fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 What do you guys think about if the girl you are dating wont put anything up on here? Is it a reason to freak out? Want to know reasons why people hide you on social media and when ahould you expect your partner or the girl you are seeing to.mention you on there?
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Some people don't feel the need to post about their personal lives. If your new SO introduces you to friends & family, don't worry so much about the social media aspects. If the person is hiding you IRL too making this a clandestine relationship, that is an indication that everything is not above board. 7
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Posted June 14, 2017 Some people don't feel the need to post about their personal lives. If your new SO introduces you to friends & family, don't worry so much about the social media aspects. If the person is hiding you IRL too making this a clandestine relationship, that is an indication that everything is not above board. What does clandestine mean? How do you know if you are being played? Every guy wants the girl they like to introduce them and show them off on social media? When do you get to a point when you have to start asking whether you are being played? 3 month mark? After how many dates?
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Clandestine means: kept secret or done secretively, especially because illicit. You didn't answer the Q. Have you met her friends & family IRL? If so the social media thing is no big deal. You are attaching too much importance to a fake world. I'm older so I don't understand but at 3 months, I'm not sure I would friend a new BF. Sharing social media would give him too much access too early. Also if things don't work out, it's just one more annoying step to undo. I have never dated in the age of social media. I was already married when I got my FB account. If being on her page means so much to you, take a cute selfie with her, post it to your page & talk to her about her views on social media. There's not time frame to decide you are being played. However if after a while your needs aren't getting met, it's time for you to move on. That's different from "being played" which is more about affirmative conduct designed to intentionally hurt somebody. 3
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Personally, I hate social media and rarely post anything on Facebook (the only account I still have) anymore especially as it pertains to my personal life despite it being locked down tight and unsearchable. I don't need nor want my partner (or any family or friend) to discuss or display pics of me on social media. I don't require this level of attention or validation in real life never mind online. Having said that, I would never date anyone who was an active user of social media so the whole topic as it pertains to me and my life is mute. It sounds like social media is important to you, or at least being showcased online for all to see. You should check in with why that is. I don't know how old you are but I would guess you're young in which case the need to parade one's every move online seems par for the course. I guess my answer to this would be, if she is actively posting everything and everyone online except you, then it might raise some concerns. Then again, maybe she wants to preserve her personal life and keep it separate from her online activities. I don't know her or you so I can't comment either way with any certainty. I still think you should think about why you care so much. If she's an attentive girlfriend and you're enjoying each other in the real world, why do you care what she does or doesn't do online regarding you? 3
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 What does clandestine mean? How do you know if you are being played? Every guy wants the girl they like to introduce them and show them off on social media? When do you get to a point when you have to start asking whether you are being played? 3 month mark? After how many dates? Read post # 4. I already answered this exact Q which you asked in post # 3
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Posted June 14, 2017 Sorry double posted! So for you its not so important. I had an instance once where my gi4lfri3nd had posted a status saying she had spare ticket to an event. People commented on it. I did also. I wrote " take me ♡". She didnt seem happy with my comment and then i said what did i do wrong. She then said that her ex never wrote love hearts or cheesey things like that on her wall. She then made a comment about how one of her fri3nds saw my comment. I got upset and felt insecure so deleted her off facebook as a friend. We were facebook friends thats how we met. She said i was childish and that her fri3nd thought i was childish for deleting her off facebook
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 You & your circle put a lot of stock in social media. Since it's important to you then you need to do as I suggested & talk to her. If you don't like the answer, dump her & find a girl who will celebrate your relationship the way you want on social media. 2
kendahke Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 What do you guys think about if the girl you are dating wont put anything up on here? Is it a reason to freak out? Want to know reasons why people hide you on social media and when ahould you expect your partner or the girl you are seeing to.mention you on there? Grateful... so that when things blow up by the 6 week - 3 month mark, everyone you know won't know that it blew up. 2
