the_lost_1 Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 I really like this girl but she says she doesn't feel the same for me, and she also brings excuses such as that I'm too young for her. I'm 29 and we're only 2 years apart but I don't know what to do. I only met her like last week so maybe I need to give it time...I even told her that I think we deserve each other but yeah I don't know. I've never been in a relationship, never even made out with a girl or anything so I've been through a lot and yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 13, 2017 Author Share Posted June 13, 2017 Also she made a facebook post which I think is directed at me, basically image with a quote saying "if you constantly have to tell someone the same exact thing about how you feel & they don't change it...understand they don't respect you" what does this mean? Obviously she kept telling me how she felt and I never shown any disrespect and I was like ok cool you don't have feelings for me that's fine. But yea whether this image was directed at me or not but what do you think this means? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 13, 2017 Author Share Posted June 13, 2017 I also told her that I've never been in a relationship then she was like "oh boy" is that bad, guys? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 She is making excuses trying to let you down easy and to keep from telling you the real reason she isn't interested, which is she's not attracted to you that way. No, it won't help to wait. Women know right away if they're attracted to someone or not. I'm sorry but you just need to leave her alone and move on. Any further contact is just going to force her to be more brutal and humiliate you to make you leave her alone. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
tetrahedral Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 You don't "win a person". The sooner you understand that, the healthier your personal life will be. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 I feel bad for women when it comes to stuff like this. If they are explicit in their lack of interest, they're often deemed heartless, snooty b*tches. If they aren't explicit, the guy often won't take the hint and thinks that this is something that can be negotiated. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 Yes, and it's a big problem. I will say attractive guys can find themselves in the same position as well and trying not to hurt feelings. It took a younger pretty blond woman to wake me up about this but I'm glad she did. She said "If a guy really likes you, you won't have to wonder. It will be obvious." Now, that has an "except," which is fearful shy guys who are too scared to approach, but I don't count them because if they're that scared, they're not ready to date yet anyway. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 You can't "win" somebody's heart. She told you she doesn't have romantic feelings for you yet you persist. Her FB posts are hinting that your behavior is approaching criminal stalking & harassment. You need to listen to her & back off. You can't win her. The only thing you are likely to win if you persist is a conviction That said, she needs to block you on all social media Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 Well... thank you guys, good responses but... I do want to prove her my worth though, the question is how? I just REALLY like her lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 I feel like crying. Rejection sucks. Always been rejected and always will be. I just have heart for her, and she doesn't. Fk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 My apologies for feeling sh*tty but I'm pretty sure that she's rejecting me because of my hearing loss, so I don't blame her at all. In fact, I blame nobody. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik30 Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Well... thank you guys, good responses but... I do want to prove her my worth though, the question is how? I just REALLY like her lol Dude, stop before you get a reputation as a stalker or a creep. You don't want to reach that point where she's talking to people about you. (That probably already happened by now) Not every girl will like you, that's just how it is. It sucks to be rejected, but it happens to everyone. Focus on other girls. You just met her so it shouldn't take to long to get over it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 Dude, stop before you get a reputation as a stalker or a creep. You don't want to reach that point where she's talking to people about you. (That probably already happened by now) Not every girl will like you, that's just how it is. It sucks to be rejected, but it happens to everyone. Focus on other girls. You just met her so it shouldn't take to long to get over it. I know, I'm not though, thanks for looking out. She's the only girl I like over the years and she's not like anyone I met. I understand she doesn't want me and I respect that but she's the most sweetest girl I met. It's like I can see her soul but she doesn't see anything in me. Link to post Share on other sites
knabe Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 You need to brush up on your respect for women as autonomous beings. She said no. There is no "how do I make her anyway." There is only her no, and you respecting that and BACKING OFF. Period 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I know, I'm not though, thanks for looking out. She's the only girl I like over the years and she's not like anyone I met. I understand she doesn't want me and I respect that but she's the most sweetest girl I met. It's like I can see her soul but she doesn't see anything in me. That has happened to every one of us before. So don't feel you're the only one. To be honest when it happens and you think you're all in love with her but she has nothing for you, what it really means is that you think you know and love her but you really don't or else you'd have known up front "This girl isn't going to be interested in me. I know how she is." So you don't really know her that well and this is a part of her you don't know that knows she isn't interested. It sucks, but it's life. We all been through it. Over and over sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
