aliveagain Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I can't come up with a valid argument with this statement. However, my wife has some type of hold on me, where she can do the meanest things and eventually I forgive. A huge personality flaw on my part. The meanest things? Friend, this is beyond mean this is abuse. You saw the video's, you heard them confess their feelings to each other, you witnessed in HD the porn star sex in your own bed. It will take you several lifetimes to get those images out of your head. She will only do to you what you allow her to do, talk to a lawyer. The whole neighbourhood knows what's going on. Have more respect for yourself, you deserve better. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Residentduchbag Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 If I had the sex film that you have one her.And there was no kids involved After the divorce she and OM would end up on some porn tube..As a punishment .Yes I´m that vindictive . Im Not kidding 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Uncle Boogie Posted June 15, 2017 Author Share Posted June 15, 2017 (edited) Update: So my friends sat on me today so I wouldn't go out and do something stupid Today's surveillance garnered not a lot of information. My wife went to the gym and to work. She did call me, which is not out of the ordinary when I travel and spewed out the ... "I miss you; Can't wait till you get home; I think about you all the time". I am sure she misses me and thinks about me when her legs are spread offering it up to another guy (sorry, I will tone it down). Talked to my attorney today and came up with a game plan. Basically, if she leaves my retirement and business alone, she can have the house. I have always hated the damn thing so she can rot in it. On a interesting note, I was talking to my sister (who also works in the hospital and knows Dr. Dick) and is friends with his wife. My sister is not surprised regarding this affair since Dr. Dick has done this before and she hates my wife. So I will get together with his wife before I confront my wife to see if she wants to be in on the action. The more information I get, the tighter the noose is for both of them. I will refrain from contacting the hospital until it is to my best advantage. It still just blows me away that the woman who swore to love you and support you and build a life together would just turn her back on all we have achieved for a 5'8 230 pound balding cheesy mustached piece of crap. Oh yea I forgot...she still wants to be with me. I am a lucky bastard. I am going to stay low key at my friends house until Friday, the day I am suppose to be back. This will give me a little time to get my affairs in order and gather a little bit more intel. So she just called me and wanted to know if we can have her best friend (co-conspirator) and her husband over on Friday night for pizza and a movie. Hell...why not. However, it does give me an idea. I will go over it with my best friend and get his opinion. He is also a little twisted so I am sure he will love it. And so it goes... Edited June 18, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language~T 7 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I am guessing that the operative word is "movie" here. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Whodatdog Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Have you given any thought to telling her that you can't make it home for a few more days? Might give you more time to gather evidence. Link to post Share on other sites
Overtaxed Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Have you given any thought to telling her that you can't make it home for a few more days? Might give you more time to gather evidence. What more evidence does the OP need? Good lord, without a production studio setup in the house, I'm not sure how this can get any clearer. <said in jest, please take it as such> 5 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Uncle Boogie Just get a divorce already. This gamesmanship serves no one, not even you. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Have you given any thought to telling her that you can't make it home for a few more days? Might give you more time to gather evidence. Unless he is thinking of setting up a business selling cheating porn movies, then I guess one movie like the one he has just captured will last him a lifetime. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Unless he is thinking of setting up a business selling cheating porn movies, then I guess one movie like the one he has just captured will last him a lifetime. Revenge porn is illegal in many states. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 If your story is indeed true...if it has all played out like you are telling us....then why do you need more drama? You have the all proof you need that your wife is cheating. You simply have no desire to reconcile or try to "fix" a very broken relationship. You already have a lawyer. Serve her divorce papers and be done with it. The drama will only cause you more grief...and stress. Vengence...revenge....acting like a child gone mad...will gain nothing. You have it all figured out financially...you have no children...WALK like a man. Drama is not all its cracked up to be...if you piss her off...she will just fight you....which will cost you more money. I am really sorry you are here...it sucks all the way around. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
QuietDan Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Keep it straight forward and simple. As few words as possible. Tell her you know. Don't tell her how you know. Let her twist and squirm, conjecture, see what sort of lies she has prepared. Or, if she comes clean. It sounds like it is a deal breaker for you. So, just matter of factly tell her it is over. Then follow through with it. Anything else...don't know if it does anything else but creates unnecessary drama and later on regrets. Something to be said for calling her out on this and ending things with dignity and grace. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I don't know how much more info you need to confront your wife about her affair. The video is more than enough and as a matter of fact the story sounds somewhat familiar. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I know it is all very new and it hurts a lot and you will be very angry too but try to not discount reconciliation totally and whatever you do now, keep that in mind. Seems to me that after infidelity occurs, the most "impossible" couples can end up working things out and those marriages that seemed so "possible", end up in divorce, so it is best to realise that anything can happen with time. Even if you do divorce, better to have a peaceful divorce than make an enemy of your wife, as you will not be making things any easier for yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Whodatdog Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Unless he is thinking of setting up a business selling cheating porn movies, then I guess one movie like the one he has just captured will last him a lifetime. I guess what I meant to say was to get his ducks in a row, as far as his financials and getting lawyered up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 The drama will only cause you more grief...and stress. Vengence...revenge....acting like a child gone mad...will gain nothing. . Agreed. OP, If you do show the friends the video as a "surprise" to embarrass your wife, I am sure they will dine out on that anecdote for years and it will be a huge joke to everyone who hears it, meanwhile you will still be hurting and heartbroken. The joke will be on you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I guess what I meant to say was to get his ducks in a row, as far as his financials and getting lawyered up. He said he already met with the lawyer & has a plan. Now he's just toying with his wife. . . looking for what I'm not sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Agreed. OP, If you do show the friends the video as a "surprise" to embarrass your wife, I am sure they will dine out on that anecdote for years and it will be a huge joke to everyone who hears it, meanwhile you will still be hurting and heartbroken. The joke will be on you. Yep... good old locker room talk... It might be good for a laugh... but in the long run... it will cause disrespect for you as well. Why would anyone in their right mature responsible mind want to play these kind of childish games? If you are in pain why put yourself through that? Makes no sense to me... unless of course it also reveals the kind of person you just might really be. I can tell you.. my betrayed husband would never have done something this childish and foolish... He had too much pride and respect for himself to stoop to this kind of behavior. In addition he was so broken I don't think anything like boys night out to look at pornos of my wife would have ever even crossed his mind. Sorry I am having a really hard time imagining a newly betrayed man in this kind of mindset or behavior. