d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 fred123 We have been over this. Your EX-GF was not in love with you. She was lying to you. She slept with you in secret because she wanted her ego stroked. She refused to let you post pictures on social media or be see in public with you because she was hiding your interactions & she didn't want people to know you two were together in any sense. I thought you had been making some progress toward getting over her. You were starting to get angry. In the future you have to look out for yourself. If a woman disrespects you by hiding you & not celebrating your relationship for all to see, walk away. You don't need to announcing exclusivity or even using the words BF/GF after the first few dates but posting a picture of the two of you on social media with no labels should be just fine. Holding hands in public. Some light PDA are all fine. Keeping everything on the downlow is a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted July 31, 2017 Author Share Posted July 31, 2017 Don't seek validation in future by putting such significance on a girl meeting your mate Larry. Or by stressing over whether or not you are "facebook official". Capeesh? Yes i get that thanx. Just didnt answer my question whether it was a contradiction or not 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted July 31, 2017 Author Share Posted July 31, 2017 fred123 We have been over this. Your EX-GF was not in love with you. She was lying to you. She slept with you in secret because she wanted her ego stroked. She refused to let you post pictures on social media or be see in public with you because she was hiding your interactions & she didn't want people to know you two were together in any sense. I thought you had been making some progress toward getting over her. You were starting to get angry. In the future you have to look out for yourself. If a woman disrespects you by hiding you & not celebrating your relationship for all to see, walk away. You don't need to announcing exclusivity or even using the words BF/GF after the first few dates but posting a picture of the two of you on social media with no labels should be just fine. Holding hands in public. Some light PDA are all fine. Keeping everything on the downlow is a problem. I know was a generic question x Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted August 21, 2017 Author Share Posted August 21, 2017 Example. Lets look at social media. This day and age yes it is important. But what do you do when the person you are dating doesnt want your rship or pics etc on facebook as they are a private person so they tell you. What about for example meeting your dating partners family. What if they say its too early to meeet myfamily i only do it when im ready and known you for x amount of time. How do you know that its lies you have been given? What if they do love facebook and like showing pics of their bf and meeting their family? But its just not you they are sure about. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 Fred, we've been through this many times with you. Did we not answer your questions adequately in the past? What more are you hoping to achieve by asking it again? It would appear you issues with anxiety or obsessive thinking patterns? If so, what help are you getting? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 You need to get off social media. Its clear from your other threads, that social media cause you a great deal of anxiety and at times outright fear. Just give it up. Its not worth the discomfort it causes you. As regards meeting family: there's a right time for that, and it varies from person to person. Not meaning to be harsh, but your problem is your tendency to anxiety, and thats what you need to deal with. Take care. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 (edited) How long have you been seeing her/him? Does he/she spend much time with you? Does he take you out in public for dates? Do you know much about his/her life? Where he/she lives and where he/she works? Example. Lets look at social media. This day and age yes it is important. But what do you do when the person you are dating doesnt want your rship or pics etc on facebook as they are a private person so they tell you. What about for example meeting your dating partners family. What if they say its too early to meeet myfamily i only do it when im ready and known you for x amount of time. How do you know that its lies you have been given? What if they do love facebook and like showing pics of their bf and meeting their family? But its just not you they are sure about. Smells fishy. Sounds to me like a person not fully committed or hiding the other. If a person uses social media and puts up pics why would they not want to put up pictures of you together or your relationship? Similarly, why wouldn't they introduce you to family just because some arbitrary amount of time hasn't passed? Edited August 22, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted August 31, 2017 Author Share Posted August 31, 2017 Why do i feel the need to know from her if it ever was real?!! The mornings we used to wake up. Her morning kisses before she left for work. Her cuddles. Her smiles when i called her honey. Why do i need to know if it was all real? I want it to have been real and meant somthing Link to post Share on other sites
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