jjgitties Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 (edited) Club to the head and knock her out. When she wakes up she will realize shes in love. works every time. https://thiscougarhassomethingtosay.files.wordpress.com/2012/04/caveman-courtship.jpg But on a more serious note. If a woman doesn't dig you, she just doesn't dig you. That's that! No point forcing it. What you could try to do is just be nice and polite and make her laugh and see if you can be friends. Be non-threatening. Who knows, maybe something might change in her head. (but dont count on it) Edited June 15, 2017 by jjgitties Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 15, 2017 Author Share Posted June 15, 2017 That has happened to every one of us before. So don't feel you're the only one. To be honest when it happens and you think you're all in love with her but she has nothing for you, what it really means is that you think you know and love her but you really don't or else you'd have known up front "This girl isn't going to be interested in me. I know how she is." So you don't really know her that well and this is a part of her you don't know that knows she isn't interested. It sucks, but it's life. We all been through it. Over and over sometimes. Yeah. Well she just told me she has a date tonight, just what I needed to hear. God, it's making me feel worse. Oh well, wishing her best of luck.... Hopefully I find a girl like her, at least. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 15, 2017 Author Share Posted June 15, 2017 Club to the head and knock her out. When she wakes up she will realize shes in love. works every time. https://thiscougarhassomethingtosay.files.wordpress.com/2012/04/caveman-courtship.jpg But on a more serious note. If a woman doesn't dig you, she just doesn't dig you. That's that! No point forcing it. What you could try to do is just be nice and polite and make her laugh and see if you can be friends. Be non-threatening. Who knows, maybe something might change in her head. (but dont count on it) Yeah man true, I'm definitely still friends with her. She definitely does like me but just doesn't dig me, which is what is heartbreaking. I think I'm the problem here which is why she doesn't dig me. Who knows, maybe something might change in her head. (but dont count on it) I hope the universe does the favors for me lol. I'm still trying to make her laugh and all that, thanks man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 15, 2017 Author Share Posted June 15, 2017 I guess it's just that nowadays I feel like no one likes me back, or no one has any feelings for me back. It's crazy that I'm used to this way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 15, 2017 Author Share Posted June 15, 2017 One more thing, i think she probably doesn't want to hurt me so it could be probably why she isn't interested. Regardless maybe I need to ask what she likes in a man and be that guy? I dunno. I know i probably need to let this go but....yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 You can't be that guy. You are who you are and she isn't interested. The more desperate you act, the less friendly she's ever going to be. And to your comment about that hopefully you'll find a girl like her -- you don't want a girl like her. You want one that is interested in you back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 15, 2017 Author Share Posted June 15, 2017 You can't be that guy. You are who you are and she isn't interested. The more desperate you act, the less friendly she's ever going to be. And to your comment about that hopefully you'll find a girl like her -- you don't want a girl like her. You want one that is interested in you back. You're right, thank you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I want you to find someone who will understand and not underestimate you because you are deaf and so here is a website that tells the best dating sites for disabled, which covers a wide range of disabilities: 13 Best Dating Sites for Disabled Singles And here is one specifically for the deaf. You'd meet great people here. The more people you get to know, the bigger your social circle, the easier to meet someone special. EliteSingles Dating: For Single Professionals Link to post Share on other sites
MeadowFlower Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 OP, don't ruminate on being rejected all the time or nobody liking you back. Sure, have some time to feel the feelings of feeling sad or whatever. But then let it go. Unreservedly, without any logic just let go. Live your life and enjoy it! ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 17, 2017 Author Share Posted June 17, 2017 I think it's amazing that I was able to enter her life 'cause I met her at the club and she was enjoying herself and I just couldn't stop looking at her lol I mean yeah I admit I was too shy to ask to dance with her but she seemed to be preoccupied to be dancing by herself and yea. I've known her for like couple weeks now, maybe three but yeah I still don't know what she does for work or anything which is weird I know but i did ask what her parents do. On additional note I also think it seems kind of shady that she's using a fake name on facebook or just a nickname, like she's trying to hide herself from fb. I'm not sure but.... Link to post Share on other sites
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