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Friskyone4u Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Meanwhile, back at the ranch, she is still banging her boyfriend and you are now in overkill planning the perfect execution. You have enough right now to blow this out of the water and possibly get Dr. Dick in a bit of hot water at home and at work. What will exposing it on a public forum do to change the financials, other than maybe get you sued. and provide you with a moment of revenge. Your best revenge will be to get rid of her and become happy while her word is shattered. And you better put your football helmet on because based on her comments and pillow talk, she is going to for sure come slobbering and begging for you to eat this **** sandwich, promising everything and anything. You better be prepared for that and ignore it 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Yep... good old locker room talk... It might be good for a laugh... but in the long run... it will cause disrespect for you as well. I do not think he is going to show it to his buddies, I think he is going to show it to the wife's best friend and her husband when they come over for pizza and a movie, on Friday night. So she just called me and wanted to know if we can have her best friend (co-conspirator) and her husband over on Friday night for pizza and a movie. Hell...why not. However, it does give me an idea. I will go over it with my best friend and get his opinion. He is also a little twisted so I am sure he will love it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
QuietDan Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 .... Sorry I am having a really hard time imagining a newly betrayed man in this kind of mindset or behavior. I think it is a natural form of anger, revenge, mixed in with some bitterness... Trying to humiliate the cheating spouse. Actually, there are a number of accounts, stories, even Youtube videos and porn sites that are dedicated to being an outlet that are out there that demonstrate this type of revenge humiliation. Heck for that matter, it is such a problem there are laws against jilted spouses and lovers posting any acquired videos of the affair sex. Revenge porn laws... This type of mind set and behavior is rather common in fact... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Uncle Boogie Posted June 15, 2017 Author Share Posted June 15, 2017 Revenge porn is illegal in many states. No revenge porn, emails or bill boards. I am going to show her the video, pack a bag and leave. I am done and will move on. What she will do is anyone's guess, it will not be my immediate concern. I would tell her parents, however they are just as bad as her. I should have listen to my friends before we were married and should have run like the wind in the opposite direction. Like I said, she has always had this spell on me, however the spell is now broken and she is gone. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I'm so sorry you're going through all this. Just my 2 cents... You're a man of actions. You like to control, to plan and execute. Great! This is helping you to process your new situation easily. You're now scriptwriting the scenario of confronting her, to "show her" to "nail her", so as her OM. All theses are thrilling, give you something to do. But for the long run, you focus on the least important issue. Yes' you'll have you moment of victory, but this moment will pass quickly. All this theatre you're creating now is just a distraction from dealing with the real stuff. I advice you to try to plan the plans that are more difficult to plan - Your nearer future. I think there's a way which will be the best for your future + you'll get your glory moments on the way. In the next few days, you can "extend" your business trip. while that period prepare all papers, accounts, everything. Than, ghost her (Yes, the opposite of confronting her). You can meat with the OP's wife, you can do what ever you like but ghost your wife. Move on. She will chase you like hell of course. then you'll have the chance for some theatre drama if you like, but it will be when you're strong position. Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Hold on guys and girls... I cannot say how much I disagree with the don't do it crew. Let's review. Here is a man that is working his butt off, building a company making a good living for everyone. I will bet $1000 that his wife does not have to work. He is a retired cop if I am not mistaken, so dangerous job, served his community. Now, has to travel for business. His wife is banging a doctor, in their home. Does not even have the decency to go pick him up and go in through the garage so no one would know that she is screwing another man in the marital home. And the marital bed. Is and has been having sex in their marital bed for who knows how long. She is having best friend (AKA: Co conspirator in the affair) over for Pizza. She her and her BFF and maybe her husband can laugh at BS because they know what has been going on... I mean how much worse could it get. How could anyone blame him for the thing he is about to do? I have no idea... Let's see how this might unfold. Everyone has their pop corn and drink. Just before they start the movie, OP interrupts with, "Oh, BTW, I asked Nancy (Dr's wife) to join us tonight. Then the movie starts. Wife and BFF understand immediately what is happening. And we all watch the best parts of the movie... How could it get better than that? I ask you. BFF's husband may not know what his wife has been aiding and abetting, imagine the look of understanding about his own wife. She is probably screwing around on him as well. The whole scene is priceless... This woman deserves to be humiliated for what she is and has been doing. OP, Carry on... 10 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I do not think he is going to show it to his buddies, I think he is going to show it to the wife's best friend and her husband when they come over for pizza and a movie, on Friday night. Oh Elaine you are probably right ... sick 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 No revenge porn, emails or bill boards. I am going to show her the video, pack a bag and leave. I am done and will move on. What she will do is anyone's guess, it will not be my immediate concern. I would tell her parents, however they are just as bad as her. I should have listen to my friends before we were married and should have run like the wind in the opposite direction. Like I said, she has always had this spell on me, however the spell is now broken and she is gone. I'm glad you have a sensible plan. Hope it enables you to reclaim some of your dignity. We've all done stupid things & been blinded by love. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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