coolheadal Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Well she said she is love with me. Been 7 months. Official for 2. She had a best fri3nds barbecue last week. Was neevr invited I see you 7 officially but dating for 2 months. You see what I mean about her! You can't go to the BBQ, because of what excuse did she give you? She didn't want her friends to see you together. Sounds like there is another guy. Watch-it you do not want get played and also get your feelings hurt by this one. I say move on find someone else. Please don't settle for just anyone today.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 If someone is actively posting on social media and doesn't ever mention you or allow you to tag her, she is hiding you. Move on. Also, why do you spell friends with a "3" in the middle? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 So this is all about the same girl right? the one that said yesterday she does not want to hold your hand in public? the same one who said last march she didn't want to commit and only wanted your company as friends? The same one that said she is afraid of commitment ... You are wasting your precious time with this woman. Dating this woman is the same as dating a wild deer. Always having to approach her with an apple, making sure you're not walking on a branch and scare her, never being able to approach her family and friends, .... C'mon, enough of this. Stop being treated like the day before newspaper. End this none sense and find yourself a fun girl who wants to date you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 I despise social media for personal purposes. I could be head over hills and still will never mention anything about the guy on social media. If I get married I won't ever post wedding photos on my fb. It is just not my thing. So if the girl that you're dfating is my type - nothing to worry about. What do you guys think about if the girl you are dating wont put anything up on here? Is it a reason to freak out? Want to know reasons why people hide you on social media and when ahould you expect your partner or the girl you are seeing to.mention you on there? Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 So this is all about the same girl right? the one that said yesterday she does not want to hold your hand in public? the same one who said last march she didn't want to commit and only wanted your company as friends? The same one that said she is afraid of commitment ... You are wasting your precious time with this woman. Dating this woman is the same as dating a wild deer. Always having to approach her with an apple, making sure you're not walking on a branch and scare her, never being able to approach her family and friends, .... C'mon, enough of this. Stop being treated like the day before newspaper. End this none sense and find yourself a fun girl who wants to date you. Wat u mean a wild deer? Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 (edited) OP, this is more of an overarching comment relating to your threads in general, but it is very much on-topic as it does apply to this situation. You post threads such as these a lot, where you just met/started dating someone and the girl in question just doesn't seem to be valuing you and your relationship. Why do you put up with it. A guy who has a handle on his dating life won't stay in a relationship that feels unsatisfying to him. See he knows that he can find someone who WILL treat him as he wants to be treated, and regardless of that, he also knows that it is better being alone than being in a bad relationship. Edited June 14, 2017 by Imajerk17 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 Im all about giving women a chance and respecting them. With regardw to the barbecue she didnt give me an excuse. She just said that she is at her best friends barbecue. I said sounds nice! ( but inside i was hurt hoping she would have invited me). Maybe i should have invited myself? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Im all about giving women a chance and respecting them. With regardw to the barbecue she didnt give me an excuse. She just said that she is at her best friends barbecue. I said sounds nice! ( but inside i was hurt hoping she would have invited me). Maybe i should have invited myself? After 7 months it's not called giving a chance anymore, it's called being YOU being a door-mat sorry for being frank. You give a chance to a woman very early on when you start dating like on the 1st and 2nd month as you don't know yet each other but after 3 months dating you stop giving those silly chances. At some point you need to be a man and recognize she is wasting your time. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Giving somebody a chance is 7 weeks, not 7 months. No you should not have invited yourself over to your GF's BFF's house. That wasn't your place. If this woman won't introduce you to her circle, won't hold your hand because it's too much of a commitment & won't post on social media with or about you need to face the reality that she is stringing you along, and does not care about you the way you care about her. You can continue to let her hurt you or you can end this. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Wat u mean a wild deer? It's a comparison. You cannot act yourself in fear to scare her away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 Giving somebody a chance is 7 weeks, not 7 months. No you should not have invited yourself over to your GF's BFF's house. That wasn't your place. If this woman won't introduce you to her circle, won't hold your hand because it's too much of a commitment & won't post on social media with or about you need to face the reality that she is stringing you along, and does not care about you the way you care about her. You can continue to let her hurt you or you can end this. Its possible its too early for her and i cant scare her away. She has been hurt in the past as most people have. She is being cautious. Surely i have to be understanding and not force things? Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Its possible its too early for her and i cant scare her away. She has been hurt in the past as most people have. She is being cautious. Surely i have to be understanding and not force things? If you want to continue the relationship, then continue the relationship. But what's the point of coming here to raise issues concerning her if you're only going to argue with those of us who agree that, yeah, they're issues? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Its possible its too early for her and i cant scare her away. She has been hurt in the past as most people have. She is being cautious. Surely i have to be understanding and not force things? No. 7 weeks is cautious. 7 months . . nobody is that cautious. You have been understanding. It's gotten you nowhere. You are one half of this relationship. You are allowed to have your needs met. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Its possible its too early for her and i cant scare her away. NO. If she is not ready than she has no business dating and on top of that dating you exclusively. It's called misleading someone. She has been hurt in the past as most people have. She is being cautious. Surely i have to be understanding and not force things? We ALL have been hurt in the past. The thing to do is to recover from it then go back to dating. Not try to get over being hurt by taking advantage of a poor dude like you. Question: What is she getting out of dating you? Do you pay for all of your dates? