I need to hear answers from a mans point of view it can be women too

[CP123]

Okay soo basically I was dating this dude for basically a year he stayed in New York I stayed in California . We would talk every single day soo eventually I ended up going out there to New York to see him you know it was good vibes nothing bad happened you know he told me " he was going to hold it down together and let other women know we was together " lmao and my dumbass believed it long story short I ended up finding out he was talking to this girl for 2 years remind you he kept telling me that was his " friend " soo I took it upon myself and messaged her and she told me that they were talking soo fast forward we got into a huge argument I was cussing him out you know calling him outta his name, mentioning insecurities, I even told him " I should've talked to your Bestfriend " lol I was speaking outta anger soo recently I reached out didn't want no bad blood he was cool that then he just turned a 360 talking about " go talk to my Bestfriend " " thought you had a man now " and basically bringing up everything I said and I don't know what he was talking about saying I had a man never said that to him soo idk soo then I basically was like " if you never had feelings for me why are you still texting back " then he tried avoiding it the 1st time and I told him to answer my question he ended up answering it and said " I didn't ttyl " like basically what I'm asking is did he say that outta anger or do you think he was serious ? Remind you this boy literally would check up on me or was jealous half the time when we was together

[act00]

He's not boyfriend material.

 

He lives on the other side of the country.

 

Don't text him if you don't want him to text you back.

 

Look, you can't expect anything "real" when you live so far apart. Yes, it can happen, but it's rare. He is clearly keeping himself available to women who are available, which you are not. And it seems he enjoys playing with women from around the country perhaps?? Where does this girl live? Is she local?

 

I don't know what to say about his jealousy about you seeing other guys during your time together. He was likely worried his potential gravy train would move on. Most of these LD online dating things are scams.

 

Find someone local.

[SammySammy]

You had a text/chat buddy. You were never "together ".

 

Might be best to find someone you can have a real relationship with.