CptInsano Posted June 8, 2017 Share Posted June 8, 2017 Wouldn't be a woman author better equiped to teach how to understand women. Makes me laugh all those men pretending to know what we women want, what we like or don't. Yes, women would be better at understanding women. However, getting to know a woman is largely about getting to know a woman, not about understanding her, at least initially. Most women have zero experience in trying to woo another woman. In that regard I have little doubt that another man may have better insight. The problem is however that you cannot cook it down to simple rules. RecentChange put it well with her horse training analogy. It takes experience, similar to learning to swim. You can read as many books as you want, or watch numerous videos: You still won't be able swim until you practice. Simply chat somebody up and practice small talk until it becomes second nature. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted June 8, 2017 Share Posted June 8, 2017 (edited) I'm not going to validate PUA. I'll just explain some of my experience with it. David DeAngelo is a good source for dating information for younger men. He's not big on tricks and PUA tactics, more common sense (for most of us anyway) info on confidence, being a man, not being a wuss (HUGE) and what women are generally attracted to. He's recently gotten married and has now come out with an intimacy program (designed for those wanting or are in a LTR) for men. I read his daily email just to stay sharp on my dating game as to not get sloppy, like any good "athlete" would. Good luck. David De'Angelo lol. That takes me way back. That was the first thing I ever read on “game”. I was still a sort-of naïve 22 year old, and I just happened across one of his books on the piratebay. I read it, and was pretty impressed at how perceptive and creative it was. Then, I just forgot about it, and carried on another 5 years same as before – making no real changes to my life. Just being lazy really. Eventually read Neil Strauss' “The Game”, and “The Rational Male”, which came at a point where I was pretty much questioning my entire direction with just about everything. And started making serious changes. Been on a tear up for about 2 years. But I feel I'm coming out of the other side now. Needing a break, and to sort myself out. There are things which most don't talk about. For example: - I started to develop a bad drinking habit. Which is part of dealing with the roller coaster of emotions. - I was having crap sex a lot of the time. I read women here talking about how womanizers are actually not great lays. I can understand that I was having sex for validation a lot, and didn't really care too much about the woman being satisfied, because I just wasn't that invested. There were exceptions, but the rule was that I considered people replacable, and emotional intimacy through sex generally wasn't happening. - It's actually a very lonely lifestyle. The pushback from family was especially surprising, and just existing in that way challenges a lot of other people's value systems. Meaning that I just start to close off certain parts of your life to certain people. Was most open with the women that I saw, but then couldn't trust them either, because the game came first. In pushing your own boundaries in a big way, you end up pushing against other peoples. - It's also worth considering the effects this sort of high emotional stimulation has on the brain. The human body was not meant to take the dopamine hit of approaching 10 women in one day, over 4 days, for example. The exhilaration and exhaustion. Just some thoughts. Game ultimately doesn't make you happy Edited June 8, 2017 by Bastile 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted June 8, 2017 Share Posted June 8, 2017 Where are all these women who don't want a relationship with but will gladly keep men around as a ****buddies? Seems like a huge misread of how most straight women experience sexuality. Don't get me started The amount of women that try to pressure a relationship, when they are in no way the appropriate quality for one is insane. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted June 9, 2017 Share Posted June 9, 2017 Don't get me started The amount of women that try to pressure a relationship, when they are in no way the appropriate quality for one is insane. Nothwistanding the quality comment: right? Most women I know will be ****buddies with men they're hoping to be in a relationship with. Some can do FWB with old flames, but they're a minority - and usually they had sex prior as part of romantic dating. If you're dating a woman, not ****ing her, and she says she's not interested... Bad news buddy, you'll never get in her pants or her heart. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 9, 2017 Share Posted June 9, 2017 Men should stop listening to these gurus and build up their own life instead. When you have a good career, good hobbies and are doing good things with your life then quality women naturally come as part of that package. Know how to avoid the not quality women and you should do well. It worked for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
josi334 Posted June 9, 2017 Share Posted June 9, 2017 Can you please define/clarify quality women vs non-quality? Link to post Share on other sites
The Urbanyst Posted June 9, 2017 Share Posted June 9, 2017 He has some good advice, but no one knows everything or is always right. Remember he is just a guy. A person like you and me. Not a God. At a certain point in life you just have to learn how to filter what people say. You take in the information and decide if it makes sense or not for you. I only follow three dating rules: 1. Don't be desperate 2. Go after what you want 3. Let people make their own decisions Works pretty well. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 9, 2017 Share Posted June 9, 2017 Can you please define/clarify quality women vs non-quality? Quality are women who bring good things into your life and non quality are ones who don't. The same can apply to men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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