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 I read your history and my mind is blown away. *She told you to your face she is not over her ex *She does not want her co-workers to know about you *She does not her want her family and friends to know about you *She enjoys her boss slapping her bum *She does not want you to post on her FB wall Are you sure you are dating her? I don't think she is dating you!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 NO. If she is not ready than she has no business dating and on top of that dating you exclusively. It's called misleading someone. We ALL have been hurt in the past. The thing to do is to recover from it then go back to dating. Not try to get over being hurt by taking advantage of a poor dude like you. Question: What is she getting out of dating you? Do you pay for all of your dates? I pay for a lot. We both live with our parents so we get a hotel room once a week and stay the night together. ( makes me so happy i get to wake upnext to the most gorgeous girl in the world!) . I pay and book the hotels. She neevr has once booked or paid for it or even suggested to book one for us. She doesnt like to go into london for dinners as she said she doewnt want to travel too far and she is broke a lot. But she did book a holiday with her friends a few months ago to america for august. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 I read your history and my mind is blown away. *She told you to your face she is not over her ex *She does not want her co-workers to know about you *She does not her want her family and friends to know about you *She enjoys her boss slapping her bum *She does not want you to post on her FB wall Are you sure you are dating her? I don't think she is dating you!! Yes she said we are dating and yes to me being my gi4lfriend. She sleeps with me. I have held her hand once. She lets me sit next to her in the gym. She even spent valentine with me! Can u believe she said yes to valentines?! And she wasnt even my gf then we were just seeing each other so that was a bonus for me! Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 Yes she said we are dating and yes to me being my gi4lfriend. She sleeps with me. I have held her hand once. She lets me sit next to her in the gym. She even spent valentine with me! Can u believe she said yes to valentines?! And she wasnt even my gf then we were just seeing each other so that was a bonus for me! Fred: You need a cold shower to wake up to reality. She is using you for your wallet and to get laid once a week. Nothing more. She can say to you she's your girlfriend but her actions show she is NOT. You are the only one thinking it's normal. Everyone's here think it's not. What do your friends say to you about her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 Fred: You need a cold shower to wake up to reality. She is using you for your wallet and to get laid once a week. Nothing more. She can say to you she's your girlfriend but her actions show she is NOT. You are the only one thinking it's normal. Everyone's here think it's not. What do your friends say to you about her? My friends are nice people. She was invited to a birthday of one but said she was tired and then said she is awkward around people so didnt force her to go. They want to meet her. One of my friends who i go cineam with every week or so always asks me to ask her to join but she always says no. She said she doesnt like cinema so i stopped asking. I say really nice things about her. She makes me happy they all know that. I say to them she is a great girl etc. Im a good boyfriend and a good guy. I dont see what iv done wrong. Im always respectful of womens choices. Isnt that what a guy should be? Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 This whole situation is sad. You see her once a week, to do so you need to buy a hotel room. Meanwhile she won't meet your friends and will hardly invite you to meet hers. After 7 months. fred123, you wrote another thread about whether you should seek advice from a dating coach. Corey Wayne I think. Well, any dating coach worth his/her salt would tell you that the problem is that you desperately need to get some backbone. Just as we are saying here, except we aren't going to charge you 99.95USD for that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 What do your friends say about her saying no all the time? Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted June 14, 2017 Author Share Posted June 14, 2017 I dont think she use me for my wallet. Im not rich in any way. I make more than her. She does contribute to the odd stuff here and there. My fri3nds think she isnt that into me and that her excuses are all bull**** but i understand her. Im trying to pressure her and hold back. Only ask her to meet once a week and not ask to do like really romantic couple stuff. I dont want to push her away and she get angry with me. Yh of course i want to do all these things but corey wayne said you have to let them come to.you. She said her friends know about me and her parents. I have been to her house once and met her brother he was there. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2017 Share Posted June 14, 2017 I dont think she use me for my wallet. Im not rich in any way. I make more than her. She does contribute to the odd stuff here and there. My fri3nds think she isnt that into me and that her excuses are all bull**** but i understand her. Im trying to pressure her and hold back. Only ask her to meet once a week and not ask to do like really romantic couple stuff. I dont want to push her away and she get angry with me. Yh of course i want to do all these things but corey wayne said you have to let them come to.you. She said her friends know about me and her parents. I have been to her house once and met her brother he was there. Corey waynes talkes about at the very beginning when you meet not after 7 months dating. Your friends all think she is full of BS. We all think she is full of BS. Good luck with that. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I dont think she use me for my wallet. Im not rich in any way. I make more than her. She does contribute to the odd stuff here and there. My fri3nds think she isnt that into me and that her excuses are all bull**** but i understand her. Im trying to pressure her and hold back. Only ask her to meet once a week and not ask to do like really romantic couple stuff. I dont want to push her away and she get angry with me. Yh of course i want to do all these things but corey wayne said you have to let them come to.you. She said her friends know about me and her parents. I have been to her house once and met her brother he was there. I see we're all still at this with you. Sum this all up now is that your deeply involved with her. You truly love her no matter what we all advise here. Your the one that has to make the final call. You have choose your true heart. Well good luck you meet her once a week and stay in hotel. Funny she wan't drive into London, UK? What's up with that mate? I am sure you pay for that too as you should. It's your money and it's your life I wish you the best with her. But don't let love cloud your mind, it can if you let it. Make sure your really happy with her. Don't worry about the money because money can't buy you happiness it can only drive you insane. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheTraveler Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 What does clandestine mean? How do you know if you are being played? Every guy wants the girl they like to introduce them and show them off on social media? When do you get to a point when you have to start asking whether you are being played? 3 month mark? After how many dates? I don't. I do not show off any females on my social media unless i'm in a serious relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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