smackie9 Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Not everyone posts their whole life on social media...in fact I know guys that don't even have social media and they just get any info from their GF/spouse's page. They could care less. I don't post anything of my life either...I only use it as a news feed or keep in touch with friends and family. No one needs to know what me and my husband had for lunch at such and such pub or went camping/celebrated whatever blah blah blah. I only have one old photo of me and my husband when we were first dating....that's it. But I do know people who are older than me that are posting 24/7 about every flippin thing they do. So this is a compatibility issue, not a "She must be hiding something/being sketchy" issue 3
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Posted June 14, 2017 Not everyone posts their whole life on social media...in fact I know guys that don't even have social media and they just get any info from their GF/spouse's page. They could care less. I don't post anything of my life either...I only use it as a news feed or keep in touch with friends and family. No one needs to know what me and my husband had for lunch at such and such pub or went camping/celebrated whatever blah blah blah. I only have one old photo of me and my husband when we were first dating....that's it. But I do know people who are older than me that are posting 24/7 about every flippin thing they do. So this is a compatibility issue, not a "She must be hiding something/being sketchy" issue What if this girl did this stuff with her ex boyfriend? I actually.checked in one day of us in a restaurant and she took it off. Hurt my feelings
max3732 Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 What do you guys think about if the girl you are dating wont put anything up on here? Is it a reason to freak out? Want to know reasons why people hide you on social media and when ahould you expect your partner or the girl you are seeing to.mention you on there? I don't really post anything online because I'm too busy actually living my life and don't like to share that much. I'd much rather call or send a private message to people I'm friends with. When I was dating someone I didn't put it in social media because I like to keep my dating life person except for a few really close friends/family.
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 She may still be smarting from that break up & taken a vow not to put another BF on social media. I can understand why your feelings are hurt but you really have to talk to her. We can't fix this. Only she can give you insight. 1
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Posted June 14, 2017 She may still be smarting from that break up & taken a vow not to put another BF on social media. I can understand why your feelings are hurt but you really have to talk to her. We can't fix this. Only she can give you insight. So how does one approach this situation with the girl you are with? And what if you havnt met her friends or family or she hasnt met yours?
coolheadal Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Sorry double posted! So for you its not so important. I had an instance once where my gi4lfri3nd had posted a status saying she had spare ticket to an event. People commented on it. I did also. I wrote " take me ♡". She didnt seem happy with my comment and then i said what did i do wrong. She then said that her ex never wrote love hearts or cheesey things like that on her wall. She then made a comment about how one of her fri3nds saw my comment. I got upset and felt insecure so deleted her off facebook as a friend. We were facebook friends thats how we met. She said i was childish and that her fri3nd thought i was childish for deleting her off facebook Well my take on all this is this.. You want to be known, by her friends and family. She doesn't want them to know about you. You can't control what she post or adds to Facebook. That's her life. Your not the one she might be considering more with. You see if she was really digging, she would be so happy to say you are her boyfriend. You do what you think best we all here have our own opinions on this subject. But I am on your side of the fence. It does bother me if your dating someone what the heck can't they tell their friends and family about you. Doesn't matter how long you have been dating people can fall in love so quick today just like they have sex too. Where is there handbook on this subject for humans to carry-on this matter when ti comes to dating and relationships. Take my advise don't add her as a friend and you go and find a women that appreciates the fact that you care so much you would have gone overboard just to let your friends and family know you really loved this woman. She's not really into you yet or just not. Buy her actions so far it shows time to look for new fishes in the open sea...
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Again, if you are also a secret IRL there is a problem. If you haven't met anybody from her life, there's more to this then the social media thing. Start slowly. Introduce her to your friends. Next time you go somewhere, ask if you can "check-in" with her. When she says no ask her reasons.
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Posted June 14, 2017 Again, if you are also a secret IRL there is a problem. If you haven't met anybody from her life, there's more to this then the social media thing. Start slowly. Introduce her to your friends. Next time you go somewhere, ask if you can "check-in" with her. When she says no ask her reasons. I feel this is manipulative behaviour and me trying to trick or force her to do things. I shouldnt have to trick her to meet my friends or to "check in". Shouldnt she be the one wanting a picture of us as she is the girl? Girls like pictures and taking them no?
