Ahh! Froze again asking a girl out!

[risjurad]

Ranting, but also something to learn to those who are shy.. when flirting with a lady, have some dialogue plan in your mind and go with it! Don't end up saying "nice meeting you, have a good night!" if you wanted to ask her out! I asked her about what she does, that she looks familiar, and flopped.

 

 

Worse yet, I tried to circle around the supermarket where I met her, but man, she already took off/disappeared! Would've been nice to get a rejection to say at least I tried again.

 

 

Live and learn

[d0nnivain]

Sorry you didn't get the outcome you wanted. But you did talk to her. You can pick the conversation up again next time you see her. Plus you now identified the problem & more importantly the solution. Having done that, next time the Q will come.

[Bastile]

Ranting, but also something to learn to those who are shy.. when flirting with a lady, have some dialogue plan in your mind and go with it!

 

Yeah. I use the same open and close almost all the time.

 

Everything else should be in the moment though. That's how you connect.

 

I do have a general idea about where I am, and where it needs to go, but it isn't a dialogue plan.

 

Don't end up saying "nice meeting you, have a good night!" if you wanted to ask her out!

 

Premature ejectulation

 

It's self rejecting. Trying to get out of the set based on nerves. Trying to escape.

 

I think every guy has parts that he's better or worse at. Closing might be an issue for you. I think some guys put it off with nervous jokes, or they look for an excuse to leave.

 

I've always been a good closer, but I was really bad at starting things. So, I'd rush in like a bull in a China shop. Overinvesting heavily in the first 30 seconds, then chill as things progressed. Just nerves.

 

Got to figure out the part you suck at, and purposely try and improve on it in the next few dozen approaches. Really work on it.

 

I asked her about what she does, that she looks familiar, and flopped.

 

Use assumptions instead.

 

"You look very Polish" is better than "where do you come from?".

 

Constant questions drain people's energy. That's because you are expecting her to be giving value to the conversation.

 

You approach, then you give value and invest early on. You do all the work for the first couple of minutes.

 

 

Worse yet, I tried to circle around the supermarket where I met her, but man, she already took off/disappeared! Would've been nice to get a rejection to say at least I tried again.

 

Yeah, that's not good.

 

Listen to music that puts you in a great mood when you are out. Music is important for me, anyway.

 

You have a bad one, and you put your ear phones back in. Chill for a few minutes, circle, and approach someone else.

 

The nervous energy you expend with the last woman, does you better with the next.

 

That's why I find it daft just to approach one woman. Next time, try for between 5 and 10.

 

 

Live and learn

 

Hell yeah!

[preraph]

Yeah, it's hard on a complete stranger. Most are too cautious or dignified to just leap right into your arms, but maybe you will run into them again and get a smile. But also, if someone is interested and capable of a conversation and not also too shy, the conversation wouldn't have lagged because they might have smiled at you or made other comments. Very hard for two shy people to ever get it done when they're strangers. But a more gregarious woman would have made an effort to keep you talking if interested.

[carnelian]

Here's an idea.

 

Bring a bag of fresh dates with you. Go to her and ask her if she wants a

date! She will laugh and think it is silly but it might work. It breaks the ice.

Have a date yourself to show her how good they are!

I once asked a girl clerk if she has any dates (in the store). She thought it was funny.

 

Don't try this with screws or balls!

[GoodsonFal]

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[Bastile]

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That's easy for you to say.