet up with her and stuff.

 

We ended up talking the next day and she started saying how she wanted to try again and take things slow. I agreed to try that out and went out on a date later on that night. It was extremely awkward I tried to be all romantic and she just kept pushing me away and stuff. I'm addicted to her attention so I did that lol. Anyways, then she started to back track and say how like things will never work for us and that my family would never approve of you.

 

I just said ok take things slow I guess. The next day I started texting her and she kind of blew me off and said how like she could never tell her family about me because they want her to find someone better. It made me chuckle a bit.

 

Anyways, I know she is purposely screwing with my head right now and that this toxic for me. Anyways, going on that date kind of reminded me how I am not really missing much. Later on tonight I am going to tell her how I can't do this and that I am letting go. I am most likely going to send her mom the stuff she was telling me about killing herself, so I don't have that stuff hanging over my head.

[Ronnys93]

She doesn't really want to try to take things slow with you. Like you said she's playing with you and leading you on. She can't bear the thought of you moving on so quickly while she hasn't found anybody else. Always remember that unless you're bullying someone to the point of suicide, that truthfully isn't your problem. She's using that to toy with you as well.

 

I wouldn't even send that stuff to her mom as really it's none of your business, but I understand that having a good heart and being a good person sometimes is more important than the mess our exes put us through. Use good judgement there. Her mother could easily blow it off as you trying to stir the pot and start trouble.

 

The fact that you allowed her to cut your night short also shows that you're definitely not over her (as I'm sure you already know) and you need to probably either focus on this new person or let this new person go and focus on yourself. Don't string people along. It's not fair at all, put yourself in that girl's shoes.

[jparmyguy]

She doesn't really want to try to take things slow with you. Like you said she's playing with you and leading you on. She can't bear the thought of you moving on so quickly while she hasn't found anybody else. Always remember that unless you're bullying someone to the point of suicide, that truthfully isn't your problem. She's using that to toy with you as well.

 

I wouldn't even send that stuff to her mom as really it's none of your business, but I understand that having a good heart and being a good person sometimes is more important than the mess our exes put us through. Use good judgement there. Her mother could easily blow it off as you trying to stir the pot and start trouble.

 

The fact that you allowed her to cut your night short also shows that you're definitely not over her (as I'm sure you already know) and you need to probably either focus on this new person or let this new person go and focus on yourself. Don't string people along. It's not fair at all, put yourself in that girl's shoes.

I was telling the girl that this is just for fun and that I just recently got out of relationship and that I am really not looking for one. She agreed and said that she wasn't either and just wanted to do fun stuff and see what happens.

 

At the time I was not over her, but after meeting up with my ex one more time in person earlier today, she should her true colors. She never really cared about me and told me that the spark was gone. She needed some space to herself and wanted to talk again in a couple months.

 

Basically what she was trying to do was keep around as a back up so if things don't work out with someone else she can always come back. Seeing that made me realize I really don't want a person like that in my life.

 

I told her I am done and not to contact me again. Its done for good I don't want her back and I am ready to move on. I will be strong enough that if she does try that again I can just say no