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 There's no manipulation. There is you asking a Q. No not every girl feels the same way about pictures & social media.
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Posted June 14, 2017 There's no manipulation. There is you asking a Q. No not every girl feels the same way about pictures & social media. Ok il ask her question and see what she says. Man this makes me feel ugly
coolheadal Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Ok il ask her question and see what she says. Man this makes me feel ugly Word of caution here, do you really want to ask her that question. Didn't you say she had Ex BF prior to you who didn't post to her wall on Facebook. All you did is posted a simple comment take me with love. She got bent-over-shape on that. Doesn't that leave a question in your mind why she did that? It's like you gone too far with her. But how so? Doesn't she love you after 3 months, maybe the Ex-BF on her friends list still. So many question unanswered here..
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 I had an instance once where my gi4lfri3nd had posted a status saying she had spare ticket to an event. People commented on it. I did also. I wrote " take me ♡". She didnt seem happy with my comment and then i said what did i do wrong. She then said that her ex never wrote love hearts or cheesey things like that on her wall. She then made a comment about how one of her fri3nds saw my comment. I got upset and felt insecure so deleted her off facebook as a friend. We were facebook friends thats how we met. She said i was childish and that her fri3nd thought i was childish for deleting her off facebook Word of caution here, do you really want to ask her that question. Didn't you say she had Ex BF prior to you who didn't post to her wall on Facebook. All you did is posted a simple comment take me with love. She got bent-over-shape on that. Doesn't that leave a question in your mind why she did that? It's like you gone too far with her. But how so? Doesn't she love you after 3 months, maybe the Ex-BF on her friends list still. So many question unanswered here.. Fred123 Please clarify. I thought a different girl, not this new one, reacted poorly to your request for the concert ticket. If it was this one, don't even bother talking to her. She's not into you. Stop wasting your time. Go date someone who isn't mean. 1
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Are you officially dating? and for how long? are you exclusive? If not than it's normal she doesn't want you to post hearts on her wall. You are not together. When I met bf It took me 6 months to change my status on FB. 3
normal person Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 What do you guys think about if the girl you are dating wont put anything up on here? I'd say she's a keeper. Is it a reason to freak out? I don't understand why people think it would be. Want to know reasons why people hide you on social media and when ahould you expect your partner or the girl you are seeing to.mention you on there? What's the point of posting things that are of no benefit to anyone else? For example: pictures of you. Ask yourself why you feel compelled to do this and why you get upset if someone won't post a picture of/with you. It's not like your posting an interesting article or something that will enrich peoples' lives somehow. You, for some reason, just want people to look at you. Maybe some people are more cognizant of the arrogance and futility of that and don't want to take part. Every guy wants the girl they like to introduce them and show them off on social media? God, no. I used to be with a girl who always wanted to post pictures and stuff and got mad when I didn't want to. I don't like shoving my personal life in other peoples' faces for no reason. It's selfish, arrogant, useless, and serves no good purpose. Thankfully I'm noticing a trend of a lot of women these days limiting or eliminating their social media presences. Shouldnt she be the one wanting a picture of us as she is the girl? Not if she doesn't think there's any reason to. Which, let's be honest, there isn't. 1
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Posted June 14, 2017 Word of caution here, do you really want to ask her that question. Didn't you say she had Ex BF prior to you who didn't post to her wall on Facebook. All you did is posted a simple comment take me with love. She got bent-over-shape on that. Doesn't that leave a question in your mind why she did that? It's like you gone too far with her. But how so? Doesn't she love you after 3 months, maybe the Ex-BF on her friends list still. So many question unanswered here.. Well she said she is love with me. Been 7 months. Official for 2. She had a best fri3nds barbecue last week. Was neevr invited
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 You have been dating for 7 months & official for 2 (whatever that means) & she has said she loves you but you haven't met any friends or family? That is a giant problem. Her behavior says she is not into you. You may want to seriously rethink this relationship. 3
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